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Evicted from flat and currently living in my car

SystemSystem Posts: 519

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This discussion was created from comments split from: Hi, my name is AnaMansfield!.

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  • AnaMansfieldAnaMansfield Member Posts: 3 Listener
    Hiya. I'm in a big big pickle at this time, but because there are good people around, I'm trying to hold on to the tiniest hope.
    I was evicted from the flat I lived for 6 years. And despite my hardest efforts, I wasn't able to find a new one because I am on housing benefit and have no guarantor. Because I am vulnerable the council won't house me into emergency accomodation because of my therapy dog. I had to chose between a roof over my head by myself, or living in my car with her. You can guess that I choose my dog. My husband passed away after 10 years of being very ill. We had to sell all we had, our kids grew up and moved around the world. All I have left is my dog. She is the reason I am still alive. I suffer from PTSD (my first husband was an alcoholic and very violent, he tried to kill me several times, he once throw me out of a first floor window, so I have a very bad back, right shoulder and deminuish use of my right arm), bad back and right arm and shoulder, very bad asthma, I had 2 strokes, bereavement depression. And God knows what else. Since my husband died, everything has been a struggle. And now I find myself, at 55, sleeping in my car, eating at homeless soup centers and having a shower a week at the salvation army. Thank God for all these wonderful people, who care about people like us. But it never crossed my mind to be in this situation at my age. Never in my wildest dreams. I'm not telling my kids how bad this is because they are struggling themselves and I don't want to be a burden. They are not yet residents in the countries they choose to live, they have spouses and children themselves. I was always a very strong person. Running away with my kids at 30 years old and live hidding from my ex husband for 6 years was very hard, but I did it for my kids. At 42 have my brilliant second husband with liver failure and a 2 month life expectancy, was very hard, but I was strong enough to do anything to make him go throughout everything he did, still end up raising my 2 youngest, and finally sell everything we had and move here where the amazing NHS managed to keep him alive for 9,5 years instead of 2 months. It was worth everything. Now, if it wasn't for my dog, I would have let go and meet him up there forever. But amazing people are telling me to hold on, there has to be a way that I can still have a life, besides all my physical and emotional pains and aches. And so I am, holding on by the skin of my teeth. And now, here I am emptying my heart to you all, if even to just make sure I'm doing the right thing.
    Thank you for listening/reading. God bless you all!
    Ana
  • Pippa_AlumniPippa_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 5,851 Disability Gamechanger
    Thank you for sharing this with us, @AnaMansfield. It sounds as though things have been really difficult for you and I'm so sorry to hear of the trauma you've been through and the situation you're in now. 

    Given your current circumstances, I wonder if you're able to give the Scope helpline a ring and talk to one of our advisors? We have a lovely team who may be able to offer some support and guidance for you and your circumstances. You can contact them on 0808 800 3333 or at [email protected] What do you think? Please do keep us updated, and wishing you all the best. 
  • Jean_OTJean_OT Member Posts: 528 Pioneering

    Hi @AnaMansfield

    Sorry to hear of your current housing situation, things sound very challenging indeed.

    I would like to suggest that you get emergency specialist housing advice:

    Shelter 0808 274 1338 (8am to 8pm weekdays and 9am to 5pm weekends).

    If your dog is a registered assistance dog it is not lawful (Equality Act 2010) for housing providers to discriminate against you because of the dog. If however the dog is not registered then you don't have the legal protection and unfortunately s/he is going to be viewed the same as any other pet. Obviously living in a car isn't ideal for your dog either, The Dogs Trust offer support to homeless dog owners: https://www.moretodogstrust.org.uk/help-with-finding-accommodation/dog-friendly-hostels  

    I really hope you are able to get some safe and suitable housing sorted soon,

    Best Wishes

    Jean

    Jean Merrilees BSc MRCOT

    You can read more of my posts at: https://community.scope.org.uk/categories/ask-an-occupational-therapist

  • susan48susan48 Member Posts: 2,229 Disability Gamechanger
    My heart goes out to you and I understand how your beloved dog is the reason for living.

    youv been so strong throughout what you’v already been through

    please take care
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