One of the guys is suspected to be a player, but now I'm on to the next guy, how does that work? — Scope | Disability forum
If we become concerned about you or anyone else while using one of our services, we will act in line with our safeguarding policy and procedures. This may involve sharing this information with relevant authorities to ensure we comply with our policies and legal obligations.

Find out how to let us know if you're concerned about another member's safety.
Please read our updated community house rules and community guidelines.

One of the guys is suspected to be a player, but now I'm on to the next guy, how does that work?

Splatmate24
Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
I met up with a guy who stopped texting after I felt like he wasn't communicating well with me. Then, after giving up and stopping trying, I saw a post where he had been tagged and said he was in a relationship with a woman. I moved on to a new guy who I also met on an online dating site called freedating. co. uk. He was a player and messed with a lot of girls, so I didn't feel comfortable with him. In the process of arranging a date with a second guy, I suggested a public park, but he is taking his time to think about it. As for the second guy, he prefers to go slowly and has a brutal manner. What do you think of the first guy as a player? Although the first guy started messing with me, I have no interest in dating or being in a relationship with him. What do you think of the second guy?
«1

Comments

  • Alex_Scope
    Alex_Scope Posts: 7,562 Scope online community team
    Try not to dwell on that first guy @Splatmate24, as for the second, can you explain what you mean by 'brutal manner'? 

    Remember, if anyone makes you feel uncomfortable when talking to them, or is rude or threatening, you can block them and report them. You have that right and it's important that you feel safe, online, as well as offline.
    Online Community Coordinator
    Scope

    Concerned about another member's safety or wellbeing? Flag your concerns with us.

    Want to give us feedback? Complete our feedback form now.
  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @L_Volunteer is meant to say  'brutal  honesty and is autocorrect . the second guy has not  made uncomfortable  but the first guy did made me feel uncomfortable 

  • Alex_Scope
    Alex_Scope Posts: 7,562 Scope online community team
    Ahh okay @Splatmate24 so he's very honest, is that right? Thanks for explaining :)
    Online Community Coordinator
    Scope

    Concerned about another member's safety or wellbeing? Flag your concerns with us.

    Want to give us feedback? Complete our feedback form now.
  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @L_Volunteer I got turn off from the first guys and didn't commutation with me proper and that attraction did fade away and did move on to new guy that I'm messaging now on whatapps . he is talking the time to think about meeting but did suggest a public parks near me . i think the first men is a suspects is a player and might also be a cheater . when i did move on and found someone else . the first guy started to messaging me back  and sent a friends request on my Facebook account. i still prefer the second guy and the second guy as autism and ADHD . 

  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 7,979 Disability Gamechanger
    It sounds positive that it is going better with this new guy @Splatmate24 and is taking the time to think about meeting. How do you feel about his suggestion of a public park near you?  :)
    Community Volunteer Adviser with professional knowledge of education, special educational needs and disabilities and EHCP's. Pronouns: She/her. 

    Please note: if I use the online community outside of its hours of administration, I am doing so in a personal capacity only.
  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @L_Volunteer is was ok with public parks with a café and seen quite a lot people go to park . got a lot public parks but comes in different size parks .  i chose one that has a café and ducks in the publics parks .  i been through city park, town parks and one country side park with my parents . the first guy did text me back but was still in relationship and i did rejected him and did put him on freindszone . only when i move on to someone new guy.
  • dylan89
    dylan89 Community member Posts: 25 Listener
    Anyone know of a dating agency for people with disabilities 
  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @dylan89 i know some dating agency for learning disabilities like love2meetu,love4life . one them was very rubbish with getting anywhere near to sign in by using a application form for both sites . i sent two different type of application form love2meetu first one from letter to post it but did lose on away . second time that f application form sent  was by email and still hasn't get seen any reply  email back to me 

  • dylan89
    dylan89 Community member Posts: 25 Listener
    @Splatmate24 I’ve used both and I’ve got no where with both of them love4life says they can’t help cause I’m not from Southampton or near and luv2meetu don’t respond after I made the application and cause I couldn’t get a personal refrence 
  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @dylan89 i did get two or one refence but did nothing about and just left like and that went back to mainstream dating and has try some autism dating sites that hasn't be as good . the autism dating sites that i have two were apps . one was called Hiki App, Autistic Empathy. one the i kept getting rejected and friendzone .another one said no users near my area . yep i even try on iPad and is called ellie dating app what didn't Have any user near me .the mainstream apps that i have try were facebook dating, Badoo ,bumble,emharmoy,match.com and zoosk two of mainstream dating apps are to pay for it  that i didn't do yet . my last one that i try was freedating.co.uk. facebook dating was bit successful but the is wasn't successful  . badoo was more successful l but couldn't get past the meetup part  that i metup with some men and last one was succeful is freedating.co.uk

  • dylan89
    dylan89 Community member Posts: 25 Listener
    edited May 2023
    @Splatmate24 Facebook dating was unsuccessful for me as she never turned up twice I’ve tried nearly all dating apps where people just trying to scam me 
  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @Dyan89 i said also a dating sites not just apps . one that i been successful with getting meetup was badoo but didn't go any forward and met some one  on a dating sites called freedating.co.uk was bit more  successful what other you have tried meetup events . mainstream dating site, autism dating sites ?
  • dylan89
    dylan89 Community member Posts: 25 Listener
    @Splatmate24 I’ve tried yoomee tinder bumble plenty of fish badoo once I can get a personal refrence I can go forward with luv2meet that’s the only thing that prevents my application with them going forward 
  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @dylan89 i did try love2meet after i sent two application form one from post that somehow got lose since they got two postcode and did sent one by email and still hasn't seen any email from them at all . i did get the two refence . which one has you not tried . that is a dating app called Thursday but only on Thursday people can messaging . I'm have not tried that one 
  • dylan89
    dylan89 Community member Posts: 25 Listener
    @Splatmate24 I’ve never heard of that one before I sent my application to love2meet by recorded delivery so they couldn’t deny that they never received it you should add me on Facebook it’s my name twice with picture of Man Utd badge
  • MPowell_1991
    MPowell_1991 Community member Posts: 83 Courageous
    I would always try and meet somewhere public to start with, a neutral ground where you feel most comfortable. The fact that a person is "thinking about it" at least means they're being considerate, but anyone can be anybody behind a keyboard. If you're meeting for the first time, make sure you let someone know where and who you're meeting just to be on the safe side.
  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @MPowell_1991 yep i knew to meet in public Ares like fast food or café . one public park has cafe and is a public and my mum is coming with me to and always let people know beforehand and . my mum always comes woth me when comes to meetingup with some men 

  • MPowell_1991
    MPowell_1991 Community member Posts: 83 Courageous
    edited June 2023
    @Splatmate24 this is good however on the examples you have given, i can't say they seem to be the right "type" of guy. How long have you been speaking to him, prior to agreeing to meet?
  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @MPowell_1991 i think is be more two weeks or mor by texting on whatapps but did met off a online dating sites called freedating sites . the first men wasn't no good .
  • dylan89
    dylan89 Community member Posts: 25 Listener
    @Splatmate24 do you want to add me on Facebook 

Brightness

Complete our feedback form and tell us how we can make the community better.