I don't see the point in my existence sometimes
When I was a kid I felt loved, supports, and I felt as though I had a life and was able to have fun and I had many lovely memories and moments. As an adult, I feel abandoned, I feel like I'm not worthy of anything, and my desires aren't getting fulfilled. I've no guidance and nobody who can help me find what I need, nor do I have a compass to know where I want to go. I'm trapped and I'm going through the familiar motions too often for my liking. Heck even on forums like this I feel ignored, but I guess it's my mentality causing these issues and my mind is lying to me.
I'm always willing to help and share my kindness with people, but others seem to have a hard time reciprocating. I understand other people are different from me, but maybe I just don't have the self-respect to gain friends and people who listen.
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Hi @JD_INCINERATOR Please never think you are not worthy, you are. If you could do anything what would be the first thing you would do?
Unfortunately once we are adults others are less likely to be as open or friendly as when we were children for lots of reasons.
It could be fear of rejection or that they are not confident enough to approach others.
Do you have any family that could help you work out what you are looking for and how to achieve this?
Could you plan to do one thing a day it does not need to be anything big to get you into some kind of routine.
Perhaps have a look in the Coffee Lounge for chats or the games den for some games it might help you to join in.
We will listen on the forum open your own thread.
Please take care of yourself.
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It takes immense courage to express these feelings, and I want to acknowledge that your words carry a great deal of emotional weight and vulnerability. Sometimes, when we feel stuck in repetitive patterns or disconnected from others, it’s not because we are inherently flawed—it may be because we haven’t yet found the right environment or people who recognize and appreciate who we truly are. Your mind may indeed be distorting your perception, as you mentioned, but that doesn’t mean your experiences aren’t real or deserving of support and care. I encourage you to continue reaching out, whether through writing, conversation, or professional support. You are not alone, even if it feels that way at times. There are people who will see your worth clearly—and you deserve to experience connection, guidance, and fulfillment as much as anyone else.
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Being an empath in a cruel world is hard I understand what your saying the constant void
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When you leave nest. You have to face reality, losing the protection and security of Mom and Dad. It's hard, but you look around and see what you do to turn things around(easier send than done.) As your Library, Council or Charties in area about any social groups. Volunteering at your local charity shop can help boast your confidence.
I wish good luck
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The problem isn't that I've lost the nest, the problem is I can't seem to evolve from it, even at my age. I know I can't look at it with a glass half empty mentality otherwise that'll usually pull me down more, but when you feel like your entire life has been about being protected and not getting much of a chance to break free, it feels like you're in prison-except in prison I assume you can do a lot to try and improve yourself with people who can help you do that.
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What aspects don't you like job, where u live family relationships? I often feel same but have realised it's bpd and am getting help, I feel like I'm a drain on everyone else and all I do is overgive to others and then when people don't reciprocate it I get upset x
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I feel like you do, if people don't reciprocate it can be a bit jarring-like what's the point of giving if they don't return it. However, I don't think it bothers me as much because I understand people work in different ways and may not have the time to give back.
Another thing is I always want to make friends with people but it's not very easy for me. I've got wonderful personality traits and I'm varied, whimsical and lovely-but again, many people just don't see that or acknowledge it.
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Don't be so hard on yourself you portray yourself very well I'm sure u have alot of good qualities x
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Yea no how that feels and we got a turn coat on scope managent directer to collect his award for wat as he not or scope back our corner .he said there be back lash here mine
You suppose to be looking after dusable peoplr snd u haven.t u kissed the ar## ofgovernment .u never supported through the edp or wen the sdp and know u said you might have to resign resign as u now shown ur yrue colours scope as u allso not back us on the way they going to kill us on pip u have bl9od on ur hand .i knew that something smelked fishy ..scope where are know answer that so u watch milkion suffer just to collect the ward and saud u will have to resign now yes don.t want no turn cost ..kissing labour u knew all along you ratted us out because of a award
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Hi I just popped by to wish you a very warm welcome to the community.
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Hello Jude….I do not think this is the place to be saying this. I think you need to go through complaints procedure.
Saying that I am sorry you feel that way and hope in the end something happens to help you change your mind.
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@JD_INCINERATOR I so understand how you feel as it feels like you are stuck in a revolving door that doesn't let you out. If you do have family reach out to them for help and guidance, if that fails reach out to a neighbour or someone you trust to help. I know it is not easy to ask for help as I basically refuse to ask after many times being refused help etc.
I am one of the biggest loser loners I know….but that may be because of a lifetime of being bullied that has turned me into a right b****! I am honest and plain spoken in a day where everything is PC and that one needs to speak in Fluffy Pink Unicorn speak in order to not hurt people's feelings….I don't speak Fluffy Pink Unicorn and never will. I give a lot to people only to be ignored and treated like rubbish.
Please try to get counselling through your GP for how you feel and don't think you are alone here….I am really new here myself and for the first time in 40+ years I finally feel I can be myself and you can to. We are here to be friendly and supportive!!!
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This requires a mindset change - maybe the sort of thing CBT could help with?
So instead of existing in a revolving door, you get up on the path and go on the journey of life, excited to see where life takes you, always curious to see what's along the next stretch.
We all need goals in life - some people set huge goals, for others smaller ones and these are the signposts through life.
But, to do this we need to be independent in our own journeys, meeting people along the way but always keeping our own needs and wishes in mind.
It sounds like you have never had the chance to have your own needs and desires listened to in childhood, never had your opinions heard and this has taken away your power to trust your own inner voice.
You can get help with this. To get the autonomy to work out where you want to go in life - to work out what you want to have achieved this time next year, in 5 years and just for today.
Finally, when you feel lost, don't forget church. Whether you have any faith or not, there is a community of people there and i do think, in dark times, clinging to the belief that there is a God watching over you can be very comforting indeed.
Take care
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Thanks for your comment. Scope is campaigning against the plans to cut disability benefits and we are strongly urging the government to rethink these plans. We have written an open letter to the Chancellor, along with 120 charities, warning that the cost of cuts is too great. Scope’s chair Sir Robin Millar has also been speaking out to share his concerns about the cuts. We will continue to campaign against these plans and call for the government to work with disabled people to improve our welfare system. For more information about Scope’s campaign go to .
We also did speak out previously about the loss of premiums under universal credit;
James Taylor, executive director of strategy at disability equality charity Scope, said:
"We support Sir Robin in expressing his concerns, they reflect the concerns of many disabled people who are terrified about the government’s plan to cut disability benefits.
“Scope is campaigning against these cuts and is strongly urging the government to rethink these plans. We have written an open letter to the Chancellor, along with 120 charities, who are warning that the cost of cuts is too great.
We will continue to campaign for an equal future for disabled people with Sir Robin as our Chair."
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