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PamStan

We currently reside in a very large 3-bedded open plan terraced house with a hand reared fruit garden/rockery in a very large yard.  All sounds very grandiose but for the fact that I was able bodied with children when we moved in many years past.  

Now there is only me, my hubby and our two dogs.  We registered for re-housing approximately 10 years past.  All we want is a 2-bedded house or bungalow. 

I even joined the Housing Exchange program that for some strange reason constantly matches me to other 3-bedded houses or minimum 1st floor flats.

Each time I found a property, a red line popped up to say we did not 'fit the criteria'?  The criteria being only available for 'two or more' people?  Well I made the mistake of contacting the our re-housing team:

"Well there is me and my husband.  We do not share a bed because I have extensive spinal problems.

You could fit two beds into one room.

I have an adaptable bed situated downstairs.

Have you been assessed for adaptations.

Yes, the stairs are too steep and not wide enough to fit a stairlift.

Have you thought of a commode?

I beg your pardon!

Ask your GP or consultant to send us proof of your disabilities.

Are you going to pay the £50.00 fee per letter?

Sorry it is Policy.

If your husband was employed, and paying full rent, you would not have a problem...

My husband is employed.  The man has been employed for years and pays FULL RENT and Council Tax.

Oh well send us 3-months of bank statements as proof of income...

Why?  You can see from the rent account that he pays the rent?

Sorry it is Policy."

At that point, I gave up and told my husband it would be easier to buy the house and apply for grants to adjust it.

Right to Buy now capped at £70,000 discount NOT 70%.

That's alright., how much is the house worth?  Can't be that much surely?

1999:  £76,000.

2022:  £350,000
 
So here we still sit aged 50+ in our over-sized property, unadapted house that would be far better served to a young family.

PamStan

Forty plus years of debilitating health issues have left me at breaking point and I am unsure about which way to go?

I guess there are a few of you that feel 'much a much' the same way for a myriad of reasons so I am putting my faith in you to help clear a path back to coping.

poppy123456

What exactly do you need advice with? If you can give us some information then i'm sure someone will give advice or point you in the right direction.

Ross_Alumni

Hello @PamStan and welcome to the online community, thank you for joining us.

I appreciate you speaking so openly about how you feel. I'm sorry to hear that you feel as though you are at breaking point. 

If you ever want to discuss what you are going through then I'm sure that members on the community would be more than happy to support you. This is a very warm and welcoming site to be a part of, so I'm hopeful that you'll find it to be a positive outlet  

Do you receive any support from a GP or medical team for your health issues?