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  • thespiceman
    thespiceman Community member Posts: 6,388 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @Ami2301 Thank you for reply, I understand situation with your disability and lifestyle.  I most admire your courage and strength to try coping with everything.

    I see from reading about yourself you what to be independent not hold back and give a go at new things.  I like that.

    I believe every body has a skill or talent that does not only their well being good but can educate and use their knowledge to benefit others.

    My skill is to make people aware of how to create healthy meals on a budget.  Using herbs, spices.

    I know you have done well so far since we last talked.  Very aware of yourself still take small steps.

    I do wonder if there are utensils out there that you could use.  I have to find out for you if you wish, do not mind.  It is good that have baking and have tried other recipes.

    Yes I am sorry about your problems with food, I thank you for sharing.  I acknowledge that it is difficult to say our problems or issues out in the forum.

    It is never easy ,i understand the issues.  Having an addiction history related to alcohol mainly, started drinking not really eating.

    Dropped down to seven stone nearly had to go in hospital because of this.

    I have recovered of course but the memory lingers.

    By way buying a camera for using to help you deal with life .  I say why not any thing to support you and make your disability much easier.

    There must be other equipment and solutions to assist you to cope.

    I know on this website there are advisors might be worth a chat.  Plus our forum members come up with solutions.

    I am myself always looking for easy, quick fix solutions to make my life simple.

    You like drawing the helps you I assume, mentally.  I used to draw and paint relaxation for me.  Unfortunately much of my life spent battling people who seem bent on my destruction of my happiness.

    Did painting courses but ran into people who were competitive painters all the time making unfair critical of my work.

    Did not want me there only disabled person attitudes all wrong to me. stopped going.

    So I have an interest in Art.  Especially Italian Art.

    Talking of TV I suppose that is struggle for you not easy.  I will admit like doing this talking on line.

    Nothing on any way I use TV for educate learning but very limited for me as well.

    Get disturbed mentally by a lot of TV content.  At the moment Winter Olympics are on bored me silly, what is the point.

    I get more happiness talking to my friends like you here.

    Hope keep safe have a pleasant evening, speak to soon.

    Take care.
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  • JennysDad
    JennysDad Community member Posts: 2,299 Disability Gamechanger
    Just saying Hi @janejr, @thespiceman and @Ami2301 Have been absent all day, but have enjoyed reading your posts on here. Hopefully I will catch up with everybody soon :)
    Warmest best wishes, always,
    Richard

  • thespiceman
    thespiceman Community member Posts: 6,388 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @RichardVR Thank you for kind words.  Hope you OK . Great , good speak to you when you are free.

    Lots to talk about as always.

    Have a nice day 

    Take care
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  • Ami2301
    Ami2301 Community member Posts: 7,942 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @thespiceman

    Please forgive me for delayed reply, had a bad nights sleep so have been napping most of the day.

    Thank you for your lovely words. 

    I am always searching for aids/gadgets/etc to try, if you know/find any please do let me know, would really appreciate it! :)

    I also admire you for overcoming your addiction, and the way how you stay positive inspires me :)

    I would like to say a massive thank you to @janejr and both of you gentleman for your amazing support since I have joined :)

    Hello @RichardVR hope you are well! 

    Ami xxx
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  • thespiceman
    thespiceman Community member Posts: 6,388 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @Ami2301 How are you.  Thank you for reply.  Sorry you have had a bad nights sleep.  Don't worry if you do not reply.  Just when you are free.

    I have a lot of tiredness and get worse mainly at weekends.  I live each day trying to cope.  I am afraid it is the result of my addiction plus my medication.  Just being honest.  So on days at the start of the week, I have to plan for those days when not good.

    This includes simple food for the freezer, usually soup, meatballs I used to make them.  I found cheaper to buy them and make a sauce to freeze.  Nothing wrong in that.  Ragu sauce for pasta, curry sauce.  I have them done each day.

    Done most of what I have done today for freezer.  I will have left over chilli and pasta sauce.  Putting sauces and meatballs in zip bags helps me.

    I have no support now even when I had you have to rely on your senses well being plus common sense.  The system of support works best if you can possibly help yourself.  It is not easy and understandable that people get frustrated with trying to get help they need.

    That is why often long gaps between support workers.  In their eyes am OK will not really give me some support.  When they do it is limited for a time.

