Dating advise

corpsebride
corpsebride Community Member Posts: 4 Listener
edited June 2025 in Everyday life

I've been in a dating site and had some disagreements with the owner. On the opening form you have to say yes or no to disabled. You can't skip this question.

I have brought up that this isn't legal a few times, the reply is below.

Thank you for the feedback.Some members want to flag that they are disabled via this setting.Others want to search for other disabled people, which we cannot provide without collecting this information.Yet more want to be excluded from searches by people who don't want to meet someone who is disabled.And there are people who hold your view too.So it is complicated. And there is no easy solution which will please everyone.

I say this isnt legal. Can you tell me your thoughts and advise?

I have a blue badge, I have difficulties but I resent being judged like this. I am very capable to look at a profile and seeing they have an active lifestyle and if I can do what they want me to. I don't want to be discounted as one word can mean so many different things.

Thanks for you advise.

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  • Holly_Scope
    Holly_Scope Posts: 6,534 Online Community Team

    Hi @corpsebride you make a really good point. Why don't they have a "prefer not to say" option like we see for so many other things. I'm far from a legal expert so I won't try to answer that side of things, but it doesn't seem right to force people to disclose this information. I'd certainly be opting out of using that site, for sure!

  • corpsebride
    corpsebride Community Member Posts: 4 Listener

    Ranald, thats not what i said. The was the reply from the dating site when insaid i didntnwant to be firced to disclose i was disabled, i was told i have to choose yes or no. People have the choice not to date me if im disabled. That isnwhat im angry about and have been trying to get this changed fir years. No disabled grouo will helo me by telling him its illegal whoch i think it is. ,

  • Topcat71
    Topcat71 Community Member Posts: 194 Empowering

    I share my deep heat rub on first date . We got on like a house on fire at start..

  • corpsebride
    corpsebride Community Member Posts: 4 Listener

    If i see someone declaring health i avoid them, its like a disclaimer.

    I am more than my health issues. I want them to know me and if they're worthy of knowing i tell them before we meet. You don't sell a car by saying its got faults, you state the good bits about it.

    This is why the laws for jobs mean they can't ask you if youre disabled as you get judged before they give uou a chance. Same with a dating site.

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