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My relative with CP is lonely

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edited October 2018 in Cerebral palsy
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  • AustinS
    AustinS Member Posts: 2 Listener
    Hi guys and thanks for the warm welcome. Hope you all had a good day. I'll start with a few general comments. My relative is in his 30s and has cerebral palsy. He is a friendly person who likes company, loves sport, live music, going for walks, chatting about things and so on. He is pretty intelligent and no fool. He lives independently and has a job.

    His main problem is loneliness. He lives on his own, and while he has work colleagues, family living nearby and a few friendly acquaintances, he doesn't really have any close friends. I really want to help him meet some people that he can do things with and feel he has some kind of a social circle.

    I know this won't be an easy task. It can be difficult for people to make friends at the best of times. Personally my feeling is that looking for friendships with other people with disabilities is a good place to start. It's not that I don't want him to have friends who don't have disabilities - far from it - but I just feel it is more realistic. I hope that doesn't sound unkind or prejudiced. I know there's no easy way to find friends for a person, but if any of you have any ideas, I'd be very happy to hear them.
  • Richard_Scope
    Richard_Scope Posts: 3,103

    Scope community team

    Hi @AustinS
    Thanks for your post. I'm saddened to read about your relative's loneliness. It is an increasingly common issue. Have you spoken to him about this community? 

    Also, have you heard of Outsiders?  

    I heard some very positive things about the peer support that people have been able to get from attending their events etc 

    Keep in touch.


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  • WilliamWalker
    WilliamWalker Member Posts: 9 Listener
    How you talked with your relative about this or has he talked to you about it? I have cerebral palsy, I have one friend, I don't go out or have a job, I go to my therapist and see my nephew once a week. I am in my mid 20's and live with my parents. So your relative is doing very well so that is something for him to feel proud of. I would say you talking with him about how he feels, showing you care about him and take an interest in him, will help him feel less lonely. So that is what you can do yourself. Then he can do the rest and you can help if he needs it. Don't worry about coming around as unkind or prejudice, just tell him the truth about how you feel and why you feel that way. He will understand and feel emotionally valued that you aren't trying to disregard his disability. 

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