Struggling

mistakes65
mistakes65 Online Community Member Posts: 105 Contributor
Thought I would come on here and just try and distract myself as I’m at the point where I know I’m being stupid and I have to wait but my mental health and anxiety isn’t letting me !!

I know it’s only being two weeks after my tribunal which I won and I have to wait for the process of the DWP questioning if there was a error in law and wanting to see the statements ( apologies if I’ve got that worded wrong 😑) 

But my brain is filling me with so much self doubt and worry 🫤

reading through posts on here has been helpful and I can see in black & white the people who know what they are talking about and advising those who have posted but my mind won’t process it as it should unfortunately.

pacience is not a strong point of mine sadly 😔 and after over a year waiting for my tribunal then thinking it was sorted ☑️ still a process of more waiting .

sorry 😔 just struggling this morning 
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  • Superbetty
    Superbetty Online Community Member Posts: 453 Empowering
    Hi @mistakes65, bless you! You have done so well, went all this way! Of course you are stressed out, you have been already waititng long time. I always tell myself there is nothing I can do, so no point of thinking, the result will come at some point anyway. I know it is easy for me to say:-)Definitely try to distract yourself with something you like to do:-) How is the weather where you live? I have beautiful sunshine:-)
  • mistakes65
    mistakes65 Online Community Member Posts: 105 Contributor
    thank you for replying 🙏 I know that’s what I’m trying to tell myself then I burst out crying and feel so stupid after !!
    it’s a lovely sunny day here just doing some washing and getting it hung out !!
    And thank you 🙏 
  • mistakes65
    mistakes65 Online Community Member Posts: 105 Contributor
    thank you for replying . Will do I will take a look in the coffee lounge 
  • Hannah_Alumni
    Hannah_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,866 Championing
    Hello @mistakes65

    I am sorry you have been so stressed with it all 😔 

    Let's get your mind off it then! What are your interests? do you have any hobbies? 
  • mistakes65
    mistakes65 Online Community Member Posts: 105 Contributor
    Unfortunately I don’t 😔 due to being a full time carer to my daughter with depressive phycosis anxiety and emotional unstable personality disorder where she can’t be left on her own at all and her support worker is on holiday not back till next week so things have been a struggle .
    I try and do something to distract myself from worrying about hearing from DWP but doesn’t last long unfortunately 🫤

    Just waiting for a letter from them to confirm it all . I rang yesterday and they said nothing had happened as yet but she did all the security questions had a been in hospital etc so it’s just a matter of waiting which I struggle with .
    and thank you for reaching out . 
  • Hannah_Alumni
    Hannah_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,866 Championing
    We are all here to support you @mistakes65 :) 

    I wonder, is there anything that you could do with your daughter that she'd like too? Even something like scrolling through YouTube? When I wasn't very well and felt really low with no energy, I watched a lot of house decor videos online and mentally decorated my house :D sounds strange but it kept me entertained. 

    Hopefully you'll hear soon, glad all the security questions were asked out the way too! 
  • mistakes65
    mistakes65 Online Community Member Posts: 105 Contributor
    Unfortunately she won’t interact in anything she paces up and down all the time. I’m watching bits on tv and fry and distract myself and then keep chatting with my daughter to distract her thoughts ( she hears voices all the time ) .
    postman has just been and still nothing 😔 
  • Hannah_Alumni
    Hannah_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,866 Championing
    What kind of things do you chat to your daughter about? What bits are you getting through on the TV? Just what's on? or are you following a series? 
  • poppy123456
    poppy123456 Online Community Member Posts: 64,463 Championing

    postman has just been and still nothing 😔 

    I wouldn't expect you to receive the decision letter from DWP until after you've received the money they owe you in your bank.
  • mistakes65
    mistakes65 Online Community Member Posts: 105 Contributor
    Thank you poppy 


    we are watching suits at the moment with Megan markel in it and Ru Paul’s drag race 
  • Hannah_Alumni
    Hannah_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,866 Championing
    Two very good choices! :) 
  • mistakes65
    mistakes65 Online Community Member Posts: 105 Contributor
    😃
  • Hannah_Alumni
    Hannah_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,866 Championing
    Who has been your favourite drag race winner?
  • mistakes65
    mistakes65 Online Community Member Posts: 105 Contributor
    That’s a hard one 🤔 but I would have to say Latrice Royal !

    But my all time favourite ( who wasn’t a winner sadly ) has to be Hedi in closet 
  • Hannah_Alumni
    Hannah_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,866 Championing
    Oooo Latrice is one that's high on the list for me. I always loved Bianca Del Rio. Love a comedy queen! 
  • mistakes65
    mistakes65 Online Community Member Posts: 105 Contributor
    lol yes !!! Bianca was brilliant 
  • Hannah_Alumni
    Hannah_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,866 Championing
    The impact the show has had has been great! I've come across more drag shows in my city since :) 
  • mistakes65
    mistakes65 Online Community Member Posts: 105 Contributor
    Myself and my daughter absolutely love it and it’s for us through some dark days ! 


  • Hannah_Alumni
    Hannah_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,866 Championing
    I love how they have branched into other movies and TV shows. Have you watched AJ and The Queen or Dumplin on Netflix?
  • mistakes65
    mistakes65 Online Community Member Posts: 105 Contributor
    We didn’t fancy those TBH I am watching as and when the Below Deck series