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Hi, my name is pedro2628!

pedro2628pedro2628 Member Posts: 6 Listener
Hi to all,
I'm new to the group and look forward to taking part in any discussions.

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  • Ami2301Ami2301 Member Posts: 7,418 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @pedro2628 welcome to the community! Would you like to tell us a bit about yourself? :)
    Disability Gamechanger - 2019
  • steve51steve51 Member Posts: 7,175 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @pedro2628

    Good Evening & Welcome it’s great to meet you today!!!!!!!!

    I am one off the “Community Champion’s”

    We are here to help & support you in and around our “community”
  • pedro2628pedro2628 Member Posts: 6 Listener
    Hi Ami2301and Steve51.
    Well I became (disabled)after a mining accident 1983,resulting in me being bed bound for a considerable amount of time,then after various treatments I went under the knife so to speak and after three operations was worse off and told I wouldn't ever work again in any capacity, has i also had mental issues as well as physical ones.
    Fast forward 15yrs and the Goverment at the time decided I was able to hold a job down and took me off benefits but I managed to get and keep my disability pension of 52% but as you realise it was a struggle because I had a partner and kids to provide for,anyway I was able too hold a job down but with days off sometimes weeks got made redundant after 9yrs.
    So after a 12 week lay off got a job selling beds and carpets but little did I know what was to come,my partner got breast cancer and had to battle not only cancer but after her operation the wound site got badly infected so after 16 weeks of healing unfortunately resulting in a spell in mental hospital three times,because she tried to commit suicide three times.
    I'm now a carer for her with family help we got by but unfortunately my mental illness worsened so had to go onto medication and counselling as I blame myself for not being able to be there for my
     partner because of my own health issues.
    Any way sorry for the long post but its because of a lot of issues and not just one thing.

  • Ami2301Ami2301 Member Posts: 7,418 Disability Gamechanger
    I am terribly sorry for all that you, your wife, and your family have been through. Do you feel that counselling has helped in any way?
    Disability Gamechanger - 2019
  • Richard_ScopeRichard_Scope Posts: 2,723

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  • Antonia_AlumniAntonia_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 1,781 Pioneering
    Hi @pedro2628

    Thank you for sharing your story with us, please do not be sorry, we understand. I am so sorry to hear about what you and wife have been through. Please do have a look at our carers  page and mental health page. Feel free to ask us any questions and how we can support you. :) 
  • steve51steve51 Member Posts: 7,175 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @pedro2628

    “Please Please”

    Don’t be “Sorry” 😐
    for your “Post/Posts”

    That is what we are all here for????

    You can post on here as & when required.

    Please let me know if I can help you further??


  • pedro2628pedro2628 Member Posts: 6 Listener
    Thank you to all who reply'ed to my post,I'm not to computer savvy so excuse me for not getting back to you all. I'm not to well at minute but got to get through it tomorrow will be a better day
  • Pippa_AlumniPippa_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 5,851 Disability Gamechanger
    Great to meet you @pedro2628, and no worries at all. You can click here to read our community guide, which may help you get started!
  • steve51steve51 Member Posts: 7,175 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @pedro2628

    I am very very sorry 😐 to read that today isn’t a good day!!!!’

    “Yes Yes” tomorrow will be a much better day!!!!!

    Please please let me know if you need a hand 👍👍👍👍👍
    around the “Community”


  • thespicemanthespiceman Member Posts: 6,408 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @pedro2628 Sorry to hear you not too good . Mental health.

    I am myself suffer with mental health issues.

    You have come to the right place for support and information.  Please can I add as a community we are here to support, give advice listen a be a friend.

    You are a valued member of our community.

    I hope we can help please ask if we can.

    Take care.

    @thespiceman
    Community Champion
    SCOPE Volunteer Award Engaging Communities 2019
    Mental Health advice, guidance and information to all members
    Nutrition, Diet, Wellbeing, Addiction.
    Recipes
  • pedro2628pedro2628 Member Posts: 6 Listener
    Thank you thespiceman_some times you think your all alone even if my partner plus my family is at side of me feeling so down and in pain from my back. I get to verbally aggressive towards them I have to get out of the situation before it gets to bad,then the depression kicks in then anxiety tears its ugly head overthinking the problem.will be so glad when xmas is over and I can get my CBT appointments 
  • steve51steve51 Member Posts: 7,175 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @pedro2628

    I’m very very sorry to hear about your current problems/situation!!!!

