Hi, my name is Birmingham19!

Birmingham19

Hi i wondering if there is any way you can help ive not had a good year this year and i was hoping i could apply or get a loan to help redecorate my house and get some new furniture through the lockdown my son nefuwe killed himself and then in june my cats passed away due to a very rear illness and then in october my son was for acounts of attempted murder witch he hasent or didnt do and is now on remand in prison waiting for his trial in march my son has sevire learning difficulties and the mind of of 10 year old and not coping well he has atempted to take his life and cut him self up anoumirous time and i do visit him and breaks my heart evey time i leave and when he calls but im teying to stau stong its very hard as im ill myself

Libby_Alumni

Birmingham19 said:

Hi i wondering if there is any way you can help ive not had a good year this year and i was hoping i could apply or get a loan to help redecorate my house and get some new furniture through the lockdown my son nefuwe killed himself and then in june my cats passed away due to a very rear illness and then in october my son was for acounts of attempted murder witch he hasent or didnt do and is now on remand in prison waiting for his trial in march my son has sevire learning difficulties and the mind of of 10 year old and not coping well he has atempted to take his life and cut him self up anoumirous time and i do visit him and breaks my heart evey time i leave and when he calls but im teying to stau stong its very hard as im ill myself

Hi @Birmingham19  

Welcome to the community, it's lovely to have you here with us all. 

I'm so sorry to hear about your experiences throughout lockdown. You've clearly been through a challenging and turbulent time, and I can imagine it's been stressful and upsetting for you. If you don't mind me asking, how old is your son and is he currently receiving mental health support at all? If so, are they aware of his past suicidality? I also wanted to ask if you were receiving any mental health support via your GP or anyone else? It's so important that you're talking to people who you trust and can offer you emotional support during this time too  

I think decorating your house sounds like a wonderful idea and will be so lovely for you, as it will create a safe and relaxing space for you to wind down/relax in. Would these home improvements involve making adaptations due to your disability? If so, this is something that you might need to talk to your local council about. I will also move your comment into our housing category, in the hope that our other members will reach out and offer any support or share their experiences. 

If you have any questions or queries in the meantime, then please let us know

Libby