Hi, my name is mum123! Don't know where to start with potential house move, any advice?

mum123
mum123 Online Community Member Posts: 4 Listener
edited April 27 in Housing and independent living

hi I’m new to the sight and looking for support. Am disabled I also have an adult autistic/ADHD Son .

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  • luvpink
    luvpink Online Community Member Posts: 2,095 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/130777/hi-my-name-is-mum123

    Hi and a very warm welcome to the community.

  • Bluebell21
    Bluebell21 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 11,626 Championing

    Hi @mum123 Welcome to the Community from me too. I hope you enjoy your time on the forum. Any questions just ask.

    Have a look around and join in when you are ready.

    Take care.

  • mum123
    mum123 Online Community Member Posts: 4 Listener

    hi I’m not sure where to start .ok I have COPD (lung emphysema) I has a sudden heart attack in September.and I also have lots of other medical conditions.As you can imagine my son was suffers from anxiety He requested that he wanted to be with his brother who live in Kent with his fiancé and her family so his brother came to keep him calm.my disabled son his now asking to be with his brother more . I’ve been driving down to Kent every other weekend and we stay in a hotel for the weekend so he can spend more time with him.the driving is putting a strain on my health .my autistic son have now asked if we can move closer to his brother in Kent and we live in a housing association property near Heathrow Airport. I just don’t know where to start if anyone can give me any advice it would be much appreciated.

  • Holly_Scope
    Holly_Scope Posts: 2,455 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Hi @mum123 sorry you've not had a response to this yet. Bless you, you have a lot on your plate and that's quite a predicament with family being so far away. Especially with the strain travelling and staying in hotels is putting on you all, as well as the financial costs of doing this. Do you have any day to day support for you and your family where you are at the minute? Is moving closer to family something you're thinking about?

  • Kiki23
    Kiki23 Online Community Member Posts: 34 Connected
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/994184#Comment_994184

    Have you tried getting in touch with your Housing association yet @mum123 ? They will probably be able to get the ball rolling for you with arranging a possible transfer for you so you can be nearer to your son

  • mum123
    mum123 Online Community Member Posts: 4 Listener

    hi sorry for non response. I kind of feel ashamed .thank you all for your reply’s I have now been in contact with my housing team and I’m just waiting between 4-12 weeks for a written reply. I don’t have any support from outside myself my partner and son support each other.great advice.thank you all.

  • Holly_Scope
    Holly_Scope Posts: 2,455 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Please don't feel ashamed @mum123 you have absolutely no reason to be! You sound like an amazing Mum who is doing so much for your family, and doing a lot of this on your own whilst dealing with your own health issues.

    It might be worth reaching out for a care needs assessment which is completed by the NHS to look at your needs, and the needs of your family, and potential support that might be available to you. I've added the link below:

    Getting a care needs assessment - Social care and support guide - NHS

    Please remember that you're doing a fantastic job. Remember to take care of you too 💛Please keep us updated with how things are going (if you're happy to).

    Best wishes,

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