Im becoming really depressed living with my mum and brother…

ryleyyg
ryleyyg Online Community Member Posts: 86 Contributor
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lately my mum has been taking her anger out on me. I’m tired and stressed hence why I am moody. I’ve started to sleep during the day more because I simply cannot be bothered to be up anymore, it’s no longer fun. She gets all stressed during the week, and then today starts drinking from 11am in the morning. When I ask for my dad for advice or talk about it, he doesn’t care.

My step mum kids kept spam texting me to play with them at like 9am in the morning, and if I say no they’d start begging and my step mum would **** me off about it, calling me rude etc.

Not once had no one ever asked if I am okay. And when I do say I’m not no one takes me seriously. I’m slowly starting to lose it. I am angry/deppressed. It’s my birthday next week I turn 22 on Monday and I don’t care about it anymore.. all I want to be is just to be left alone from everyone, it’s stressing me out. I wish I had the funds to move out but I don’t until next month.

I get told that I should speak to people more “nicely” by my mum and brother but why should I if they treat me horribly everyday? I’m not even rude, the way I talk is because I’m tired and simply cannot be bothered to cooperate with them anymore.

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  • Rosie_Scope
    Rosie_Scope Posts: 5,789 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    That sounds really frustrating @ryleyyg. You shouldn't have to be nice to people who aren't being nice to you, especially as it sounds like you're going through a lot already. It must be exhausting and it's no wonder you're feeling affected by your situation.

    Do you have an idea for where you'd like to move out to if you can get the funds together next month? It might feel like a long time but perhaps you could start making some plans if you feel up to it.

    If you're feeling angry and need some tips for dealing with it in a safe way, Mind have some useful pages:

    Anger | Tips for coping with anger right now | Mind - Mind

    I've done the tip where you rip up paper before, and the grounding techniques can be useful too if that's something you'd feel up for trying. I know it doesn't take away the thing that's making you angry, but it might help you feel more stable and in control for a little while.

    And there's Shout if you feel like speaking to someone about what's going on. It's a texting service so you don't have to speak on the phone if you don't want to: Shout: the UK's free, confidential and 24/7 mental health text service for crisis support

    Hope things start settling down soon.

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 6,072 Championing

    I totally understand when I was younger a relationship failed and my only options was to go to my dad's it was hell he has bipolar was so up and down I really feel for you have you secured yourself some where for next month did you say ?

  • ryleyyg
    ryleyyg Online Community Member Posts: 86 Contributor
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1032639#Comment_1032639

    hi sorry for not responding I decided to fall asleep as had an argument.
    no not yet I’m hoping I will on the bidding application

  • ryleyyg
    ryleyyg Online Community Member Posts: 86 Contributor

    I hope so too. Thank you for the information I will have a look!

  • pooleemily29
    pooleemily29 Online Community Member Posts: 142 Contributor

    @ryleyyg hi my names Emily I know exactly how it feels I get frustrated because the law dictates that I have to live with my mum and dad too. Tbh I don't get taken seriously either I have Cerebral palsy. I've often dreamt of owning my own home and today I just felt so frustrated because I showed this realife reborn doll thing that I wanted because I wanted to know what being a mum felt like but all I got was being told to grow up so I just came up to my room where I could be safe and alone with my own thoughts. Happy birthday for next week! @pooleemily29 🥹😞😤 I guess it's all three of these emjoi's for me today i think.

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 6,072 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1032670#Comment_1032670

    Fingers crossed easy to say don't let it get you down would you find it easy to speak to a doctor for some therapy I know when I was younger I was to scared to ask now looking back I wish I reached out even of you get on list that takes time your reaching out on here that's so good you deserve peace of mind try not to be hard on yourself we beat ourselves up so much and hurt ourselves come on here express yourself hopefully we can help you break it all down

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