    If and when I ever do find any thing useful for you to use.  I will let you know.

    It is great also to have your Mother for support.

    May I ask do you think you need some support or do think you can cope.  I say that because once a while it is always useful to acknowledge I have a problem.

    Also see what help and advice is out there to still have independence, have a fulfilling life much as you can.

    I struggled myself your post when it came up I had to contact you and could identify what I am going through.

    I had to speak to some one.  I know you have the support of your mother plus all your friends here, always have that.

    I had to do this because mentally plus physically not good.  I am a proud gentleman,, asking for support is never easy.

    Thank you for my Doctor and a friend who realised I need to look how I can benefit myself in being well.

    I know reading your posts and stories you are to me remain up beat and positive.  It is how you are inside that counts. 

    I hope I can be of help ready to listen.


    I hope you take care always in my prayers
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  • JennysDad
    JennysDad Community member Posts: 2,299 Disability Gamechanger
    Just saying hi, folks, @thespiceman, @tobyrosco21, @janejr, @Victoriad, @Ami2301

    It's been a bit of an unusual week - my good lady's been taking some time off work (unusual) and has insisted that the two of us spend some of that free time together. I really don't get the point, myself :) And then I've been trying to respond to newcomers to the site, too, we seem to be getting more and more!

    So I'm losing track a bit, but things will soon be back to normal. I'm okay, the cats (Rosie and Daisy) are okay, my wife's okay, Mr Fox keeps visiting the garden and the residents of our house are all pretty much okay too.

    I hope everybody else is okay?

    I'm sorry you had a bad night, Ami, and hope you're recovering. Very interested in your comments on photography. Are you aware of the Disabled Photographer's Association http://www.the-dps.co.uk/? I haven't been in touch with them myself but I know they have been around for a long time, and I think they can help in - for example - getting adaptations to hold a camera steady on a wheelchair, and things like that. Back when it was all chemistry, I used to teach photography, and these days I use digital cameras extensively. If I can help you with any photographic/equipment issues you may have, just let me know.
    I SO admire your courage, Ami.

    Hi @thespiceman and good day to you :) Your planning and strategies amaze me. Especially, not not exclusively, your planning around food. I just can't do it. Of course, I'm not helped by the fact that our kitchen is so small that if we brought one of the guards here from Buckingham Palace he'd just assume he was on duty. But no, you are admirably organized, and clearly very much a gentleman. 

    That's a word one doesn't hear so much these days, but it is good that people like you are helping to bring it back into currency

    So, still here, still listening,
    Warmest best wishes,
    Richard


  • Ami2301
    Ami2301 Community member Posts: 7,942 Disability Gamechanger
    Good evening @thespiceman

    Hope you are having a relaxing evening. Thank you again for your kind words.

    I struggle with everything. I cannot manage on my own at all. I've been debating whether or not to be open and frank about what I struggle with, at first I was embarrassed that I could no longer do things but I've come to terms with it now so I'm not afraid to say. I drink out of a toddlers beaker due to me constantly tipping cups over because I can't grip them properly. I have to have my food cut up for me as I cannot grip cutlery properly. I also need help with toilet needs and washing. As much as I am appreciative  of my mum helping me with all these, I do sometimes wish my partner would help more, take the load off my mums shoulders. I do thank her for every single thing she does for me.

    Good evening to you too, @RichardVR

    Hope you are having a pleasant evening and thank you again for your kind words too :)

    Thank you for telling me about DPA I will read about it soon :)

    Ami xxx
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  • thespiceman
    thespiceman Community member Posts: 6,388 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @RichardVR Good evening lovely to hear you.  Well thank you for kind comments.  Funny thing just came on to forum.  Bought new CD Gladys Knight and the PIps.  Then the song came on You re The Best Thing That Has Happened To Me. 

    I think it is a suitable song to express my thanks to you and the rest of the forum ,my new friends.  Apt first line of lyric we had our ups and downs. Really good singer and the story is a sad one in the sense, sorry another music history bit here.

    Went to Motown with herself and the Pips who were all family by way.  Any way had 17 songs of which many of us are trying to find.  Never released I have several manage to find.  Did the original I heard Through The Grapevine before Marvin Gaye sang it.  It was not a success I have the version and it does not sound like Gladys at all.  Speeded up and totally different.

