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Im feeling really lonely

Agnia
Agnia Community member Posts: 830 Connected
hi im completely on my own and im feeling really lonely im not coping with this situation 


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  • Beaver79
    Beaver79 Community member, Community Co-Production Group, Scope Member Posts: 15,661 Disability Gamechanger
    edited December 2023
    Hi @Agnia I am really sorry you are lonely, Christmas can be a isolating time. Do you go out at all?
    Your council should have a list of clubs and social meetings in your area. Do you have any neighbours you could talk. Is there a warm room near you that you could go to to meet people. There are always members on the forum to chat to and you could try some of the games in the Games Room under Categories and get to know people on the forum. Take care.
  • Agnia
    Agnia Community member Posts: 830 Connected
    Thank you @Beaver79
    i was outside 7 months ago im not able to go outside now 
    im really feeling unwell here 
    im sorry i don’t have a neighbour i could talk to 
    i was calling Samaritans 3 times yesterday and 4 times on Thursday 
    i became ill 2 years ago and never recovered 
    my family doesn’t want to see me 
    they were blocking me because i was begging for help and they said that i did cross boundaries 

  • Beaver79
    Beaver79 Community member, Community Co-Production Group, Scope Member Posts: 15,661 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Agnia Did the Samaritans have any advice for you to help. It must be very difficult for you not being able to go out. Are you a member of any religious group as I know my church arranges home visits for people who live on there own. Take care.
  • Agnia
    Agnia Community member Posts: 830 Connected
    i remember my grandmother took my uncle ( her son) to her flat when he was adult and was ill 
    she didn’t leave him alone 
    i was called toxic person egoistic but i only was begging not to leave me alone especially under circumstances i was facing 
    im sorry if my English is not grammatically correct 
    i remember my other grandmother when she did care for her mother and didn’t send her to care home 
  • Beaver79
    Beaver79 Community member, Community Co-Production Group, Scope Member Posts: 15,661 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Agnia Your English is fine.  You can apply for a Health and social care assessment to find out what help and support you need.
    https://www.gov.uk/apply-needs-assessment-social-services
    Take care.
  • Agnia
    Agnia Community member Posts: 830 Connected
    @Beaver79 Thank you 
    They said that must very hard my situation, they gave me age UK telephone number but im not at this age group to get accommodation 
    during the conversation i was talking about my feelings 
    so many things happened at the same time in my life and i didn’t cope with them 
    im sorry im not a member of religious group 

  • Agnia
    Agnia Community member Posts: 830 Connected
    Thank you @Beaver79
    the lady from social services called and said that my council doesn’t provide carer and cleaning services 
    i need to give a prove how many benefits i receive and they will tell me how much do i have to pay to have this service 
    i will die in care home 
    i miss my family 
    my psyche doesn’t cope with this situation 

  • Agnia
    Agnia Community member Posts: 830 Connected
    my family said that it’s my choice the way i think 
    that im toxic narcissistic egotistical energetic wampire and that i never had a brain 
  • Lou67
    Lou67 Community member Posts: 5,984 Disability Gamechanger

    @Agnia
    Good morning I’m sorry things still haven’t got any better for you. 
    @Beaver79 has given a good few suggestions I hope someone can help. 
    What about The Salvation Army if you google it there will be one that’s hopefully near that  might come and visit you. 
    Or the Social services should be able to help you.

    Take care ❤️
  • Agnia
    Agnia Community member Posts: 830 Connected
  • Lou67
    Lou67 Community member Posts: 5,984 Disability Gamechanger

    @Agnia
    Please reach out to the people that’s been suggested. 
    I hate to think of you alone and sad.
    If I stayed near I would visit you please just remember there are a lot of people on here that care about you. 
    Look after yourself, and I pray things get better for you.

    ❤️
  • Agnia
    Agnia Community member Posts: 830 Connected
  • Jimm_Scope
    Jimm_Scope Posts: 2,361 Scope online community team
    edited December 2023
    Hi @Agnia, sorry to hear how things are going :( Keep an eye out for an email from us!

    It's not something I would normally suggest as I am not religious at all, but I noticed my towns church was doing a Christmas get together for people who are spending Christmas alone. You don't have to be religious or of the church.

     Maybe there's something like that near you? I've heard of village/town halls doing such things too. I would prefer something secular myself if I was alone, but I know it's usually a thing churches do.
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  • Agnia
    Agnia Community member Posts: 830 Connected
    Thank you @Jimm_Scope
    im not able to go outside 
  • Jimm_Scope
    Jimm_Scope Posts: 2,361 Scope online community team
    I'm sorry I suggested that @Agnia, I understand the agoraphobia. I did have to deal with it for a few years. 

    I don't know if you have looked at it but Hub of hope is a database that shows both services local to you and nationally that you could reach out to.
    They/Them, however they are no wrong pronouns with me so whatever you feel most comfortable with
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  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Community member, Scope Member Posts: 892 Pioneering

    Hi Agnia, 

    I'm sad to think of you suffering, really I am  :(  
    I worried when you didn't post here for awhile.

    There is no limit for support on this forum. Christmas especially can be such a difficult time to bear but please remember you are not alone with your Scope family nearby xxx 
     


  • Agnia
    Agnia Community member Posts: 830 Connected
    Thank you very much  @WhatThe 
    Thank you @Jimm_Scope


  • Agnia
    Agnia Community member Posts: 830 Connected
    im sorry how can i cope here completely lonely 
  • Lou67
    Lou67 Community member Posts: 5,984 Disability Gamechanger

    @Agnia
    It’s a so sad you are lonely and i mean this in the nicest way.
     If you don’t reach out to some of the organisations that’s been suggested things will stay the same. 
    Im not sure if Scope can reach out to anyone on your behalf, im sure they will if they are able to.

    I hope you can receive some help,  I will definitely be checking in with you over the next few day.

    Take care ❤️
  • Agnia
    Agnia Community member Posts: 830 Connected
    Thank you very much  @Lou67
    i was a burden for everyone 
    my psyche didn’t cope with everything that happened in my life too many things at the same time and i became really sick 





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