Comment on the content, not the contributor

Pippa_Alumni

Hi everyone,

Lately on the community we've been really pleased to see people going above and beyond to provide advice and help other users with their issues. However, we recognise that people may have differing thoughts and opinions on what advice is 'right' in some cases, especially when somebody else's suggestions are different to their own views. 

We strive for the community to be a supportive and friendly place for everybody. Calling out or specifically targeting others, either on an individual or a repeated basis, can be upsetting and create a hostile atmosphere for other community users. We recognise that doing so often comes from a well-meaning place, the desire to help others and provide the best advice, however we kindly ask you to be mindful of others and respect each other's suggestions when posting your own guidance. Comments should be on the content, not the contributor. You won't always agree with others or change their minds- in these cases, accept that you don't agree and move on. The person asking the question can make their own decision on what advice they wish to follow.

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Thank you for your understanding, and for helping to keep the community an accommodating and valuable place where people can turn to in times of need! 

susan48

Well said @Pippa_Scope, I totally agree and thank you for writing this post 

debbiedo49

There’s no room for haters here

Tigermoth42

Thank you @Pippa_Scope and brilliantly put ❤️

Gwendoline1

Excellent Pippa scope, I’ve been put off recently giving my experiences, I’ve noticed that some of the members are quite aggressively cutting to the advice that others are giving. I totally agree that sometimes the passion to help others takes over. If you disagree, because the advice may be wrong, step back and take a breather, now reply. The reply that you will give may possibly be less aggressive. Thanks again excellent advice 😀😀😀

Kafoleg

 Hi !!!

 I am a new learner....I enjoying reading the both side of any discussing or arguments of any subjects as it is made this site more interesting and it is helping me learning.... I do listen to everyone... I would thanks for those did given their times to discussing or speak their minds .... that's shows people does care.

Happy day to every one

Kafoleg

Topkitten

Welcome @Kafoleg.

TK

Shlbly

Well said, let’s just hope people listen to it! 😊

wilko

The best think anybody can do,who don't like a post that they read is either reply with some constructive comments or don't reply at all.

mikehughescq

There is the option to Flag it and then click on Report. The irony being that some posters in this thread have posted very personal comments about other posters on their walls on the assumption no-one would look or could see it. Both naive and hypocritical.

debbiedo49

I would like to point out that the written word as opposed to the spoken word is open to misinterpretation. And, some people who may believe that they are giving constructive advice or critism could be perceived as being the opposite.. We cannot see or hear each other so we can only go by whats written and take it with a pinch of salt. When I see a post and think "grrrrrrr!" I tend to move along and go back to it later if necessary. It doesnt happen a lot but its like buses sometimes. 

mikehughescq

@debbiedo49 I’d respectfully disagree. The spoken word is accompanied by eye contact and body language. Neither of those things are available to people with a wide range of impairments. Both can be equally misinterpreted.

Alex

Just to add to Pippa's post - accusing someone of making personal attacks without providing a justification for your accusation is also a form of personal attack. 

If you believe someone is making personal attacks, please report the comment where this personal attack occurs using the flag button.  Serious accusations require serious evidence. If you want to discuss further you can get in touch with us - [email protected] (please note that this inbox is only monitored during office hours).

mikehughescq

I’m pleased to see both posts deleted. An email is on its way to you.

debbiedo49

I. dont know why I bother somtimes. Canny do right for doing wrong?

susan48

debbiedo49 said:

I. dont know why I bother somtimes. Canny do right for doing wrong?

I know what your previous post meant. You can tell more from a conversation when your face to face and hear the tone of voice etc etc etc rather than txt as this can be taken out of context.

mikehughescq

I'm intrigued. What is the "context" for text other than what is written? What context can text be taken out of if it's the only thing there?

Totally get your point if it was, for example, text copied and pasted from elsewhere. Not sure I follow what you otherwise mean. Bottom line is to pause and think before you post and not post anything your wouldn't wish your grandparents to read.

susan48

@mikehughescq whilst I agree with your comment about grandparents what I mean is I could write something but the person reading it could take it in one context another in another context. 
Nothing complicated in that, we are all different and think differently.

mikehughescq

Ah, I think we’re confusing terms here. You’re talking interpretation rather than context. Context is a wholly different thing. 

susan48

That’s me corrected then, bottom of the class 🧐

Alex

Thanks for all your reports this morning. I've closed this discussion. 

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