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woodbine
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Is it just me or are some members of this forum really difficult to deal with? I try my hardest to be tolerant and respectful to others but sometimes I feel as though I don't get that back. I honestly don't know, some people seem to be so easily "offended" I sometimes feel like I'm walking a tightrope.
Maybe everything's just "getting" to me, and if I have unwittingly offended anyone I am genuinely sorry.
Perhaps the situation we all find ourselves in is shortening my fuse? If that's the case then perhaps I should step away from Scope for a breather?
John x
Maybe everything's just "getting" to me, and if I have unwittingly offended anyone I am genuinely sorry.
Perhaps the situation we all find ourselves in is shortening my fuse? If that's the case then perhaps I should step away from Scope for a breather?
John x
2024 The year of the general election...the time for change is coming 💡
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I actually couldn't agree with you more! Infact, i think i may be forced to take another long break from here very very soon!
I would appreciate it if members wouldn't tag me please. I have all notifcations turned off and wouldn't want a member thinking i'm being rude by not replying.If i see a question that i know the answer to i will try my best to help. -
@poppy123456 I'm glad its just not me ! (I might even go back to our old stomping ground)2024 The year of the general election...the time for change is coming 💡
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Hi @woodbine and @poppy123456, I fully understand what you are both saying and I also got upset occasionally with some people who didn't seem to accept my good will!!
Now I reply to offer encouragement if I can and simply turn a blind to any negative comments! I just don't bother to reply to people if they forget to be nice! -
@woodbine @poppy123456
Understand your frustration at times and dont think either if you should leave
The trouble is some people just dont like what we say even though it's the right advice and they read the tone of the message incorrectly
You both are valued on here by more people than you know and shouldn't let the few bad eggs put you off or stop helping so many others
I know it's a thankless task sometimes when you devote so much of your own time
Some people ask the same questions in many different ways which then makes you feel your advice has been disregarded
I think admin need to be a bit closer to this and people making attacks should be removed
Please dont give up -
Poppy we just clash and I am sorry about that you don't have to leave i will just not comment and woodbine people eith different conditions take things a different way I was just trying to help nobody needs to leave when Pete start talking about corona virus its a touchy subject it will all be ok I don't want any one to leave
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When people not pete my phone needs sorting out
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I keep seeing threads about people being offended lately but missing the originals...
As others have said, it's just the nature of this particular forum subject that will mean some of the members get easily offended or take things in the wrong way. I spend most of my life on another forum but am much more careful about anything I post on here!
What does amuse me is that it generally seems to be the more erm 'experienced' members taking offense, rather than those of us that get generically branded as millennial snowflakes in the media! -
@OverlyAnxious I think the “snowflake” brand for our generation is more for in real life, like the workplace etc, as online we are used to the massive abuse that you get on the internet, especially online gaming. I might be wrong though?
Personally I think you need to have a thick skin to post on any online forum, this one is no exception although it is milder than most I have been on.
I have been offended by this forum myself - and not by the people who you’d think but just people posting innocently - but I choose not to rise to it.
Just by its nature it will attract many different people from many different backgrounds with many different opinions and attitudes to life and these are likely to clash in some form or another. I have been offended by content on this forum in the past but prefer not to rise to it.
Like you @OverlyAnxious I tend to be careful with what I post on here as this forum is a bit more “left” (can’t think of a better word to describe it) than most forums I post on so I tend to restrain what I say but I apologise if I have offended anyone in the past.
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@woodbine, @poppy123456, @chiarieds . You all have the patience of saints. You are very much appreciated on her.e I do wonder how you manage to stay posting on some occasions but please be aware the majority of users appreciate everything you do. Happy new year to you all.
