I May Have A Date. Advice Please?

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oldngrumpy

I go into my bank in person to withdraw some money. And over time I have developed a rapport with this one particular girl. I mentioned to her casually, although I meant it one day she was Gergeous. And she is.

Around a few months ago I went in to draw some money and I asked her for her number. You are not having my number she replied, but there was a slight smirk on her face.
Two weeks ago I went in again to withdraw some, and she was serving again. I politely asked how I wanted my cash.
She then asked if I wanted anything else?
I would like your number! Then she whispered I will go out with you!

I couldn't believe it.

Before I go any further nothing has been arranged date wise.
But "if" she agreed to have a date with me I would prefer a tea date, or something similar for the following reasons before a romantic date. The reason being this....

I have an Acquired Brain Injury which has devastated my life. I am and seem pretty normal but, I have certain idiosyncrasies about me because of it.

If I am lucky enough to get a date from this Gorgeous Girl do I tell her about the basics of my ABI, but nothing too detailed before a proper date. I don't want her to be left in the lurch, I may do something a bit out of the ordinary and she may have second thoughts if I don't forewarn her.

I haven't had a date for over twenty years/been out with a girl. So not only am I going to be anxious I am going to be literally petrified.

Could any of you good folks advise please, or point me in the right direction. Thank you🙏

chiarieds

Lovely to hear from you @oldngrumpy - I have a hereditary disorder (Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome with added neurological problems, which I've passed on to all my children, & then, through my daughter, to my grandchildren).

When my son found someone he felt that spark with, he asked when he should mention he has Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. Rightly or wrongly I suggested it only needed mentioning when he felt totally comfortable with saying so, & if he thought they were becoming 'serious.' However, I think you will know when the time is right.

I think your thoughts about just meeting for a tea or coffee are a very good way to just begin to know each other, then take it from there.

Don't be 'petrified;' remember she could be feeling the same, so try & put her at her ease & don't worry. Hoping you both enjoy your first tea/coffee together 😊