Hi, my name is Joyblue65!

Joyblue65
Joyblue65 Online Community Member Posts: 4 Listener
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Hi, does anyone know of any dating sites/apps. Thank you

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  • Albus_Scope
    Albus_Scope Posts: 11,423 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Hey there @Joyblue65 and welcome to the community!

    Dating apps eh? Are you looking for disability specific ones, or just dating apps in general?

  • Joyblue65
    Joyblue65 Online Community Member Posts: 4 Listener

    Not sure really, my sisters have all got boyfriends on Hinge but I'm not having much luck once someone realises I have right sided cerebral palsy

  • Albus_Scope
    Albus_Scope Posts: 11,423 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Hmmm, ok, well firstly I'd not worry too much about your sisters all having boyfriends, they're not the be all and end all of life. 😁

    There's a plethora of dating apps out there now, but it may be good to speak to someone from our CP Network, they might have some good suggestions @Richard_Scope @Lucy_Scope @SaraC_Scope ?

  • Lucy_Scope
    Lucy_Scope Posts: 161 Cerebral Palsy Network

    Hi Joyblue65,

    I am sorry to hear you are finding online dating difficult.

    I am a person living with spastic cerebral palsy.

    I understand your frustrating - dating in general is difficult. But when you are disabled it is even harder.

    I want to let you know that it can work. My non disabled boyfriend and I met on Hinge. The conversation started over him commenting on one of my pictures. He first mentioned how ridiculous it was that I was walking alpacas on a beach! Before we met I told him I had CP. He did not mind. I was open and allowed him to ask questions. When we eventually met in person, I joked about how my orthotic looks like a shin pad. 

    There is not a script, disclose only what you feel comfortable with and when.

    My advice would be to ensure your profile reflects your personality. Show your hobbies, and what you enjoy doing. It helps to attract the type of person you are looking for.It is tough. So, ensure you take breaks from the online dating, At  times you may need to just focus on self care. That is ok!

    If you want to chat, just let me know ☺️

  • Joyblue65
    Joyblue65 Online Community Member Posts: 4 Listener

    Hi Lucy

    Thank you. I joined Hinge last week and had a few likes. I decided yesterday to be fully honest and put a note on my profile about my CP so people can read before contacting me. Some of my friends said not to mention my disability but I would like anyone interested in me to know what to expect, it would save me being upset and disappointed if they cancel me because they'd found out afterwards that I had CP.

    I feel so much more positive now that I've read your story. My mum said there's no rush, I'm only 21 and my prince is out there. It's so lovely 😍. I'll keep you posted ☺️. Joy

  • SaraC_Scope
    SaraC_Scope CP Network, Scope Posts: 344 Empowering

    Hi @Joyblue65

    Welcome to the community.

    I have right sided hemiplegia and was born before dating apps. My only option was to date in the traditional sense.

    I met my now husband one Friday evening in a bar. He walked me to the taxi rank at the end of the night and asked for my phone number. After many trips to the cinema and visits to a local pub, I told him about my CP. He looked at me and said, "Okay, good to know." It was lovely he wanted to date me for being me. We've been married 26 years.

    Just know meeting the right person will happen, but when you least expect it.

    Best wishes.

  • Joyblue65
    Joyblue65 Online Community Member Posts: 4 Listener

    Hi Sara

    I have right sided hemiplegia too. I walk with a limp and my right arm is a bit weak but it didn't stop me qualifying as a nursery nurse and in work I'm able to carry the little ones with a bit of help. I love being me. Your story sounds amazing 👏🏼 Thank you so much for your kind words of support ☺️

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