    Never a hit, for the label. Then Marvin got hold of it and made history with it. Motown had Diane Ross and The Supremes who were the main ladies of the label.  So they got the pick of the songs, production plus writers.  Any they did not like or were rejected went to other female groups.  

    In the end Gladys and the Pips went to Atlantic and Buddha created memorable soul tracks, upbeat and hits.  End of music history bit.


    Thank you commenting about my planning around food.  This my illness talking in my head.  I have to be organised in case I am ill, my benefit stopped in cases that has happened, plus also be aware if I am ill my friend I have no one here to help me.

    Did you read the story in the media about an old lady who was trapped in her bath for three days.  In my life had such severe illness especially colds that turn into flu .  I ended up bed ridden for a week.

    So I am at this time, living in a house with stairs,  I am ill in bed come down stairs I had to need some thing.  Then a loud bang heard it again and again it is the police with one of those battering rams.  Trying to get in because I had one good neighbour who had not seen me for a week.

    We used to look out for each other.  Thought you were dead.  My friend up the road one day we speak now and again come down to find me sick, very concerned.  This was in the days of addiction.  Problem is as I age slowly I have a constant fear of illness.

    You do not know inside how much damage you have done, addiction causes.  I have had friends been clean one or two years then get a simple infection cannot cope body.  Went into shock and heart cannot take it.

    That is my biggest fear not easy to say.  Made funeral plans.

    I hope you are OK it is good to spend some time with loved ones.  Valentines Day always a reminder when I was in a relationship. Not easy.

    I hope you have special times, life is so short.  Been to the parks.

    I try and stay positive and with my new friends here especially you good self.  I will be always grateful for listening to me.

    Take care

    Your friend

    The Spiceman
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  • thespiceman
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    Hello @Aimi2301    Good evening How are you? Thank you for reply, thank you for being honest on how you cope.  I understand the situation.

    I am always concerned for people in our community who struggle and find it hard to do daily tasks.  This because I was once in fact many times in a similar position.

    Often illness, addiction plus lately my disability some days.  Usually gripping kitchen utensils and always spillages.  So I have to be a planner who before I start anything, got this, need that.  This why I write recipes down.  I have to rely on my sense of judgement.

    I can understand your situation , use fork and spoon hard to cut up food.

    I am sorry you partner can not do more for you.  I used to have friends who had their parents as carers.  Carers need a break I was reminded one time, so only stepped in to do what I could.  I suggested it, just an idea.

    It was a gentleman much like myself just did casual duties like preparing meals.  The simple stuff nothing personal.

    When I moved to a small village had met gentlemen of a certain age who were I believe had support.  Just a visit once a week usually.  All of them had a range of disabilities physical and mental.  All of them I befriended at a  disabled association .

    I tried to do what I could, even went to Argos and suggested they all buy Microwaves, Kettles and Toaster.  Never had anything apart from a kettle well worn.

    So they could at least make tea and toast or small snacks.

    I had to show them, how it works.   I remember first couple weeks ringing me on minor hitches and problems. Which I did not mind.  I have one myself and even I get things wrong.

    I hope you have the courage to say if you need help or assistance.

    I have an issue of trust if I need anybody to help me that is me though.  I had my issues with trusting people in the past, not easy to forgive those that hurt you.

    I know you are going to be OK and all of us especially me are here to listen or chat.  Give much support as you wish to.

    Take care

    Your friend

    Hope you sleep better tonight
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  • Ami2301
    Ami2301 Community member Posts: 7,942 Disability Gamechanger
    Good evening @thespiceman

    Hope you are OK! I am not too bad thanks for asking :) I did manage 5 hours sleep but then was tossing and turning for rest of night. Hope you slept well :)

    It does upset me, and my mum, that my partner will not help as much as he could. I just want to give my mum a break as she never has time for herself.

    You are the most extraordinary man I have had the pleasure of meeting, your kindness and compassion for others has no boundaries, you are inspirational my friend :)

    Your friend,

    Ami xx
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  • bevt2017
    bevt2017 Community member Posts: 324 Pioneering
    Hi @Ami2301
    Sorry I've only just got your message! (I didn't even know you could do that) :o
    Your not alone sweetheart, you have lots of support here from the community. 
    So If you need to talk again, you know were I am.
    talk to you soon
    bev x
  • JennysDad
    JennysDad Community member Posts: 2,299 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @thespiceman. Good to hear from you, and thank you for your kind words.
    I suspect that Scope is one of the best things to happen to me, too. It has certainly introduced me to some very special people.

