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Nerves for tomorrow

Hello everyone,
I am just looking for some advice really.
I am just looking for some advice really.
I have fibromyalgia and have recently had to give up work. Tomorrow I have an appointment with my (not very supportive) doctor to get a not fit for work note. My anxiety is through the roof and I’m worried he will just turn me away. He hasn’t been helpful in general and I don’t have the option to move practises as there is no others near to me.
I think I just need some reassurance to be honest. I know I’m too sick to work, I have spent the last two years trying to and failing. Have made many changes to my work such as less hours and work but I just feel awful all of the time. I then worry about being sick for work which makes me more I’ll as stress makes me flare. It’s just a vicious circle.
Sorry to rant at you all.
Thank you.
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Thank you for joining and sharing.
Sorry to hear this. I am afraid some Doctors are like this.
I am one of the team of Community Champions.
We guide, advise and help support members of our Community.
Please may I suggest an idea for you always write down what you wish to say to a Doctor.
Please can you read this, thank you if he refused.
Then leave and contact this organisation.
https://www.rethink.org.
There are a mental health charity you mentioned anxiety. They offer an advocate service.
Means some one is going to speak on your behalf the GP.
Discuss and say first what you wish to say useful suggestions ideas.
Works all the time because no medical professional likes to be challenged ,scrutinised and told your not helping.
First time I used RETHINK told Practice Manager and Receptionist the attitude changed. Remember arriving surgery door and the whole demeanour changed.
Ask her advice come down anytime and any questions.
With mental health combination of meds and diet and nutrition plus alternative therapies do work for me hence my user name.
Other ones do the same and offer floating support and much advice information on wellbeing your issues and anything else including benefits.
Employment difficulties.
https://www.richmondfellowship.org.uk.
https://www.mind.org.uk.
I would also think about this organisation . Please have a look.
https://www.fmauk.org.
Helpline 0300 999 3333
Main organisation on fibromyalgia .
Going also to tag in my friend @debbiedo49 who has the condition lots of support and advice.
This is something to look at a lot of foods we eat need to be thinking are they helping or hindering my health.
Consider the fodmap website, I know certain foods set off flare ups and associated problems.
https://www.ibsdiets.org/fodmap
Reading in my own files on the condition, I have a library of information, health and literature to help those with health issues.
I have qualifications in nutrition and interest in food diet and use this to advise members as well my own issues.
IBS is quite common if you do suffer from that then please look at fodmap website, I am glad to give you the IBS website as well.
Just a precaution, always useful.
Do a food exclusion diet and diary any foods make you ill avoid them note it down and so on.
https://www.theibsnetwork.org.
Helpline 0114 272 3253
Please if you wish to know any thing else please ask happy to be supportive.
Please take care.
@thespiceman
SCOPE Volunteer Award Engaging Communities 2019
Mental Health advice, guidance and information to all members
Nutrition, Diet, Wellbeing, Addiction.
Recipes
I am sorry that your doctor has not been supportive. There has been some great advice already given! Writing things down that you would like to stay to your doctor can help too, in case you get nervous or forget.
I hope the appointment goes well and do let us know what happens.
Han
Worth doing, if you do apply this will not happen again.
My story the Doctors. Moved to an area, first visit Doctor talking to me like a child who has wet his pants, scolding.
Demeaning, condescending, all in seven minutes gone. Me shocked.
Discussed this with my wonderful, fantastic support. Lovely lady .
Contacted RETHINK, met member of staff. Asked me what I like to say offer suggestions, ideas.
Discussed this with support worker and myself, next thing appointment due again.
Sick notes and more to discuss, am and find have a lot of knowledge on my conditions.
RETHINK staff member turned up with me in attendance. Doctors demeanour changed in a split second, I had RETHINK staff member explain everything.
Apology followed then staff member explained about me, again Doctor explained did not know this.
That was the end, now go down got anything I wish for. Supportive in claims, illness and advice.
Use my own health diet and nutritional knowledge to ask any thing else Doctor can add.
Please consider looking at what I have given to you.
The information and organisations are relevant and important to help you.
Please also note Doctors are there to issue three months sick notes, offer advice and information. Be supportive, but not run your life for you.
Do make decisions and be responsible for your health. Up to a point.
They can do so much, I found that now the old days of Doctors are gone.
One rural practice late evening had cup of tea and a chat that was a long time ago.
Now a speedy conveyor belt of a systems heard my surgery be open might be weekends.
Think of this most surgeries my is open early till late at night.
You have to be thinking then how can I do myself more to help my self.
I am in pain, is there anything I should be doing. Diet, nutrition wise, is there anything need to be fitness.
The web the net a source of finding some answers. Always consult GP if you do.
I forget to add one important aspect of mental health is the advisors the staff who have a lot of knowledge.
All branches has some one who is a health advisor, I worked with several ladies.
Even though a clientele because of my exceptional knowledge on addiction, qualifications willing to let others like me.
Do talks, chats sessions.
I do know had sessions on pain relief, meds, sleep, diet, nutrition, herbs, spices must add. That was me.
Exercise alternative therapies and much more.
One of the things you must understand when you apply and do leave eventually.
They expect you to cope have the tools.
In fact my folders found a lot am going to put this on. On pain relief the diet and nutrition you should be taking.
Supplied by mental health charities.
One other do bring members of health organisations in to groups.
Included benefit advisors, employment advisors. Looking at Mental Health Acts what we need to know.
Please hope that helps, gives you reassurance and confidence to apply.
Please any questions please ask me.
Please take care.
@thespiceman
SCOPE Volunteer Award Engaging Communities 2019
Mental Health advice, guidance and information to all members
Nutrition, Diet, Wellbeing, Addiction.
Recipes
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