Hi, my name is ripped_off_by_mother! Mother is holding onto my PIP payments
My mother has been holding onto my pip payments and I'm only getting what amounts to basic esa
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Is your mother your appointee?
You can tell the DWP you are unhappy with your appointees actions.
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You don't say how old you are. Have you just transitioned from DLA to PIP?
It's possible that your Mum doesn't understand that whereas DLA was paid to her PIP is payable to you unless there's an arrangement with the DWP for her to control your PIP for your benefit.
But bear in mind that PIP is there to help you finance disability-related costs. Whilst you Mum has no right to deprive you of money that is legally yours think carefully about how she supports you.
Does she drive you in her car? Does she buy food and prepare your meals? Or help you emotionally?
Perhaps you ought to tell your Mum how upset you are and have a proper conversation before, if necessary, you make a complaint. Maybe you could show her this thread if things are difficult to put into words.
Life as a disabled person is expensive and even more so for people without a supportive family. You need a good Mum.
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No to all the above. My Stepdad came around the other day and said he'll take me to open a bank account at 10am. When he didn't show I rang him and he denied all knowledge. Quite rudely I'll add. Previously to this he'd asked me if I'd managed to get an account, and when I replied no, he walked out laughing. They have previous form for this with his badly disabled son. My niece and I have seen them siphoning his money even though he was now in foster care up north. Surely it should be going to him? They are sat on a substantial sum of backdated money (15 years worth) and I'm denied it. I may as well sign on…I'd probably get a little more. I just don't know what else to do
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You can contact your local authority safeguarding team, and raise a safeguarding report due to yourself and step brother suffering financial abuse.
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Follow @Kimi87 's advice and have your mother removed as your appointee.
Do you live alone or with these abusive people? Either eway, you need to live somewhere you are supported in your needs and your money spent on meeting those needs.
You may need to bring in Social Services at some stage. Meanwhile, a call to CAB and an appointment with a Social Prescriber might help direct you. If your mother and stepfather have control of 15 years' of your DLA/PIP and deny you proper access to it they are commiting a criminal offence. You might need legal advice on a no win/no fee basis.
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Hi @ripped_off_by_mother I'm very sorry to read about your situation. I'm going to pop you an email - please keep an eye out for it.
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If your stepbrother is in foster care then no money intended for him own to be going to your stepfather. Is he claiming child benefit? He could be claiming more in benefits if he's giving the impression he has care and control of a disabled minor. This could be a DWP fraud issue. If you believe this to be the case you could contact them directly but be certain of your own safety.
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You need to get help. Take note of what other members have posted. It looks to be a case of benefit fraud to me.
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I'd like to thank you all for your concern and help. Stellar. I have the police, support worker and hopefully my sister ( who can vouch for my mum's narcissistic behaviour) coming round on Tuesday. My support worker came to take me to open an account, but needed extra paperwork, which (touch wood) will be enough. Thank you again for your support and I'll let you know how it goes. All the best, Ripped off xx
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Good news.
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Hope it goes okay tomorrow @ripped_off_by_mother, please do keep us updated if you feel up to it.
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CAB have posted me a very helpful document called "Economic abuse toolkit". Valuable information for anyone in a similar position (including domestic abuse). The address is https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/public-sector-toolkits/economic-abuse-toolkit-html
There are links to other websites that (hopefully not) maybe helpful in your particular circumstances. Big day tomorrow. I can wave it in the policeman's face, and proove he is obliged to act. If anyone wants to ask me anything about this, please don't hesitate to post. Thank you all again for your help.
Btw: I Iive alone with my dog and I'm approaching 60 for the curious amongst you.😉
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Out of interest, who applied for the benefits? You or your mother? And were you living at home at the time?
Hope all goes well tomorrow.0 -
Thank you.
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I hope that this appalling situation can be resolved and you get everything that is owed to you without enduring too much further trauma.
I wonder whether your stepfather has subjected your elderly mother, presumably over 75, to financial and emotional abuse too. He's obviously a younger man to have a disabled son in foster care. Perhaps your mother's wellbeing ought to be mentioned to the police when you meet with them.
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Hi @ripped_off_by_mother just wanted to check in, see how you're doing. I hope Tuesday went ok for you.
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My step brother is now in a home and hopefully safe. "Mother" and stepfather are working in colusion. The police didn't bother turning up, and rang her directly after I asked him to hold back until I'd got all my "ducks in order". Now they are forwarned and could potentially shift the money. She has splintered the family, though I have managed to reconnect with my sister and a niece. I believe I am under safeguarding status, but don't know how to access the service. Hopefully my( pretty ineffectual) support worker will turn up tomorrow with the right documentation that'll allow me to open an account. Unfortunately my payments are on hold untill I'm able to transfer the money so Molly and I are sharing my food. Please, people…be wary. If I can help anyone in a similar position, please email me {removed personal information}
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Hi @ripped_off_by_mother it sounds really tough at the moment, I'm really sorry. I hope that your meeting today goes ok. Please mention the food situation with them as they might be able to help with some temporary support whilst things are being moved.
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My "support worker" was supposed to help me open an account, but, not for the first time, has pulled a sickey. I had enough so I went above his head. I'm not sure if they're placating me or they mean to do something. I don't want the man to lose his job, but if he's as incompetent with others as he is with me he shouldn't be doing it. He also holds the paperwork I need to open said account. I won't know much more until Monday. Btw I did receive a food voucher… can't afford the taxi to get there and back. It runs out next week. Honestly people be wary and vigilant… there are plenty of people out there who'll scam you if you're not paying attention. If I can help anyone with some of the pitfalls please don't hesitate to ask. I hope I can point you in the right direction.
PS stuff penny for the guy... Let's do penny for the politician. Just something to think about 😉
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