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Roddy Rolstar of Lady Baye.

Roddy123
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I am Roddy and have suffered with ME/CFS for several years,also depression and anxiety.
My partner David has Vascular Dementia,no mobility and a host of other ailments,and I am his full time carer plus I now have to look after our business commitments ,something I never had to do before.
How I do what I do is a mystery as I am always totally exhausted,its almost like I get a second wind to keep on going.
I used to be very outgoing,but now I have no social life,and indeed on the rare occasions I do go out I am now a blithering wreck and nervous as hell,and it starts off an unpleasant pattern of sweating,and the more I think about it the worse it becomes.
I also find comfort in over eating and that causes the weight to creep on,and I hate it as I was always so thin.
Life is not easy,but there are others who are in the same situation as me,and its tough.
My partner David has Vascular Dementia,no mobility and a host of other ailments,and I am his full time carer plus I now have to look after our business commitments ,something I never had to do before.
How I do what I do is a mystery as I am always totally exhausted,its almost like I get a second wind to keep on going.
I used to be very outgoing,but now I have no social life,and indeed on the rare occasions I do go out I am now a blithering wreck and nervous as hell,and it starts off an unpleasant pattern of sweating,and the more I think about it the worse it becomes.
I also find comfort in over eating and that causes the weight to creep on,and I hate it as I was always so thin.
Life is not easy,but there are others who are in the same situation as me,and its tough.
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Hi @Roddy123
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Hi @Roddy123, and a warm welcome to the community!
Thank you for sharing this with us- it certainly sounds as though you're dealing with a lot. If you haven't spoken to them already, it might be worth getting in touch with Carers UK, to see if there's any practical support or advice they could offer. Do get involved, and please do know if we can be of any assistance.
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