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Do You Ever Forget What's Wrong?

Ray212
Ray212 Community member Posts: 314 Pioneering
This happens to me so often, its one of the reasons I hate face to face interviews etc.

Do you ever get there and start answering questions and forget nearly everything that's wrong with you? Happens to me all the time. Not just face to face interviews but other places as well but mainly when under pressure. 

I often come out thinking oh I didn't mention that or that OR that! And it's not just the little things its the big things as well. I do try to take a list but I worry they will think I am just reading stuff off I wrote down previously.

Just wondered if its me that forgets things or its more common?

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  • 2oldcodgers
    2oldcodgers Posts: 656 Connected
    Ray212 said:
    This happens to me so often, its one of the reasons I hate face to face interviews etc.

    Do you ever get there and start answering questions and forget nearly everything that's wrong with you? Happens to me all the time. Not just face to face interviews but other places as well but mainly when under pressure. 

    I often come out thinking oh I didn't mention that or that OR that! And it's not just the little things its the big things as well. I do try to take a list but I worry they will think I am just reading stuff off I wrote down previously.

    Just wondered if its me that forgets things or its more common?
    In respect of DWP assessments just take a copy of your prescription list which will jog your memory as to why you have been prescribed the various potions and pills.
  • Beaver79
    Beaver79 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 7,931 Disability Gamechanger
    edited June 6
    I think it is something most of us are guilty of. We live with it and can forget it is not how other people live. How many times when someone asks you how you are do you say fine? When you know you are not. @Ray212
  • Ray212
    Ray212 Community member Posts: 314 Pioneering
    Yes absolutely. I just hate those interviews, knowing I am missing out on half the things I should be talking about. 
  • OverlyAnxious
    OverlyAnxious Community member Posts: 2,496 Disability Gamechanger
    I forget everything in social situations anyway, not just medical but even within my 'field of expertise' (if you can call it that lol). 

    Writing things down doesn't seem to help in my situation.  Even with a visual reminder my brain just doesn't engage under pressure.  

    There are also a lot of things I do that I didn't realise weren't 'normal'.  It's only after spending a lot of time on here and other websites while having to really scrutinise my life for PIP forms that I realised just how different my life is to most people's.
  • Ray212
    Ray212 Community member Posts: 314 Pioneering
    edited June 7
    I can definitely understand that. I was at the shops late at night the other day (I only go then or first thing when hardly anyone is about) and I saw one of the parents from the school from a few years ago but couldn't remember their name, their daughters name, anything about them. It was so embarrassing as the kids were best friends and they only live down the road! Because I don't like interacting with people the anxiety goes through the roof and there was no where to go so panic set in and just forgot everything
  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Community member Posts: 12,008 Disability Gamechanger
    edited June 7
    For me most of the "different" stuff I do is just normality. Contrary to others I did know that what I do is "different" all along but I often forget now that what I'm doing is not "normal". You only remember it's different when it clashes with someone else who is acting perfectly reasonably!!

    Something funny though, I have OCD and always had to do things in multiples of 2 or ideally 4 (e.g. toothbrushing strokes, number of wipes while cleaning something, even indicator flashes in the car if I could get away with it) as they were "nice" numbers to me, this was just a totally normal part of life. Then one day I decided to challenge it by doing things in odd numbers and then I realised I was obsessively doing things in 3s all the time because I was scared of going back to the old ways, so in reality nothing had changed :D 
  • Ray212
    Ray212 Community member Posts: 314 Pioneering
    Lol I completely understand that. Strangely enough, while I have never had a "diagnosis" for it because apparently you need a doctor to tell you that you have something wrong rather than knowing you do my OCD started when I was in my early teens. 

    It was closing the front door, even though it had closed I had to pull on the latch thing several times. There was no set number but it was always even numbers, I would be counting them in my head. It got worse over the years and for various things until I was at the point I could be stood there for 20 minutes just satisfying my mind. Eventually it got onto thinking, I had to think about things a certain amount of times to satisfy that. 

    At its worst point it was eating, making sure I had eaten things an even amount of times, like chews or biting things in half. It was getting ridiculous. I managed to calm things in a way and over a period of years by thinking if something ends up as an odd number but there is also something else I have done thats an odd number then two odds make an even.

    Maybe I should have got a diagnosis now I look at it but I am much further along in age now and really not sure what help I would/could be given or even if it would make much difference
  • Hannah_Scope
    Hannah_Scope Posts: 5,954 Disability Gamechanger
    I always do that thing of walking into a room and forgetting why. I think we have moments where we just are forgetful. And it's interesting as I've had those moments happen when I'm really busy or when I have just been busier and everything had calmed down. It's very strange! 
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