Letting go when you mess up / stopping focussing on the negative

@Biblioklept here's a story that might make you feel a bit better :-

I came back to my home town in the middle of May after 5 years away, due to me separating from my wife and leaving her home which is in a town 26 miles away. I was staying with my Mum initially before renting a house my elder sister owns. So, having been largely housebound up to the point when I returned to my home town (due to autism, severe physical and mental health symptoms), I plucked up the courage to go to the local park, which I used to go to regularly in my youth and where I played bowls with my late father.

The park is a special place for me but going outside has for a long time been a big problem for me - still is.

I plucked up further courage to go and have a coffee at the park café, which is a community run establishment. I was pleased that I was able to strike up a rapport with the people that work there - amongst them a 17 year old girl, who was really pleasant to me and sociable.

As a result of feeling a bit more confident and being welcomed so warmly, I went quite a few times over the next couple of months and obviously I spoke to the young girl, the other staff members, and the owner, and the manager.

Anyway, this young girl turned out to be quite an open book and we talked about music, her same sex relationship (information she voluntarily disclosed) - nothing untoward whatsoever, and bear in mind this was in full view of other customers, it was outside in the open where everyone was sitting enjoying the sun, their coffees, their food and so on.

Then, at the end of last month, two police officers attend my home and proceed to tell me the young girl had complained I have made her feel uncomfortable ???

Being a former solicitor I was gobsmacked but also enough in the know to work out she can only have been alleging I was harassing her. Cue the customary meltdown in the days that followed, made worse by my own situation of my marriage breaking down. But, as you would expect nothing came of it because I did absolutely nothing wrong.

Today I got the police report after requesting it under the data protection act and there it is in black and white - her claim was that I was making sexually suggestive comments about her and her sex life with her girlfriend….which she then withdrew, probably after I had kicked up a stink with the police and threatened the girl (via the police attending my home) with legal action. Unbelievable. She's obviously some sort of fantasist with serious problems of her own.

So whilst the whole charade has knocked me back a fair bit, I have used it as a source of defiance and I still go back to the park whenever I feel well enough. But as you would expect, I give the café a wide berth - I take my own flask of coffee.

I am also going to speak with her employer (armed with the police report) about her utterly ludicrous and dangerous false allegations.

But overall, I am not going to allow myself to be negatively impacted when in all the circumstances I was/am doing my best to rebuild my life.