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The Feelings post

whistles

I am pretty rubbish at describing how I feel.

I am either okay, fine, or I am not. Or, I simply don't feel or think and it's an empty space.

Today I felt unsettled. I am going to allow myself to feel that. Take note of where it sits, what it does. It was an anxiety feeling in my stomach.

It's transient, meaning it will pass. It will be replaced by another one.

I might try and get myself back into meditation as that has you sitting quietly and observing what you think, see, hear, feel within yourself.

Writing this it disappeared. I am on it!! It didn't need to go, I was going to time it's appearance.

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happygolucky

Hi @whistles

Thanks so much for sharing you're an inspiration talking about it is really amazing & will help a lot of other people like myself who are experiencing or going through the exact same thing it helps to know that I'm not on my own.

My thoughts are with you. Sending you best wishes & positive vibes ✨️ 🙏

Littlefatfriend

Feelings are so personal to us that it often appears difficult to put them into words Whistles.

That's one of the reasons why certain artists, musicians, writers etc are so lauded. Sharing and communicating emotional experience is a necessarily subtle thing to do. Neither you nor I (nor anyone else) can be sure that we're discussing the same experiences, our feelings are all our own.

This is an emotionally stressful time of year for many people. All those hopes, all those memories, potentially all sorts of pressure.

Writing (or talking etc) about such experience may help calm our concerns. People were practicing talking cures long before Freud.

Meditation works for some people too, it appears you have some experience with that.

It's a weird time of year. The combined influences of the natural winter solstice and the cultural/familial pressures available (etc) can be a stress to some, and a curiousity to others.

At least it only happens once (or twice if we include new year) a year. It'll be spring before we know it!

Good luck and thanks for sharing

Luke

whistles

I used to write poetry when I was depressed. I don't do that anymore.

Albus_Alumni

I often describe how I'm feeling with very dramatic hand gestures and stupid facial expressions, as often finding words for it is tough. But just writing things down often helps me a tonne, so maybe not poetry, but journaling could be a something to try next?

But yes, sitting with those emotions for a bit is the right thing to do for sure, I really hope you feel a bit better soon. 😊

OverlyAnxious

I hate feelings. Would find life easier without them. People have often suggested I must have the illness of depression because of a general low mood. But from what I've read, depression is about feeling numb, or feeling nothing at all…that sounds like absolute bliss compared to feeling everything, everywhere, all the time! The only way I can manage is by trying to supress all feelings as much as possible, and trying to avoid anything that will create more of them. I can't say that's a positive or sustainable strategy though.

whistles

Currently I feel numb after experiencing loss over Christmas.

Does Scope have a helpline that I can call to be signposted etc tomorrow?

Keeping a journal is a good idea and I have a thoughts lists at the front and to do list, might need to do list at the back.

The words and feelings for today is.

What

How

Why

Rosie_Scope

Hi @whistles, I'm really sorry for your loss. It can be a really difficult time of year, I hope you're doing okay in the circumstances. Please do reach out if you need to.

Scope's helpline is here:

Helpline | Disability charity Scope UK

They can help with all sorts of things so feel free to give them a ring or send an email 😊 the holiday opening times are on the page that I've shared.

whistles

Thank you.

JessieJ

I'm so sorry for your loss, @whistles & I know how you feel as my uncle passed away yesterday, a bit of a shock. I ran out of tears last night, today I feel numb.

whistles

I am losing my home as well as it's being sold on.

Trying to look for the positives but I havent had chance to start grieving. Still at the shock, numb, disbelief phase.