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My mom is making dating with learning disabilities even more difficult?

Splatmate24
Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous

My mum and I have always been stricter when it comes to dating men with learning disabilities and one of them that i can't even date is mild learning disabilities. My biggest complaint is that I can only be a moderate learning disability or severe. As a consequence, I don't want to date men who have severe learning disabilities since they're protected more and might have a more immature perception of people with learning disabilities. It has always been like that with my mom when it comes to dating and relationships. i shout and get angry at my mum . The last thing that was said was that you only date men with learning disabilities or you will not be able to date or be in a relationship at all . When I try to express my feelings, my mother treats me in a slient treament . My two other sisters don't have the same dating experience when it comes to mum. One older sister and she can date anyone who wants to date. My younger sister can also date whomever she wants. even she might also has learning disabilities. my mum always complains about distance when dating. Yep that as well limted on how where i can to when it comes to dating men or relationship . talking does nothing with my mum . what else can i do that my mum is making is more difficult when comes to dating and relationship?

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  • Alex_Scope
    Alex_Scope Posts: 7,562 Scope online community team
    I'm sorry it's such a frustration for you @Splatmate24, it can be difficult when we don't feel heard or understood by our family. Have you spoken to anyone about better support for your wellbeing and mental health, like a support worker, social worker, or your GP?
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  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @Alex_Scope nope I don't have a  social worker and has tried some therapist from nhs but did help but didn't help with my mum stricter when comes to dating and didn't mention at the time .she always has be like this with me but two sister can dates anyone she want to dates .I just looked on meet & match has update there membership and now is called new membership is only one near town . 

  • Alex_Scope
    Alex_Scope Posts: 7,562 Scope online community team
    I'm glad the NHS therapist was able to help in the past @Splatmate24, do you think you could speak to them again, but about your mum and dating? 

    Ah okay, is only one meet & match less than before?
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  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @Alex_Scope is a dating websites and got new membership but is on expensive side .  the last one was love2meetu what also NHS member staff founded one of them  but the lovemeetu didn't comes through and took a long term to even get log in but did get  application form twice . i  did mention meet & match also .

  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 7,979 Disability Gamechanger
    How are you feeling about the new membership at the moment @Splatmate24? Other than it being on the expensive side, of course  :)
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  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @L_Volunteer didn't get new membership since you can turn up at any time if i wanted to go . the only problem by be age range . i also found another dating app for disabled and learning disabilities  that i got on my iPad .

  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 7,979 Disability Gamechanger
    How is the new platform going for you @Splatmate24:)
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  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @L_Volunteer not as good and i been using one app called badoo as well to  meet more people as well trying to meet them in rl to .

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