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Sibce yesturday iv been on a low and really needed to get things of my chest.  I tried turning to my partner for a bit of support but it just turned into a massive arguement which made me just feel worthless and effortless.  I as hoping she would come see me for abit today to try to cheer me up as i go to hers all the time so i was hoping for some compromise,  but shes refusing too aknowledge anything with how i am feeling.  She had 2 days off work and i just feel worthless and effortless.  I love her,  but reaching out for her support is difficult when shes pushing me away.  I cant even ring her if i need her.  I. Just so lost 


  • Chloe_Scope
    Chloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,565 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Haleyjane, I'm really sorry to hear you are feeling lost, that cannot be a pleasant feeling at all. It's great that you did turn to your partner but I'm sorry it didn't go to plan. You are extremely valued and I hope we will be able to help some way.

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  • Richard_Scope
    Richard_Scope Posts: 2,943

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    Hi @Hayleyjane
    Relationships can be tough at the best of times and especially tough when we try to open up about something that is bothering us. Being open about how we feel is good and empowering so you should not feel bad about that. Perhaps when you and your partner have had time to cool down it will be easier to re-open the lines of communication. How is counselling going?
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  • Misscleo
    Misscleo Member Posts: 647 Pioneering

    Have you thought how your partners feeling?
    She had 2 days off work you said so maybe she's ill. have you asked if you can help her with anything. 
    It takes 2 to keep a relationship working. Maybe shes struggerling and wonders why SHES not getting any help from you.

  • April2018mom
    April2018mom Posts: 2,869 Member
    It takes two to make a relationship work properly. Have you talked to your partner or not? Keep us updated. How is counselling? Is that helping you or not?
  • Topkitten
    Topkitten Member Posts: 1,285 Pioneering
    When my condition was diagnosed I was in a relationship but the 18 months waiting for the diagnosis and the surgery date was very stressful and she walked out with her 2 children. That was in 2005 and I haven't been in any relationship since (not even on a date, lol!). I have had half a dozen ladies trying to push their way into my life but I refused all advances as they couldn't possibly understand the difficult situation they would be walking into. Living alone has it's down-sides but overall the up-sides have won out. The freedom of choosing what I do and when is quite liberating as is removing the reliance on another person.

    All I can suggest is to keep talking and be honest (completely so) about how you feel and what you think isn't right; There is obviously a risk doing this but if she uses such honesty to make things worse then you would be better off out of the whole situation.

    "I'm on the wrong side of heaven and the righteous side of hell" - from Wrong side of heaven by Five Finger Death Punch.
  • Chloe_Scope
    Chloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,565 Disability Gamechanger
    Thank you everyone for your advice!

    I hope you are doing okay this morning @Haleyjane.



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