Son won't leave bedroom

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SaraJS1306

Hi, I'm new on this site with a newly diagnosed ASD son aged 16.

Before the diagnosis, my son hated school and was frequently absent resulting in me home schooling him, which worked out well and he achieved 4 GCSE's. 

Post GCSE's he doesn't know what to do and I don't know how to help him.

He recently started a college course for Game Design which is 3 days per week and even though he made a friend, he finds the whole college scene awkward and is regularly absent and withdrawing again. He has very narrow interests and only really wants to stay in his room gaming.

The more I try to talk and encourage him the more pressured and depressed he looks.

Any ideas welcome. Thanks

April2018mom

Hello @SaraJS1306. Welcome to the forums.
 
Does he have a therapist or not? You could try luring him out of the room. Have you discussed things with his course leader/teacher? He/she may have some more tips for you. What about a apprenticeship? I say you should sit down and talk with him as well. He cannot keep on cutting himself off. It is not healthy. Encourage him to carry on. Is he always like this? There are special courses run for those with care needs. 

Involve him in the decision making process but only offer him one or two choices each time. Outline all of the consequences additionally. Can you ask for a teacher’s meeting? Explain your fears etc. Discuss techniques and ways to get him to socialise with other people. Are there any activities in the area for him to attend? Have you requested a needs assessment? If not you can call the local council to ask about this.

Don’t forget to obtain a copy of the report afterwards.