Emotionally Torn

Cobrinha10

I have a girlfriend who I will have been with for 5 years next week. She’s kind and caring and has a good heart. We moved out of her mum’s house and into our own house almost a year ago now and while she’s quiet I feel like she makes the decisions. She has been on two holidays while we’ve been here, she goes out for food and to the cinema with friends whenever she wants, if she wants us to do something then she will ask, it feels like it’s all on her terms.

As far as physically we don’t go nowhere near each other it just doesn’t happen. I love her to bits but I find myself dreading our days more and more just sitting on the sofa on our phones.

The only thing that excites me is the idea of speaking to a couple of girls from my past, not because I want them, nothing would happen I would just like to talk go through past memories and smile.

Thank you for reading.

Bluebell21

Hi @Cobrinha10 Could you talk to your girlfriend about how you are feeling and perhaps ask her how she sees your relationship?

Do you have friends you are able to meet and chat with?

For relationships to work you both have to be happy and while you do not have to do everything together you do seem to be excluded from quite a lot of her life.

Please take care of yourself.

Albus_Scope

I'd agree with Bluebell here @Cobrinha10 you do need to be speaking to your partner about this instead of keeping it bottled up. That just leads to resentment and bad feelings. Hopefully if you talk things through sensibly, then you can get excited about the relationship again. 😊

Cobrinha10

The problem is i’m tempted to speak to my old female friends from the past just for fun. I have no intentions on flirting or getting with them, but my girlfriend has found her sources of happiness and I would like to speak to mine except it’s more difficult because I’m in a long term relationship.

Wheeled_Weapon

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1048084#Comment_1048084

Oh Hell no!

I was in a relationship where she stopped me speaking to female friends. Never allowing that to happen again. Nobody tells me what I can and can't do.

Cobrinha10

i appreciate the comments it’s so kind to know there are other people in the world just purely wanting to help.

I’m still nervous what to do but this is such a helpful community that care for each other I appreciate each and everyone of you.

Emmaelliott22

I don't no if my partner is cheating

Emmaelliott22

Holly_Scope

Hi @Emmaelliott22 I'm so sorry, that must be very worrying. Is there something in particular that's happening which makes you think they might be?