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My disability does not define me
Today, in town, I was approached by a male in his 30's. He asked me what's wrong with me and numerous potential responses came to mind (ranging from it's none of your business to briefly outlining my disabilities. ) I chose the latter. His reply was this " you are so brave and inspirational" my initial thoughts were "no, I did not choose to have my disabilities. it is not a achievement and I would hope that I'm not seen as the girl in the wheelchair. This is what frustrates me, I seem to be regarded as 'the disabled girl' and am expected to comply with societies expectation of a disabled person... completely overlooking me as an individual. for example, I overheard a few fellow students talking about me. instead of identifying me as Phoenix, the media student with a short black hair, they said and I quote "you know who I mean, the girl in the wheelchair" I'm sure I'm not alone in experiencing this and I am also sure they meant no offence. However, regardless of their intentions I was upset. The only reason I chose to outline my disability to the man today was for educational purposes. But he didn't understand. I used to be more tolerant of other's curiosity. my philosophy once was if it's better to ask than to come to false assumptions. But, as a 21 year old, I desire to be treated as an individual and accepted for who I am rather than my disability. rant over