    I listened, of course, to Gladys Knight and enjoyed it - another blast from the past, and I'm reminded again of how important and useful music is to me. There are some pieces that still break me up after many years because of their significance at a particular time, and they're very useful if I want to get some tears out of my system.

    Being able to post web links in these conversations makes me thing we should be able to post Youtube videos here, allowing us to share favourites. I must make enquiries and see if that is a legitimate way to use the forums.

    Your historical insights are always fascinating.

    I never saw the news report you mentioned, but I do know that this happens, that people get forgotten about, ignored, isolated. I trust that you would let me know if you were in difficulties?

    I'm not a great fan of Valentine's Day, or Mother's Day, Father's Day and so many other 'Days' really. It seems to me to be mostly contrived stuff designed to sell gifts and cards in a world that seems to value nothing it cannot sell.

    My 'special times' have dramatically reduced in recent years. Now they're mostly about being 'here' at Scope, talking to people who matter to me, or being in the park with the birds and squirrels.

    It's a privilege to know you, my Friend.

    Warmest best wishes to you,

    Richard
  • JennysDad
    JennysDad Community member Posts: 2,299 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Ami2301

    I am glad to hear you got some sleep, only sorry it wasn't for longer and more comfortable.

    One notices, over time, how many men 'let the side down' when faced with disability. So many mums of disabled children are single parents, often because somehow the father's just cannot handle it. I think we do not train our boy children well.

    Reading of your struggles, I am again struck by your courage. You're probably not aware of it yourself, but it is clear to others of us. I'm sure you will have heard of these people, but I'll put in the link to their website just in case - they're the Disabled Living Foundation http://www.dlf.org.uk/  Very useful for gadgets like drinking vessels and utensils with specialised grips.

    And you're coming to London. I live here - an hour, anyway, from the centre by train. If you or your mum would like to see a friendly face down here just get in touch and I will do whatever I can.

    Warmest best wishes to you, always,
    Richard
  • thespiceman
    thespiceman Community member Posts: 6,388 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @Ami2301 How are you ?  Thank you for kind comments and words.  I am an old fashioned gentleman who cares very much for people in our community who through adversity and will power determination to cope what ever hurdles and barriers that they come across.

    You are one of these amazing people I realised that as soon as read your first post.  I always be here to chat, talk anything you wish. 

    It is a pleasure to meet you.

    I hope you are sleeping OK.  Some times the mental problems and anxiety can effect sleep patterns.  There are suggestions of trying to do a bed time routine.  I do this much as I can.  Sleep is an important part of our lifestyle.

    Other factors can be diet, eating to close to bed time or certain foods do effect sleep.  This include spicy food plus too heavy meals.  Certain foods contain an enzyme that work to make you sleep.  These include wholemeal toast with honey, warm milk with honey, beans pulses, lentils.

    I have been too going on line too late and brain does not have time to switch off, so you have to wind down.

    Play relaxing music .  I hope any of this helps.

    I do know I struggle with sleep some nights extremely difficult.  I am afraid I had my lifestyle when I doing my addiction days.  My nights were days, my days were nights.

    I had  episodes of sleep walking so I know how sleep is serious thing if you can not drop off as they say.

    Please can I ask what have you been doing to day.

    I have to say I had a strange day, keep thinking todays Saturday.  Only me, also get this have to check my diary all the time.  Daft I know, woke up what day is it today.

    I will have to put labels in my clothing to remind me who I am.

    Made some Ragu and dropped the stockpot over the hob as it slipped through my fingers.

    Fortunately spillage of Ragu not much.  Used loads of paper towels, cloths.

    So got that sorted.

    Please I hope you keep safe and look forward to talking soon

    Take care my friend


     


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  • thespiceman
    thespiceman Community member Posts: 6,388 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @RichardVR Good evening how are you?  Thank you for comments and words as always.

    I will let you know if I have situations that are difficult.

