Going to leave my job after three weeks I did try. Yesterday
I went to a meeting with my boss’s senior; my boss wouldn’t even look at me.
They had this big pull across door which they never use in the time I worked there;
soon as I went in they used it nobody wanted to talk to me pulled it shut. I
went in even after what had happened in the office, with simply writing an
email to say I felt uncomfortable when I was by myself with my boss. I made
some points to discuss, but she just didn’t want to listen instead she pulled
out a folder on an investigation she had been doing whilst she had put me on
annual leave and took my boss that happens to be her in son in law's word over
mine which I kind of expected. She made me out to be a liar, saying things like
‘it’s not all about you’, ‘how dare you throw back my act of generosity back at
me?’, when all I did was ask why the week of annual leave when all I did was
one simple email asking to discuss my concerns. When I did bring up about ACAS
getting advice she said they were all wrong, and ‘whatever.’
I went in with an open mind, but she just wasn’t interested.
She then said she had a HR consultant that she was getting advice and was
writing down what I said the whole thing just made me very uncomfortable. The
main reason I didn’t feel happy was the fact I was made out to be stupid
because I was autistic, I was made to feel like I couldn’t use a computer
properly to transport such as the bus and the train. I simply asked her that I
wanted to feel equal just as anyone else in the office, not to feel different.
She just said ‘you always say that don’t you?’, and that ‘I was the one who
should be listening to her.’ She then pulled out the file she put together on
me, and told me she had taken statements from all the staff about me, and they
said how they didn’t like me and I didn’t fit in. Just felt really hurtful, I
really tried my best to fit in. I know I am different, but I did try.
I think the worst bit is that my boss’s senior said I was in
the wrong for leaving work early that day before annual leave, she said ‘I
should have put you on compassionate leave so it would be on your record.’ She
had also been in contact with the people who funded my internship, and said
that day you left ‘you must have been one heck of a state’; she made feel so
horrible and got nasty and so toxic. The whole workplace was so I am going to
leave. Just waiting to see what she emails me first as part of ‘the
investigation.’ All because I rose the concern that I wanted to be talked to
normally, not have my disability made fun of. My boss got to put his statement
in, and she took his word over mine and just said no that’s not true, well I
have information that states otherwise. I went in hoping to give the job
another go, but ended up being attacked all sides so just gave up. I contacted
the people who funded my internship and they just had the attitude ‘deal with
it yourself.’
I think the worst bit was she kept saying ‘other people this’,
‘other people would understand that’, and maybe you don’t know how an office
works. Honestly one of the nastiest experiences ever had and to be turned on
felt horrible. I felt embarrassed to cry on the bus home, but after all the
work I put in and everything. She even said ‘I don’t even know if you did the
work properly in the first place.’ I did turn round and say I wanted to give
the job a go, ‘not sure about that’, and that I am still not allowed in the
office at all. Feels pretty disgusting, but I guess it’s of the culture ‘put up
and shut up.’ I just felt so angry how
she made me out to be, I went there with an open mind and just got a file of
information she had made on me in my face. Didn’t even know what it all said
and what all for? When she could have just talked things through, but as she
told me ‘that would have been pointless as you don’t understand anything I say.’
