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Difficult or is it me?
woodbine
Member Posts: 2,089 Disability Gamechanger
Is it just me or are some members of this forum really difficult to deal with? I try my hardest to be tolerant and respectful to others but sometimes I feel as though I don't get that back. I honestly don't know, some people seem to be so easily "offended" I sometimes feel like I'm walking a tightrope.
Maybe everything's just "getting" to me, and if I have unwittingly offended anyone I am genuinely sorry.
Perhaps the situation we all find ourselves in is shortening my fuse? If that's the case then perhaps I should step away from Scope for a breather?
John x
Maybe everything's just "getting" to me, and if I have unwittingly offended anyone I am genuinely sorry.
Perhaps the situation we all find ourselves in is shortening my fuse? If that's the case then perhaps I should step away from Scope for a breather?
John x
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Now I reply to offer encouragement if I can and simply turn a blind to any negative comments! I just don't bother to reply to people if they forget to be nice!
Understand your frustration at times and dont think either if you should leave
The trouble is some people just dont like what we say even though it's the right advice and they read the tone of the message incorrectly
You both are valued on here by more people than you know and shouldn't let the few bad eggs put you off or stop helping so many others
I know it's a thankless task sometimes when you devote so much of your own time
Some people ask the same questions in many different ways which then makes you feel your advice has been disregarded
I think admin need to be a bit closer to this and people making attacks should be removed
Please dont give up
As others have said, it's just the nature of this particular forum subject that will mean some of the members get easily offended or take things in the wrong way. I spend most of my life on another forum but am much more careful about anything I post on here!
What does amuse me is that it generally seems to be the more erm 'experienced' members taking offense, rather than those of us that get generically branded as millennial snowflakes in the media!
Personally I think you need to have a thick skin to post on any online forum, this one is no exception although it is milder than most I have been on.
I have been offended by this forum myself - and not by the people who you’d think but just people posting innocently - but I choose not to rise to it.
Just by its nature it will attract many different people from many different backgrounds with many different opinions and attitudes to life and these are likely to clash in some form or another. I have been offended by content on this forum in the past but prefer not to rise to it.
Like you @OverlyAnxious I tend to be careful with what I post on here as this forum is a bit more “left” (can’t think of a better word to describe it) than most forums I post on so I tend to restrain what I say but I apologise if I have offended anyone in the past.
How are you? I am really sorry that you feel as though you need to take a step away, I would urge you not too. You are both brilliant and the advice that you give is informative and I find, always well communicated. It can be difficult, sometimes people don't always want to hear what the advice is and depending on their individual situation may react in a way that is not appropriate. I know I shared here on the community that I wanted to join the army but due to my disability I can't. A fellow member informed me that I couldn't, not because I was disabled, but because I am women. I chose to ignore this because, women do serve in the Armed Forces, so I suppose sometimes it's also about people's understanding and knowledge of facts and then what is opinion. I hope that this makes sense and though you must do what is right for you, I would strongly encourage you to stay, you are such valued members of the community. I would also like to take this opportunity to apologies for any offence I may have caused, I genuinely, like most on here, would not have meant for this. We are all different and that's a good thing, but we must respect each other and look out for each other, now so more than ever. Thank you.
I sometimes think some people cry foul or take a dive as it were...
It's a very good natured forum compared to most if not all others, but that shouldn't mean you cant say Boo to a goose...
That made sense in my head, possibly not written down!
Poppy should be on the honours list...seriously!!
Anyway...best wishes to all...
This is the first one thsts been like this yes people clash but to constantly have a go or constantly correcting people oh I dont know I am at a loss
So while yes you have the right to your say maybe you should think more first and follow the guidelines and advice posted today by admin
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I have added these individuals to my "Ignore List" (The Ignore List is an option for all members which is included in their Profile options list) The means that I no longer see their posts when i log into the Scope forums
And again from my perspective it reduces the disability discrimination.
In more recent times I only visit Scope once a week or may be once a month to see if their are any threads that catch my interest, such is the high level of stress some can cause by their lack of understanding.
I'm slightly taken aback by your post @dolfrog to the extent I'm wondering if we're reading the same forum...but that is exactly your point I suppose...people have vastly different sensitivities.
I just cannot get upset by anything a stranger says on an internet forum.
And as far as forums go, I find this one very good natured on the whole, we are only human after all...and the moderation of the site is very good I find.
Best wishes.🙂
I havent been on here long but I have made friends with people I will miss rawarrior very much the conversations we had the photos that were posted
We are in terrible times at the moment and I think even though we don't want to admit it we are scared we are worried and some of us don't go out or see anyone and this forum is some people's life line
Conversations about corona virus do get heated and people do get angry there is a corona virus wales group and some of the rubish people post is unbelievable there aren't any moderators to stop prople what they are saying I pop on and off it because that does affect you when for example a few weeks ago a man posted that his wife and daughter had passed away with corona virus some one then replied that it was a load of rubbish that corona virus didnt exit that people weren't dying and that the man was just saying it
In London not long ago prople with no masks marching through the streets saying corona virus doesnt exist so I understand when people get upset I had corona virus in March then got it again in July
I have my opinions what should be done to stop such high cases but I keep them to myself because I know people wouldn't like it a job I used to do 25 years ago has given me the knowledge to understand disease
Control and the direction its going in
Some conversations we have on here is going to upset some people and if we do upset someone even if we don't think we have is just to say sorry and move on from it so that it doesn't escalate as we have seen happen
I love being on here I love the conversations I love the games on here I get that wrong I play all the games and some you start from end of last word some alphabetical and so on and people have corrected me which doesn't bother me but could bother someone else
We are here to help each other and suport each other wether we were in a corona virus situation or not if some one is wrong they are wrong just correct it underneath the wrong comment I made mistakes because I was answering a question about what I thought was something else because I couldnt see the other post becsuse I was over lapping I think that was what one of the members explaind to me
So let's all try to get on as best as we can and if someone is wrong and we font like it it's easier just to not comment or private message someone and explain why thst person is wrong do thst it doesn't turn into an argument and members dint divide
So I decided to remain a member of Scope so that others who may have my disability would have access my research based information. However I never overcame the disability discrimination i experienced from some others who were part of that thread and many previous threads. So they are now part of my Ignore List, so that I do not see any more ignorance and discrimination, and when i visit the scope forums I avoid the groups they mainly comment in.
As you say we are all human and all very different, but some do not wish to understand these differences, and the different life experiences some may have had.
I do have an other social media group I run regarding my disability which for me is a safer environment.
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