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Sex
I am 38 years old i have mild spastic diplegia and found intercourse very painful like forever wanted to know really is downstairs a muscle as I can't control the tightening I feel inadequate as a woman have a wonderful understanding partner who i have been with since I was 15 its just frustrating not being able to do the…
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Poem that I wrote while going through the hardest time of my life
Wrote this in 2006 after going to a poetry workshop. Not gonna lie I cried alot writing this but after I did I felt a lift weighted off me sometimes it's good to write your feelings down. Lighten that load we're not ment to keep our feelings bottled up 🙂 sometimes it's better to write them down as you can tell all the…
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Meeting other disabled people
Where do you go to meet other disabled people. I want to go out , and socialise more in general. I always seem to end up at places that have lots of ppl from one disability group. So I end up leaving and not going back. I have a bad scoliosis but I can walk. And it would me nice to socialise with people who can walk , and…
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Dr Tuppy Owens 12 November 1944 - 28th February 2025
https://youtu.be/H3fq2DE3_Gc?si=Gn-v1TpDHfQ7VseM Hello Everyone, The unique and indefatigable Dr Tuppy Owens passed away peacefully on Friday, 28th February 2025, from vascular dementia. A wonderful colleague and friend. Tuppy’s life revolved around her two loves: The Outsiders Trust (including the Club, SHADA and the…
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My relationship with boyfriend
My relationship with my boyfriend Tommy has been great and we have been dating since December. Has not put me down for being an amputee and sees me like any normal person. I have known him as friends at first through his dad. It all started in 2005 after I signed up as a member of the American Legion in the USA as a…
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Marrying someone from abroad
I am in receipt of universal credit and PIP and plan to marry a woman who lives in a non-ec country. My plan is to try to bring her over to the UK after marriage and am confused by the current rules. I understand that I do not need to meet the minimum income rule as I am getting PIP. However, it indicates that you need to…
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People
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Best dating sites for disabled people (people with Cerebral Palsy)
Hi everyone my name is Jade, I am 30 years old. I have quadriplegic cerebral palsy, tremors & other health problems. I wanted to go make friends and dating but I was worried about where to go as I don't want to be taken advantage of or be in any kind of danger. So does anyone know any particular dating sites which are safe…
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Network CP: Dating with CP
This week, our Zoom meeting will be discussing dating with CP. We will be joined be journalist Melissa Parker. Melissa is an award-winning freelance journalist. Her writing has appeared in Radio Times, Stylist, Cosmopolitan, Digital Spy, and Metro. She covers topics from dating to Doctor Who. She focuses on how disability…
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Why do I feel ennui/bored at social events in the city centre?
year 2025 . I attended a social event in the city centre and once again felt ennui/bored by them. After i went to the toilet everyone there just ended leaving . I went back on the train to go home . I didn't get have a good night's sleep . Only 3 people were there. i already know most of the people that went there . It has…
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Relationships
Hello guys, I’m new here. I wonder if you could help me. I recently broke up with my girlfriend and it had left me with this overwhelmingly sense that I will be alone. I have CP and use a wheelchair together around. I am 33 and have a job I like. But can’t find a partner. Is there anyone on here who is in a long term…
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Unsupported husband during illness
Hello everyone, I just wanted to express how I’m finding my husband being so unsupportive now that my mobility has been affected by a neurological condition. I had a good life full of working in a very demanding job. One day at work I lost feeling in my left side. Despite trying really hard to show my employer what I could…
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Hello 🙂
I have been on here a few years have read off and on Is there anyone else from Northern Ireland on here ?
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Abuse & contacting social care
social care emailed me with concerns about my relationship. My boyfriend has been abusive to me , he makes out I’m the abuser though and films me when I’m reacting to his abuse. What do I say to the social care worker? I’m scared of him getting in trouble if I say something and what might happen after because he always…
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Wheelchair user wedding planning
Hey all - long time no speak. In the process of starting to wedding plan, but as a wheelchair user the whole walking down the aisle, first dance traditions etc will obviously have to look a bit different for us. Does anyone have any clue or recommendations about where to look or resources that give me some ideas?
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The Sex Lady on the Hill:The Extraordinary Legacy of Dr Tuppy Owens founder of Outsiders
The Sex Lady on the Hill:The Extraordinary Legacy of Dr Tuppy Owens. It has gone on sale today and is available for purchase on Amazon using the following link: The Sex Lady on the Hill: The Extraordinary Legacy of Dr Tuppy Owens https://amzn.eu/d/hHzTcp8 It is available in hardback, paperback and Kindle ebook. Efforts…
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Single with health issues
Hi everyone I have seen some discussions about being single or datingwhen you have health issues. I turn 44 tomorrow and find myself still single. I have 2 types of respiratory disease and microscopic colitis. I also had kidney cancer in late 2021. Like others on here my conditions come with everyday struggles like…
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Has anyone ever been in a controlling relationship/ been lovebombed?
Hi. I met someone one day off a gay dating site. A day after chatting, we arranged to meet 2 days later, but ended up meeting up a day later for a few hours, then they wanted to see me everyday, so went saw each other 12 days in a row. They stopped overnight here, about 4 /5 times. I stopped there once and net his mother/…
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Clarity on consent and brain tumours
Can someone give me a definite on sex with stroke injuries and brain tumour. Fed up of going around the houses and please dont tell me to read consent law. Is it rape from other party if the sleep with you if you brain tumour on skull or center of brain. They affect language and understanding more so could be seen as you…
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Partners
Hi i am sad, and meed advice pls, i have been with partner for 7 years. I just feel like he is going off me. When we met i was fit and healthy. Now i can hardly walk and put 3 stone on due to the fact. I try and take pride in myself and always try and look nice, but i just feel completely enpty. We always had cuddles now…