    Yes you need to get out of the “doom & gloom” if possible???

    Yes I have also got “chronic pain 24/7”

    Please please please let me know if I can help/support you in getting back on “Track”

    If that would be “helpful” ?????


  • thespicemanthespiceman Member Posts: 6,408 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @pedro2628 Thank you for your reply.

    One thing I learnt with mental health is there are some solutions and answers. Not to cure the problems but to ease the situations.

    All of us have had knockbacks, heartbreak and it seems a never ending hole we are in and get stuck in this rut. Clambering out if we can.

    You are going for CBT . To some people this sometimes works in my case dealing with my mental health it did not.

    I wish you well with any of that and hope it is the right course for you. One other suggestion after being with my illness. For over twenty plus year is to find coping methods and strategies.

    Many mental health charities offer this in support group setting with other people.  Who are like your self. Only monthly meetings include courses on lifestyle, sleep and diet, medication, other factors.  Could be useful to consider.

    I used mental health charities . One I used has a recovery programme. Involves setting goals and aims in a plan. That you set yourself with advice from a designated support worker.

    Plus other contributory advice on benefits and sign posting you to relevant organisations that you could be useful to help you.

    Called https://wwwrichmondfellowship.org.uk.

    Hope that might help.

    Using the tools they provide made me understand myself a lot better.

    Pleasure to meet you .

    Take care.

    @thespiceman
    Community Champion
    SCOPE Volunteer Award Engaging Communities 2019
    Mental Health advice, guidance and information to all members
    Nutrition, Diet, Wellbeing, Addiction.
    Recipes
  • pedro2628pedro2628 Member Posts: 6 Listener
    Hi to you spiceman.thanks for the info my friend re group therapies unfortunately I'm not to good in a group setting prefare one to one, I also received a gift of a cocker spaniel dog on my birthday in March which gave me an insenstive to take her out for walks but I think I wanted to run before I could walk and over done it re my back and damaged nerves put me on a downer and then my dad passing away unfortunately did me hence a trip to doc's and self referral to CBT. I had managed to control my back problem from 1983 till know but with other issues since 3yrs ago im in a dark place im fighting it but it totaly wipes me out most days.but tomorrow will be a better day 
  • thespicemanthespiceman Member Posts: 6,408 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @pedro2628 Thank you for the reply.

    Sorry if this is difficult for you being in groups. It is one to one with your designated support worker they give you.  You are given a set of goals and aims. 

    Then the choice is yours to go to monthly meetings. Usually with other people like your self.  

    Just thought might be useful to you.

    Sorry if that was not clear.  

    Always here if you want some one to listen.  Ask for anything, be a friend.  Have a chat maybe.

    Please take care.

    @thespiceman



    Community Champion
    SCOPE Volunteer Award Engaging Communities 2019
    Mental Health advice, guidance and information to all members
    Nutrition, Diet, Wellbeing, Addiction.
    Recipes
  • Sam_AlumniSam_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,731 Disability Gamechanger
    Welcome to the community @pedro2628 - I am so sorry you have had such a difficult time, it sounds extremely stressful. I hope you find a little comfort here on the community, we are a friendly group and we understand a lot so jump in and get involved and let me know if you have any problems we can help with.
    Scope
    Senior online community officer
  • blue_zebrablue_zebra Member Posts: 74 Connected
    Hi there @pedro2628

    Wishing you a warm welcome his holiday, happy to help should you need assistance. 

    Hope you are enjoying the festivities and have a lovely new year. 

    Kind regards 

    @blue_zebra

    💙  @blue_zebra 💙
    Community Champion 

    &

    ♿️💪🏻 EDSWarrior 💪🏻♿️



  • pedro2628pedro2628 Member Posts: 6 Listener
    Many thanks for the welcome,sorry I've not been on before now but not been to well so had to make a visit to docs. I'm not too bad at min up my tablets and seeing a councillor,so onwards and upwards 
  • steve51steve51 Member Posts: 7,175 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @pedro2628

    No probs it’s great to have you back onboard.

    Please please give me a shout if you need any help/support????

    @steve51

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