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Hi @woodbine, @poppy123456,
How are you? I am really sorry that you feel as though you need to take a step away, I would urge you not too. You are both brilliant and the advice that you give is informative and I find, always well communicated. It can be difficult, sometimes people don't always want to hear what the advice is and depending on their individual situation may react in a way that is not appropriate. I know I shared here on the community that I wanted to join the army but due to my disability I can't. A fellow member informed me that I couldn't, not because I was disabled, but because I am women. I chose to ignore this because, women do serve in the Armed Forces, so I suppose sometimes it's also about people's understanding and knowledge of facts and then what is opinion. I hope that this makes sense and though you must do what is right for you, I would strongly encourage you to stay, you are such valued members of the community. I would also like to take this opportunity to apologies for any offence I may have caused, I genuinely, like most on here, would not have meant for this. We are all different and that's a good thing, but we must respect each other and look out for each other, now so more than ever. Thank you. -
Cressida said:@woodbine, @poppy123456, @chiarieds . You all have the patience of saints. You are very much appreciated on her.e I do wonder how you manage to stay posting on some occasions but please be aware the majority of users appreciate everything you do. Happy new year to you all.
I sometimes think some people cry foul or take a dive as it were...
It's a very good natured forum compared to most if not all others, but that shouldn't mean you cant say Boo to a goose...
That made sense in my head, possibly not written down!
Poppy should be on the honours list...seriously!!
Anyway...best wishes to all... -
If you know you have upset someone wther you meant it or not goes along way I am on four other forums under different user names
This is the first one thsts been like this yes people clash but to constantly have a go or constantly correcting people oh I dont know I am at a loss -
All I would say is yes you are pretty new here lisa Thomas and in that short time have been in conflict with quite a few and given inaccurate advice to others
So while yes you have the right to your say maybe you should think more first and follow the guidelines and advice posted today by admin -
Hello everyone
I hope you're all as well as you can be, despite the difficult start we've had to 2021.
Some of you may have noticed that the community team weren't online as often as usual over the Christmas and New Year period. We were working reduced hours during this time, but we're now back to covering our usual shifts. This means that at least one member of the team will be available from 8am to 8pm every weekday, and from 10am to 6pm every weekend.
I'm sure many of you have felt, as we have, that there seems to have been an increase in conflict on the community recently. We understand that this is an incredibly challenging time for you all, and some of you might be feeling particularly unsettled or worried, but it's more important than ever that we all pull together to support each other. The vast majority of threads demonstrate your ability to offer support and advice to each other with great kindness and without judgement, and I think this is what we all need more of moving into 2021.
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I wasn't going to comment either but i just wanted to say, i would only say sorry for something i've done wrong. This time, i've not done anything wrong so i don't have anything to say sorry for or anyone to say sorry to. If you're expecting this from me then you'll have a very long wait.I just wanted to thank those that have made lovely comments @Cress @Cressida @WestHam06 @Oxonlady Thanks to you all for those lovely kind words!I would appreciate it if members wouldn't tag me please. I have all notifcations turned off and wouldn't want a member thinking i'm being rude by not replying.If i see a question that i know the answer to i will try my best to help.
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I’m so thankful I found this forum I really am . The fact people have taken time out of there lives to respond to me means a lot . This site is far more helpful than citizens advice . I wouldn’t of been able to get threw my pip application , my employment tribunal the fact when I feel so anxious I come on here and it distracts me and I have made friends on here . Xx
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I like this forum too, in fact I would not go on any other having had a very bad experience on one before. Of course the forum is the people who post and this forum wouldn’t be the same without the key posters who keep it all together, they’ve been mentioned above and I also appreciate their input which is often very helpful, kind, light hearted and informative.
i wish everyone a very happy new year and may you have peace in your hearts.“This is my simple religion. No need for temples. No need for complicated philosophy. Your own mind, your own heart is the temple. Your philosophy is simple kindness.”
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I'm NOT a "Snowflake", I've never read the Guardian and never will, I think the fact that the left get all upset about everything is PC gone mad and that's being kind. I wouldn't use the Daily Fail as Toilet paper either.
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Not mentioning any names, there are some who post on Scope who from my perspective and experiences are lacking a real understanding of many issues, and only repeat the same nonsense in their posts.
I have added these individuals to my "Ignore List" (The Ignore List is an option for all members which is included in their Profile options list) The means that I no longer see their posts when i log into the Scope forums
[Removed by moderator - personal attack]
In more recent times I only visit Scope once a week or may be once a month to see if their are any threads that catch my interest, such is the high level of stress some can cause by their lack of understanding.
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