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Do you find Christmas tough?

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Biblioklept
Biblioklept Community member Posts: 4,731 Disability Gamechanger
I've always found Christmas quite hard because of the change to routine, how busy places are and the general pressure of it all. Now I'm an adult and can do it my own way I still find it quite difficult.

Does Christmas impact you negatively and how do you protect against it?? 

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  • Hannah_Alumni
    Hannah_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,912 Disability Gamechanger
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    This is very interesting. I don't think we talk enough about how Christmas can change your routine. We have a separate one just for Christmas!

    I just try to keep as organised as possible. I tend to take time out of my self-care to sort out Christmas stuff, so I have to remember to book ahead for a hair appointment or remember to order a nice face mask as the winter can be quite harsh on my skin.
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  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 52,714 Disability Gamechanger
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    I think the key is too start early and finish when everyone else is running around 
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Community member Posts: 21,964 Disability Gamechanger
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    I do enjoy Christmas and the build up but I do find it  it tough . It is our family tradition to go to mums on Xmas day but her house is not easily accessible for me now (have to be carried in ) and toilet upstairs (have to crawl up ) this really puts me out of my comfort zone and I get anxious prior . Before I Mey my bf my brother used to come and get me but that involved having to stay over few nights 

    I have suggested family come to me boxing day instead but doesn't ever happen.  I'm not ungrateful but the family won't change to accommodate my needs 

    I've stopped going Xmas day and arrange to meet family for a meal at an accessible place at sometime over the week . I spend the day with toby and my bf 

    But all change this year and going away the 3 of us avoid it all and do what suits us 
  • mmoo60
    mmoo60 Community member Posts: 32 Connected
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    It's only for families.
    Sad for those that havn't, or no longer in contact.
  • Biblioklept
    Biblioklept Community member Posts: 4,731 Disability Gamechanger
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    mmoo60 said:
    It's only for families.
    Sad for those that havn't, or no longer in contact.
    I think that's what often tinges Christmas with sadness for me too, as it can feel like you're the only one not with family etc


  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 7,983 Disability Gamechanger
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    That sounds really upsetting @Biblioklept. Does anything, in particular, help it to feel more manageable at this time of year?  <3
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  • mmoo60
    mmoo60 Community member Posts: 32 Connected
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    Sorry guys.. totally new in here. Finding my way around 🤔
    Thanks for replying to my answer, yes agreed, more thought should be given to this.
    I Netflix through.. (ie. no tv ads) 
    ..with my furry friends.
    then plan Jan 1st resolutions lol
    Take care xx
  • SueHeath
    SueHeath Community member Posts: 12,420 Disability Gamechanger
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    Hi @mmoo60 great to see you getting around the site, 
  • SueHeath
    SueHeath Community member Posts: 12,420 Disability Gamechanger
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    Hi @Oldcarsforme sorry to hear that - i hope your okay, are you on your own at Christmas ? 
  • SueHeath
    SueHeath Community member Posts: 12,420 Disability Gamechanger
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    Doesn't sound like your very happy with things at the moment @Oldcarsforme
  • SueHeath
    SueHeath Community member Posts: 12,420 Disability Gamechanger
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    Oh bless so sorry to hear that @Oldcarsforme is there any think you can do about it ?
  • SueHeath
    SueHeath Community member Posts: 12,420 Disability Gamechanger
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    I am sorry to hear this @Oldcarsforme everyone deserves to be happy. 
  • leeCal
    leeCal Community member Posts: 7,550 Disability Gamechanger
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    Happiness comes from within in my opinion. The locus of control is your own mind. I think The idea of deserving to be happy is a first world issue, research has shown that some of the most isolated tribes with little or no modern appliances or technology are the happiest on earth. 

    “This is my simple religion. No need for temples. No need for complicated philosophy. Your own mind, your own heart is the temple. Your philosophy is simple kindness.” 
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  • Adrian_Scope
    Adrian_Scope Posts: 11,145 Scope online community team
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    janer1967 said:
    I do enjoy Christmas and the build up but I do find it  it tough . It is our family tradition to go to mums on Xmas day but her house is not easily accessible for me now (have to be carried in ) and toilet upstairs (have to crawl up ) this really puts me out of my comfort zone and I get anxious prior . Before I Mey my bf my brother used to come and get me but that involved having to stay over few nights 

    I have suggested family come to me boxing day instead but doesn't ever happen.  I'm not ungrateful but the family won't change to accommodate my needs 

    I've stopped going Xmas day and arrange to meet family for a meal at an accessible place at sometime over the week . I spend the day with toby and my bf 

    But all change this year and going away the 3 of us avoid it all and do what suits us 
    I know this was posted a little while ago but I've just seen it and wanted to say how sorry I am that your family aren't more accommodating. I know people like to hold tightly to traditions but I can't imagine not making a small change such as location so that everyone can be together. 

    I hope you, your son and bf enjoy your time away. I've considered going away for Christmas for the past few years and never taken the plunge. Is it your first time doing it?
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  • durhamjaide2001
    durhamjaide2001 Community Co-Production Group, Scope Member Posts: 10,951 Disability Gamechanger
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    Sometimes I struggle with the food around this time of year as I have to be careful what I eat because of health reasons. 
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Community member Posts: 21,964 Disability Gamechanger
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    @Adrian_Scope it is the first time I have been abroad for Xmas always wanted to 

    In fact it's first time I have been abroad since becoming disabled but my bf late wife was disabled and they travelled a lot so he is familiar with the process 

    Don't get me wrong my family support me where they can but they don't live close but yes are very stuck in tradition at Xmas 🎄 


  • durhamjaide2001
    durhamjaide2001 Community Co-Production Group, Scope Member Posts: 10,951 Disability Gamechanger
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    Another thing I find tough about Christmas is gifts because without being learnt I would just say I don't like it because of my autism but now my family have told me to not say anything if I don't like something. 
  • Alex_Alumni
    Alex_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,562 Disability Gamechanger
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    I hope you both have a wonderful time @janer1967 it sounds exciting :) 

    And it's not easy when we can't share how we truly feel about something @durhamjaide2001, I suppose your family are worried about feelings being hurt perhaps. Have you spoken to them about the sorts of gifts you do like?
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