    This my point there are loads of gentlemen and ladies who are like me.  Live a life of isolation.  Few years ago contacted my housing association, what can they do for me.

    Disability support, mental health.  In the sense of providing what do I do if ill.  Nothing diddly squat as they say.  Yet I had asked them many times.  I do know that in the magazine they have.  Giving every one who is a staff member a pat on the back, forget us the tenants.

    I do not know how is my housing officer is, change that much.

    My friend I agree with you all these days to celebrate wall to wall coverage.

    I meant to ask do have pieces of music that are memorable for you.

    I hope you do not mind asking.

    All of us do I have so many.

    Off the top of my head Memories by Elvis Presley

    Can't Help Falling In Love by Elvis as well

    And I Love You So by Perry Como

    When I'm Gone by Brenda Holloway

    Sitting on the Dock of the Bay and I've Been Loving You Too Long by Otis Redding

    That's Life, Fly Me To The Moon, by Frank Sinatra

    I've Gotta Be Me Sammy Davis Jnr.

    All songs that are sentimental and have meaning, hope you enjoy listening to them.

    I hope you have quiet night and I shall talk again.  Hope to speak to yo at weekend if not later.

    Enjoy feeding the birds and bees in the park

    Take care your friend.
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  • JennysDad
    JennysDad Community member Posts: 2,299 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @thespiceman

    "I will let you know if I have situations that are difficult." DO!

    I think some of what you are saying relates to what I was saying about the 'professionalisation of care'. Caring is a 'job' or a 'career' and - perfectly logically - it has to be paid for. Because it is often extremely hard work, it ought to be paid well, but often isn't. To make money stretch to cover their needs, organisations often pay the lowest wages that they can and recruit the minimum number of paid staff to cope with the workload. Big caseloads - in whatever the service - increase the probability of errors, and that increases the level of stress and anxiety in those doing the job. It encourages people to accept ridiculous contracts, travel ridiculous distances in ridiculous times, work massive overtime or take their work home with them, and risks burnout.

    Because professionals carry the can, in the end, they can be very wary of using volunteers, even when volunteers are available. Volunteering as such seems to be very much in decline. But if you do use volunteers - as a rule - you need to devote some of your scarce resources to making sure those volunteers don't screw things up. You have to make sure you're not recruiting Jimmy So-viles, for example, and that involves things like paying for Criminal background checks and maintaining careful supervision of voluntary staff.

    If my experience of years ago is anything to by, it can also be difficult for would-be volunteers because of the limitations placed on what people out-of-work can do.

    I suspect the problem relates to capitalism as it has evolved in Britain, and I believe there are solutions but society is very slow to find them.

    When I found Scope I was actually looking for work with children like my daughter. I know how life-limiting it is to have a child with such a condition and wanted to be able to volunteer some time supporting families by looking after their kids at home whilst they went out shopping or just for some free time together. I haven't found anything. And going to my local Council for Voluntary Services, I discovered that this once pro-active organisation now limits itself to providing lists of charities that I can find anyway by using Google.

    This is part of the reason that Cameron's 'Big Society' idea never took off. So now it is down to us as individuals to do what we can.

    Music that matters to me?

    Boris Gardiner's "I wanna wake up with you". No 1 in 1986. Came to prominence during the first weeks of my daughter's life, when she was mostly in and out of the Special Baby Care Unit and then the Children's Hospital. I wanted to wake up with her at home.
    Freiheit: "Keeping the Dream Alive", You can probably guess why.
    Abba "The Way Old Friends Do" Thought this was an anthem to my then wife and myself, till she left me (for a younger woman) and discovered it was the anthem for my present wife and I.
    "Flower of Scotland", ideally on bagpipes, which was the music to which I got married for the second time.
    As a military historian who feels a great debt for the sacrifices of others, there is a lot of music with military associations, sometimes old songs, sometimes from movies, that mean a lot to me. 
    These include most of the tracks from Oh What a Lovely War, 
    "Ich hatt einen Kameraden" (I had a comrade), German WW1 song.
    Beginning and End titles from "Glory", the movie based on the 54th Massachusetts Regiment of the US Civil War, the first regiment of black regular soldiers committed to the war.
    "Dry Your Tears, Africa" from the movie "Amistad".
    Many, many others.

