Friendship's

rammy

How do other disabled people find non disabled people when it comes to friendship etc. do they have similar experiences of unanswered phone calls, and promises that's never materialize?

Rosie_Scope

I think some people understand and some find it difficult. I've had a few friendships fade away as I haven't been able to keep up with them or they haven't slowed down for me, but the ones that stay feel like the best ones anyway.

It's always disappointing when people don't make an effort for you though. It can definitely really hurt when people cancel on you or don't answer your calls, especially if you're pretty isolated otherwise. Hope you're doing okay!

luvpink

Most of my friends are not disabled.

I just put myself out there and went to local social clubs where I met the locals.

We live in a 'holiday' town and we get overrun with tourists but we are a good local community and we have our own social events and members only clubs.

Nikk

I don't really have many friends since I became ill. I found that those that don't understand,have slowly distanced themselves. So in that respect I found I have to take care of number one. Myself 😀

Nikk

They perhaps in thier own way trying to give you the occasional update as to what's going on in the outside world to to keep you in the loop, I wouldn't read too much into it. Just look after you chick you are the important one x

Nikk

It's a good thing not to dwell on it I myself have a mobility scooter but cannot use it now since a life altering operation last year so I'm bedbound now. My circle of friends diminished over 15 years ago. But we plod on get on with it , and thankful I'm alive. X

egister

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1029667#Comment_1029667

With age, even completely healthy people have fewer and fewer friends. This is completely natural. They continue to communicate with those who are useful in one way or another, sometimes in a very unexpected way).