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Dr Tuppy Owens 12 November 1944 - 28th February 2025
Hello Everyone, The unique and indefatigable Dr Tuppy Owens passed away peacefully on Friday, 28th February 2025, from vascular dementia. A wonderful colleague and friend. Tuppy’s life revolved around her two loves: The Outsiders Trust (including the Club, SHADA and the TLC-Trust) and her life on the croft with her…
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Deep Dive into Daily Disgusts
An evening exploring our Daily Disgusts and the taboos around our bodies Are you ready to get comfortable with being a bit uncomfortable? This event will bring Talking Taboos’s signature practical frankness to a deep dive into why and how we experience daily disgust at our own bodies, and how this has led to serious health…
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Being held and bodily pride: What touch deprivation does to the self-esteem of disabled people
October is Pro-Touch Awareness Month and as a part of the campaign to raise awareness of the importance of consensual touch and physical closeness We reshare this excellent blog. This article was written by @pattern1991 and is shared here with permission. Whilst it's true that many of us have been, and are, still unable to…
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Relationship advice, looking for a girlfriend
Need a girlfriend
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I need help understanding if I'm in an abusive relationship
i need help understanding if i’m in a abusive relationship because he breaks up with me over me saying that i want to make new friends and i struggle with that because i have autism and i don’t really know what to do or go from here. i’ve been with him for five years and he says my actions are to blame for every fight we…
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Emotionally Torn
I have a girlfriend who I will have been with for 5 years next week. She’s kind and caring and has a good heart. We moved out of her mum’s house and into our own house almost a year ago now and while she’s quiet I feel like she makes the decisions. She has been on two holidays while we’ve been here, she goes out for food…
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Does she like me?
35-year-old autistic male here. Quite recently a very good friend of mine (57-year-old non-autistic female) told me that she had a dream in which I asked her to marry me and she accepted. She said afterwards, "If the thought ever entered your mind, you know my response." Would you all call this definite, irrefutable proof…
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Just a quick question
ok if I have 3 god kids love them all and their mom and would do anything for them and do everything for them, well something happened today I just need to know I I should walk away. We went to have some fun and I always pay for them even when I don’t invite them but we was fixing to head out to go home and we stoped into…
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What do you guys think ?
I have a boyfriend since 1 year. It is a happy very peaceful relationship. He is planning to move in with me, posts me often on his WhatsApp etc. on his fb he has displayed on his relationship status : “ in a relationship”. I have just checked it today and I have realised that the relationship status completely disappeared…
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Dating with a physical disability and health conditions
Hi everyone, I'm 29 and since I was 15 I've had a right sided weakness from a stroke during brain surgery for a pituitary tumour. I can walk but struggle any great distance and uneven ground/ stairs etc. I struggle to believe that a guy would accept me as I am because of the fact I can't do activities that rely on walking…
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Research Participants wanted!
Hi Everyone! My name is Bev Enion, and I am a second-year PhD researcher at the University of Sheffield. I am researching how disability and intimacy are represented on Instagram. An Instagram account is not needed to take part in this research. I am looking to speak to women who are over the age of 18 and who have a…
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Sad
I have a wonderful fiancéewho is a low earner worker and looks after me all the time when I get migraines all the time I feel sad I can’t work and won’t ever be on a good income and that partner works and I don’t
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How my disability became a secret weapon on the dating scene
From Women's Agenda by Lisa Cox I’ve been happily married for over 11 years but back when I was dating with a disability, I unexpectedly found it to be a way to weed out the w*nkers. Dating with a disability was a whole new experience for me after acquiring my visible and invisible disabilities in my early twenties. It was…
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I'm new
I'm worried about having sex, they may not wear a condom which I want. Just my know safety and getting to know them more in a relationship before having it. Putting rules in place
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relationship advice :(
Hello, I need advice. It's so hard to give context from both sides, but I am going to try my level best here. I have been with my boyfriend for a year, yesterday I walked out and came to my dad's house feeling desperately unsure and sad. We had real healthy love initially, yes, we argued, but we handled the arguments with…
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Edinburgh man lifts lid on dating with a disability: 'People are so scared of offending you'
From Edinburgh Live ‘It took me 27 years to consider the idea that I could date people' Calum Grevers is on a mission to show what it’s like dating as a disabled person, in the hopes of knocking down the assumptions he believes is stopping people from broadening their horizons. The 31-year-old, who has muscular dystrophy,…
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Been impotent is getting me down.
I'm a disabled male of 46, my wife is a 37 year old lass, due to my disabilities and ill health, ive not been able to have full sex and I feel it's starting to get me down, I was prescribed diagram off my GP but the pains in chest and the headaches after I stopped taking them, I'm just sad has I would love to have sex with…
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Erection Help & Advice Wanted
Greetings from Milton Keynes man. About 10 years ago I gave up my job to become the main carer for my wife until her death. So no intimacy possibly for over 10 years as she was a wheelchair user etc. I have now found someone from Nigeria that I am due to marry shortly. But I am a Type 2 Diabetic and probably have…
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I May Have A Date. Advice Please?
I go into my bank in person to withdraw some money. And over time I have developed a rapport with this one particular girl. I mentioned to her casually, although I meant it one day she was Gergeous. And she is. Around a few months ago I went in to draw some money and I asked her for her number. You are not having my number…
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Interested in More Touch and Affection in Your Life? 💛
Are you disabled? Are you non-disabled? Either way—you’re invited to join us in creating something special.We’re building inclusive, welcoming workshops for: People with physical disabilities Neurodivergent people Their friends, allies & curious peers All focused on affectionate touch, consent, and connection.Join Us for…
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Claiming Intimacy as a Disabled Woman
Full article from New Mobility I first contemplated sex as a disabled woman 35 years ago while sitting through the standard sex talk in inpatient rehab. A group of us, mostly men (as 78% of people with SCI identify as male), watched an uncomfortable video of paralysed people engaging in sexual activity and listened to…
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Question about getting married and living apart or together with benefits
Hi Myself and my partner are looking to get married. We would like to find out if getting married and living apart would affect our benefits PIP and UC? And also weather living together with or without being married would affect our benefits to? Would anyone in Consensus know or give any advise on this or do you have any…
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From Sex To Ghosting, These Are The Realities Of Dating With A Disability
From Elle When Frances Ryan began researching her new book Who Wants To Be Normal?, she discovered that there's one part of life that's stuck in the dark ages for disabled women. ‘Can you have sex?’ It is not exactly a charming come-on straight out of a Nora Ephron movie, but it is something I, and I’d bet many other…
