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Dr Tuppy Owens 12 November 1944 - 28th February 2025
Hello Everyone, The unique and indefatigable Dr Tuppy Owens passed away peacefully on Friday, 28th February 2025, from vascular dementia. A wonderful colleague and friend. Tuppy’s life revolved around her two loves: The Outsiders Trust (including the Club, SHADA and the TLC-Trust) and her life on the croft with her…
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Deep Dive into Daily Disgusts
An evening exploring our Daily Disgusts and the taboos around our bodies Are you ready to get comfortable with being a bit uncomfortable? This event will bring Talking Taboos’s signature practical frankness to a deep dive into why and how we experience daily disgust at our own bodies, and how this has led to serious health…
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Being held and bodily pride: What touch deprivation does to the self-esteem of disabled people
October is Pro-Touch Awareness Month and as a part of the campaign to raise awareness of the importance of consensual touch and physical closeness We reshare this excellent blog. This article was written by @pattern1991 and is shared here with permission. Whilst it's true that many of us have been, and are, still unable to…
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Claiming Intimacy as a Disabled Woman
Full article from New Mobility I first contemplated sex as a disabled woman 35 years ago while sitting through the standard sex talk in inpatient rehab. A group of us, mostly men (as 78% of people with SCI identify as male), watched an uncomfortable video of paralysed people engaging in sexual activity and listened to…
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How my disability became a secret weapon on the dating scene
From Women's Agenda by Lisa Cox I’ve been happily married for over 11 years but back when I was dating with a disability, I unexpectedly found it to be a way to weed out the w*nkers. Dating with a disability was a whole new experience for me after acquiring my visible and invisible disabilities in my early twenties. It was…
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relationship advice :(
Hello, I need advice. It's so hard to give context from both sides, but I am going to try my level best here. I have been with my boyfriend for a year, yesterday I walked out and came to my dad's house feeling desperately unsure and sad. We had real healthy love initially, yes, we argued, but we handled the arguments with…
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What do you guys think ?
I have a boyfriend since 1 year. It is a happy very peaceful relationship. He is planning to move in with me, posts me often on his WhatsApp etc. on his fb he has displayed on his relationship status : “ in a relationship”. I have just checked it today and I have realised that the relationship status completely disappeared…
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Question about getting married and living apart or together with benefits
Hi Myself and my partner are looking to get married. We would like to find out if getting married and living apart would affect our benefits PIP and UC? And also weather living together with or without being married would affect our benefits to? Would anyone in Consensus know or give any advise on this or do you have any…
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From Sex To Ghosting, These Are The Realities Of Dating With A Disability
From Elle When Frances Ryan began researching her new book Who Wants To Be Normal?, she discovered that there's one part of life that's stuck in the dark ages for disabled women. ‘Can you have sex?’ It is not exactly a charming come-on straight out of a Nora Ephron movie, but it is something I, and I’d bet many other…
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Sex
I am 38 years old i have mild spastic diplegia and found intercourse very painful like forever wanted to know really is downstairs a muscle as I can't control the tightening I feel inadequate as a woman have a wonderful understanding partner who i have been with since I was 15 its just frustrating not being able to do the…
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Relationships
Right first off I really don't know how to put this I'm 30 now and everytime i find myself constantly thinking about wanting that special relationship with someone. But I just don't know where to start. I've tried here not dating obviously but deep down I want mite than just a friend. Can you someone help? @pooleemily29
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How our past affects our future?
I’ll be open and honest, it’s been a rough 41 years to say the least. I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve lost and I’ve divorced to say the least. But every time someone says move on, or stop living in the past, or just let things as they go…. You just want to scream at them, It’s Harder Than You Think!!!!! My go to strategy…
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Poem that I wrote while going through the hardest time of my life
Wrote this in 2006 after going to a poetry workshop. Not gonna lie I cried alot writing this but after I did I felt a lift weighted off me sometimes it's good to write your feelings down. Lighten that load we're not ment to keep our feelings bottled up 🙂 sometimes it's better to write them down as you can tell all the…
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Meeting other disabled people
Where do you go to meet other disabled people. I want to go out , and socialise more in general. I always seem to end up at places that have lots of ppl from one disability group. So I end up leaving and not going back. I have a bad scoliosis but I can walk. And it would me nice to socialise with people who can walk , and…
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I think she is up to something
Hello everyone A while ago I was posting about my autism diagnosis and how I should tell my partner about it. The thing is I think she is messaging other men on various social media platforms. She has become secretive and evasive around me. Do I confront her about this? I'm really devastated.
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My relationship with boyfriend
My relationship with my boyfriend Tommy has been great and we have been dating since December. Has not put me down for being an amputee and sees me like any normal person. I have known him as friends at first through his dad. It all started in 2005 after I signed up as a member of the American Legion in the USA as a…
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Erection Help & Advice Wanted
Greetings from Milton Keynes man. About 10 years ago I gave up my job to become the main carer for my wife until her death. So no intimacy possibly for over 10 years as she was a wheelchair user etc. I have now found someone from Nigeria that I am due to marry shortly. But I am a Type 2 Diabetic and probably have…
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Marrying someone from abroad
I am in receipt of universal credit and PIP and plan to marry a woman who lives in a non-ec country. My plan is to try to bring her over to the UK after marriage and am confused by the current rules. I understand that I do not need to meet the minimum income rule as I am getting PIP. However, it indicates that you need to…
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People
What makes a person interesting?
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Best dating sites for disabled people (people with Cerebral Palsy)
Hi everyone my name is Jade, I am 30 years old. I have quadriplegic cerebral palsy, tremors & other health problems. I wanted to go make friends and dating but I was worried about where to go as I don't want to be taken advantage of or be in any kind of danger. So does anyone know any particular dating sites which are safe…
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Network CP: Dating with CP
This week, our Zoom meeting will be discussing dating with CP. We will be joined be journalist Melissa Parker. Melissa is an award-winning freelance journalist. Her writing has appeared in Radio Times, Stylist, Cosmopolitan, Digital Spy, and Metro. She covers topics from dating to Doctor Who. She focuses on how disability…
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Why do I feel ennui/bored at social events in the city centre?
year 2025 . I attended a social event in the city centre and once again felt ennui/bored by them. After i went to the toilet everyone there just ended leaving . I went back on the train to go home . I didn't get have a good night's sleep . Only 3 people were there. i already know most of the people that went there . It has…
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Relationships
Hello guys, I’m new here. I wonder if you could help me. I recently broke up with my girlfriend and it had left me with this overwhelmingly sense that I will be alone. I have CP and use a wheelchair together around. I am 33 and have a job I like. But can’t find a partner. Is there anyone on here who is in a long term…
