Wife wants me to leave
Wibbles
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My wife /carer of 20 years has just asked me to leave the marital home - I am unable to walk or speak or do virtually anything.
She wants me out today - I have nowhere to go
She has cared for me for 20 years without a break
I own the house and my wife is financially dependant on me.
What is the standard procedure at a time like this ?
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She is angry with me for something that I have no control over
I have Parkinsons amongst other problemsShe really suffers from anger issues and wants me to leave TODAY !COVID has meant that she has been unable to visit her parents (who live 150 miles away) for almost three years - her dad is 93 and not in the best of health - and now, when we are clear to go - HER cat is ill and needs medication twice a day - so we are unable to leave him.....She blames me for decisions that I made 18 years ago - when I had an opportunity to move house closer to her parents and decided at the time to stay put - I own the house !0 -
This is where the council have failed me - I asked for a care needs assessment - and I have been ignoredMy wife needs a carers assessment as well - but I don't think that she will accept one0
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I think it’s very unreasonable to expect you to move out straightaway, maybe different bedrooms. It’s your house too.
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I advise you ring citizens advice, you have rights in this matter, you can find additional info and what they advise here: https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/if-you-were-living-together/your-ex-partner-is-trying-to-make-you-leave.Wibbles said:My wife /carer of 20 years has just asked me to leave the marital home - I am unable to walk or speak or do virtually anything.She wants me out today - I have nowhere to goShe has cared for me for 20 years without a breakI own the house and my wife is financially dependant on me.What is the standard procedure at a time like this ?0 -
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Sounds like she was on one ha ha yep keep your head down, only you know how bad things are behind closed doors.
I still think you both need to sit and talk about things calmly, has she ever seen anyone about her anger issues ?0 -
I`m sorry, but I fail to understand why, if you own the house, can`t talk and are unable to do pretty much anything, why you should leave the house. If you own it, she should be leaving.If I were in that position, I`d pay for her train ticket (or whichever suitable transport) to her parents and tell her she can leave.2
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ExactlyCartini said:I`m sorry, but I fail to understand why, if you own the house, can`t talk and are unable to do pretty much anything, why you should leave the house. If you own it, she should be leaving.If I were in that position, I`d pay for her train ticket (or whichever suitable transport) to her parents and tell her she can leave.0 -
Hi @Wibbles so sorry you’re going through this. Relationship ‘road bumps’ happen to us all. I really hope you can work through this together. Have you thought about contacting Relate, or any other type of relationship counselling? It might be what you both need to help you move forward. Wishing you all the best xx0
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Wibbles said:
I don't see that Sue mentioned anything about you being female. She asked if you have a young family. You can have a young family whether you're male or female.
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I meant Elizabeth01 a linkpoppy123456 said:Wibbles said:
I don't see that Sue mentioned anything about you being female. She asked if you have a young family. You can have a young family whether you're male or female.
Have you seen what it says?0 -
I did yes and it mentions men as well as women. It gives information on what to do whatever gender you are.Wibbles said:
I meant Elizabeth01 a linkpoppy123456 said:Wibbles said:
I don't see that Sue mentioned anything about you being female. She asked if you have a young family. You can have a young family whether you're male or female.
Have you seen what it says?You quoted Sue’s comment which was why I commented what I did.2 -
Hi @Wibbles sorry your having problems, if you own the house then you don't need to leave it. Sounds like your wife might want to go see her parents and sort things out there, but stuck with all the obstacles that's been in the way like covic etc, now the cat. Is there anyone that can help with the cat?0
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In case anyone was concerned - things are now back to normal again !!
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So nothing resolved - things can be so frustrating sometimes - hope your both okay anyway.0
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