Hi, i have a nearly 18 year old with CP struggling to make friends

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nickising
nickising Community member Posts: 2 Listener
edited October 2020 in Start here and say hello!
HI All
First timer here, im very worried about my nearly 18 year old, she has mild CP but struggles to maintain friends and id love to help her meet friends with similar abilities so then she has someone to talk too - any ideas?
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  • janer1967
    janer1967 Community member Posts: 21,964 Championing
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    Hi and welcome I dont really have an answer but there is a fb group called outsiders which is for people to make new friends and dating 

    I will tag in our CP expert too who may offer more help 

    We also gave a weekly CP meeting on here held on mondays 
  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Scope Posts: 12,499 Championing
    edited October 2020
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    Welcome to the community @nickising :) I'm sorry to hear that you're worried, but we're here to try and help.

    As Jane said, @Richard_Scope is our Specialist Information Officer for cerebral palsy, so I'm sure he'll have some advice for you. I'll also tag in @Chloe_Scope.

    Have you or your daughter ever heard of CP Teens? They're a really great charity for young people with CP!

    National Campaigns Officer at Scope, she/her

  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,200 Championing
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    Hi @nickising - Welcome to the community. I think it may be the Outsiders club that Jane mentioned above: https://www.outsiders.org.uk/outsidersclub/club/the-outsiders-club/  which I've heard good about. Unfortunately the CP Online Cafe on Mondays currently is for those who are 25+. :)

  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Scope Posts: 12,499 Championing
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    I believe the age limit has been changed to 20+ now @chiarieds, but your point stands.

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  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,200 Championing
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    Thank you for the update @Tori_Scope - the link on this page & post about the Cafe perhaps need changing then?
  • Richard_Scope
    Richard_Scope Posts: 3,638 Scope online community team
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    Hi @nickising
    Good to meet you! 
    What sort of thing interests your daughter? When you say that she struggles to maintain friendships, how does that appear? 
    Your daughter would be very welcome to join us here on the community and CP Teens are very very good too. 

    Scope
    Cerebral Palsy Programme Lead

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  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Scope Posts: 12,499 Championing
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    Apologies I missed this earlier @chiarieds! Do you mean this post

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  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,200 Championing
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    Yes, @Tori_Scope , & also the link to the CP Cafe, which appears to the right for me on this page in a green box using a PC, but which may appear elsewhere for those connecting differently. If the age limit has changed, I've missed this, but perhaps updating things will show somewhat younger people with CP that they can now join in.
  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Scope Posts: 12,499 Championing
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    Ahh yes, on the messages down the side. Good spot @chiarieds! Thanks. We'll get on that tomorrow :) 

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  • Cher_Alumni
    Cher_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 5,734 Championing
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    The message should be fixed down the side now, thank you @chiarieds :)

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  • Chloe_Scope
    Chloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,581 Championing
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    Hi @nickising and welcome to the community. :) 

    I have mild CP too. CP Teens UK is a great organisation. What does your daughter enjoy doing? :)
    Scope

  • nickising
    nickising Community member Posts: 2 Listener
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    HI @Chloe_Scope
    She loves music....especially kylie minogue :-) she loves netflix, especially things like Glee
  • Chloe_Scope
    Chloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,581 Championing
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    Sounds great @nickising
    Scope

  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Scope Posts: 12,499 Championing
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    Does she enjoy singing @nickising? Would joining a virtual choir interest her at all? 

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  • Richard_Scope
    Richard_Scope Posts: 3,638 Scope online community team
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    Hi @nickising
    How are you and your daughter?

    Scope
    Cerebral Palsy Programme Lead

    'Concerned about another member's safety or wellbeing? Flag your concerns with us.'

    Want to tell us about your experience in the community? Talk to our

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  • GingerNinja2020
    GingerNinja2020 Community member Posts: 26 Connected
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    janer1967 said:
    Hi and welcome I dont really have an answer but there is a fb group called outsiders which is for people to make new friends and dating 

    I will tag in our CP expert too who may offer more help 

    We also gave a weekly CP meeting on here held on mondays 
    Hello how are you?
    Could I join it to?
    I am wanting to make new friends around my area which is Derby or around 
    In Derby there isn’t a lot of youth clubs to go to and to make friends with some similarities to me if that makes sense?
    Hope you are all well and safe ?
  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,200 Championing
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    Hi @GingerNinja2020 - Here's the link to the Outsider's club, which of course you could join. Please see: https://www.outsiders.org.uk/outsidersclub/club/the-outsiders-club/
    It's an online community, but they do hold lunches for people to meet, which may not be happening right now due to Covid-19, but I hope you feel it's still worth looking into. :)

  • GingerNinja2020
    GingerNinja2020 Community member Posts: 26 Connected
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    chiarieds said:
    Hi @GingerNinja2020 - Here's the link to the Outsider's club, which of course you could join. Please see: https://www.outsiders.org.uk/outsidersclub/club/the-outsiders-club/
    It's an online community, but they do hold lunches for people to meet, which may not be happening right now due to Covid-19, but I hope you feel it's still worth looking into. :)

    Hi thank you for the reply I am in Derby and on the personal questioner it says do you live in one of theses areas?
    what would you classify Derby under as?
    Derby East Midlands 
  • GingerNinja2020
    GingerNinja2020 Community member Posts: 26 Connected
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    nickising said:
    HI All
    First timer here, im very worried about my nearly 18 year old, she has mild CP but struggles to maintain friends and id love to help her meet friends with similar abilities so then she has someone to talk too - any ideas?
    Hi Nickising 
    I love to be friends with her 
    I have learning disabilities, heart murmur and speech problems sometimes 
    Have you tried any local youth clubs?
    Tried any Facebook groups that are local or in the same country?
    Hope this would help ?
  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,200 Championing
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    Hi @GingerNinja2020 - East Midlands does include Derbyshire. :)