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Not sure if I can cope

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frood
frood Community member Posts: 12 Listener
Just wanted to put this down , I have real anxiety over my situation,
I live with my girlfriend and she doesn't work I've had incapacity but she can't budget and I've managed to get a job with Amazon delivery I haven't done any driving yet just passed tests, I am trying to stay calm about this job, but my girlfriend is complaining about my hours that I haven't even done yet. I am ready to quit before I start, but we can't live on the universal credit. I am getting to the point, I just feel like there is no point in carrying on.

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  • Superbetty
    Superbetty Community member Posts: 453 Pioneering
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    Hi @frood, I am so sorry to hear that. Looks like you are trying everything to make lives ok for you both. First of all, obviously there is a point of carrying on, that point is YOU:-)And you do whatever you think is good for you. Not sure why your girlfriend is complaining, she does understand you are struggling with money? I know some people cannot budget, did you try to talk to her about it, maybe making financial decisions together? I think you are doing amazing, trying to go to work to make things better, you should be proud of yourself.
  • Beaver79
    Beaver79 Community member Posts: 23,845 Disability Gamechanger
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    Hi @frood You are doing a great thing by getting a job to help with your financial situation. Well done. Please do not give up. Try and explain to your girlfriend that you need the money to live your life. Good luck.
  • frood
    frood Community member Posts: 12 Listener
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    Thankyou so much for those words it hard when perhaps your just trying and being put down. I tend to try by best to make everyone in my life happy but it takes it out of me sometimes, I will probably just carry on and see how it goes . Thankyou again 
  • Hannah_Alumni
    Hannah_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,912 Disability Gamechanger
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    Hello @frood

    Welcome to the community! :)

    I'm sorry you are having such anxiety over your situation. I just wanted to let you know there are many charities out there who are great to talk to about your anxiety. Like SHOUT, who are a 24/7 texting service. I would encourage you to speak to your GP too. Can I ask, does your girlfriend have anxiety too? They may be helpful for her as well. 

    Budgeting has been difficult for many, especially with the Cost of Living Crisis. Citizen's Advice has some great resources, if you think they'd be helpful to read.

    I think it's amazing you have gotten a job with Amazon, congratulations! Scope have an Employment Services section with lot's of resources if you feel you need some additional support. Please keep us updated! :)
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  • frood
    frood Community member Posts: 12 Listener
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  • MarieBarl
    MarieBarl Community member Posts: 161 Pioneering
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    frood said: I am getting to the point, I just feel like there is no point in carrying on.
    It is very hard to deal with all the changes in life. I am having to come to terms with not being able to work in the  same way as before and have had a few moments where I did not feel I could carry on.

    Does your girlfriend know how you are feeling? I know it can be difficult to explain things to family that are simple to describe to complete strangers. My husband has had his own difficulties and then got hit with mine and doesn't understand how I feel because 'it's different'.

    You are trying to make things better for yourself. Some of our Amazon delivery drivers are really lovely people. Well done on passing the driving tests, that must have been a trial in itself.

    I hope you find some help from @Hannah_Scope's suggestions.

    Good luck!
  • frood
    frood Community member Posts: 12 Listener
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    Yes she doesn't care told me to cut my wrists she can't live on less money that's why I'm working I'm sure we will get along when the money starts coming in
  • Alex_Alumni
    Alex_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,562 Disability Gamechanger
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    I'm sorry to hear about this @frood I'm going to be checking in with you by email a little later on today, so please say if nothing's come through at the end of the day. 

    Please ask if we can support you with anything further, and reach out to the organisations Hannah has shared for extra support too. 
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  • frood
    frood Community member Posts: 12 Listener
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    Ok thanks 👍
  • NiiQ
    NiiQ Community member Posts: 4 Listener
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    Hope things work out for you Frood
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    frood Community member Posts: 12 Listener
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