    I'll be listening to some of your recommendations asap. But it must be bed-time now :)

    Hope you sleep well.
    Take care.
    Warmest best wishes,
    Richard

  • thespiceman
    thespiceman Community member Posts: 6,388 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @RichardVR   Good Morning how are you.  I agree with your comments about the care sector and volunteering.

    I have been there I am afraid, another aspect of my life.  I never said I signed on wished to look at going into health related, care related employment got recent qualifications.  Recent about ten years old.  Any way all these vacancies I barely touched were for direct payments.

    Where the clients pays for services out of their benefit.  Personally came across this from a ex friend who I had to remove from my life.  His attitudes to his support team.  I am paying for it he hollered at me down the phone I recall.

    Volunteered a long time again started doing it when I was about 18 into disabled charities.

    Usually befriending schemes problem was what you said we were being used to replace staff.  Stopped a lot of them, continuing on and off.  Each charity had expenses, then to claim.  Got a lot of issues around staff members who believed disabled should not befriend disabled.

    Stopped me making problems around expenses.  Putting out to help people was my main aim but some people started to treat me as a taxi .

    I was a volunteer driver that included staff.  I was costing one charity over £100 a month.  Had to say to me in meetings give you a budget of this amount.  In realisation I was being used.

    Had to cope with abusive clients who every turn make complaints against you for every little minor issues.

    Walked away and did gardens that it started again last few years or more, had enough cottoned on to some of these volunteers who  met .  Bullies, controllers, nasty pieces of work.

    In the end walked away had just about all I could take.

    Which was a shame because it was helping me socially, mentally.

    I did not you like military history.  I live in the North East I have been to the DLI museum in Durham.  The Durham Light Infantry.

    Have fond memories of going, most of these museums collections now in limbo.  When I buying and selling collectables.  Big military fairs in Leeds and in London at one time.

    So I meet a lot of the collectors usually exmilitary lads finding anything on the local regiments around here.

    Very interesting topic got to know about the pals regiments in the North west.  Where whole loads of friends signed up WW1.

    I like your music choices.  Worth a listen thank you very much.

    I hope to speak to you soon 

    Take care

    Your friend
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  • Ami2301
    Ami2301 Community member Posts: 7,942 Disability Gamechanger
    Hey @bevt2017

    i didn't realise how it worked until I remembered that I have the screen set to maximum zoom so I forgot there is the other side of the page lol! 

    Thank you my lovely!  <3

    Ami xxx
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  • Ami2301
    Ami2301 Community member Posts: 7,942 Disability Gamechanger
    Good afternoon @RichardVR

    How are you? I hope you are having a good day so far :)

    Sleeping was much better last night thank you :) Hope you slept well too!

    Thank you for telling me about DLF, another that I have not heard of but keen to find out more :)

    Thank you for your lovely words, I never see myself as having any courage, another quote I often think about is "You don't know how strong you are until being strong is all that's left to be" I am physically weak, but mentally, I am growing stronger by the day (I don't mean to sound big headed) and that's due to all the amazing support I have from my family and you lovely people! :)

    Thats really kind of you to offer, I shall speak with my mum and hopefully we can arrange something :)

    Ami xxx
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  • Ami2301
    Ami2301 Community member Posts: 7,942 Disability Gamechanger
    Good afternoon @thespiceman

    I am OK thanks for asking, how are you? :)

    I slept much better last night thank you :) Hope you had a good nights sleep too!

    Being old fashioned is the best way to be (well I seem to think so!) :)

    I have had difficulty sleeping at night since September last year, had a very scary experience. I had a bad reaction to antibiotics which resulted in me being took to hospital (by ambulance, my first time in one) and being monitored til early hours of morning. I have trouble sleeping between 12am til 5am, it's slowly improving, having more good night sleeps than bad night sleeps. 

    I know exactly what you mean, I too think it's a day ahead. 

    I admire how passionate you are about cooking! I've never tried ragu sauce, what is it like? :)

    Yesterday I had my wheelchair assessment, hopefully it will be delivered before I go to London :) then spent most of the day napping. Today, well soon, my mum and I will be going into town soon to print some photos off for my nan. Hopefully have a look around shops too, not that there's many but just something we like to do together :) How has your day been so far? :)

    Do you have any tattoos? 

    Your friend,

    Ami xxx
    Disability Gamechanger - 2019

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