Not in the Christmas Cheer

PollyPick
PollyPick Online Community Member Posts: 38 Contributor
in Everyday life

Hello All - Been a very long time since a chat - it's been a simply awful year and I cannot believe what has happened - being the new girl in the area I was befriended by my neighbour next door, it was lovely to have someone to talk too after so long being alone BUT by the Autumn of this year she had fleeced as much as she could from in as I turned out my storage then because a couple she knew had the landlords come down on them for the way they live my neighbour (her exact words) 'I feel I have betrayed a friend in talking to you (meaning Me)' and promptly closed the door in my face and have ignored and avoided me since - and as usual I posted everyone (except my neighbour) a christmas card only unlike last year I have absolutely no response - I cannot believe I spent 10 years fighting to be near my other son over here to come to this unhappy situation - I am now looking for a swap as I feel there is already too much unhappiness in the world to have to live in a community that is so narrow minded and ill-mannered if not showing how illiterate they are.My son tells me not to bother with it all, just ignore them but when you've done nothing to warrant this attitude its not very nice especially when you don't really know anyone;my disabled son who was hoping to settle here now also wants to go and find some happiness elsewhere - I cannot express just how I feel but I am not in the 'silly season mood' as I usually am, in fact I feel sick to the heart of me for answers that will never come!😐️

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  • JD_INCINERATOR
    JD_INCINERATOR Online Community Member Posts: 70 Empowering
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/140594/not-in-the-christmas-cheer

    I understand how it feels when people don't reciprocate. It's an awful thing, but people have their own problems and they may not care for someone who they've never met or spoken to before, even if you give them a kind gesture. The world we live in today isn't what it was 20 plus years ago, it's far more corrupt than ever before. However, I think there are many people out there who share your values, and those are the people you need to align with.

  • Mary_Scope
    Mary_Scope Posts: 3,213 Scope Online Community Children and Family Specialists

    Hi @PollyPick

    I’m really sorry you’ve had to deal with this. It sounds incredibly upsetting to be treated that way and it's very understandable that you feel the way you do and not feeling christmassy.
    I really hope in time that you and your sons are able to find a place and people that bring you more peace and kindness 😊

  • Trevor_PIP
    Trevor_PIP Online Community Member Posts: 1,173 Trailblazing
    edited December 16

    @PollyPick on the Christmas cards, there is still time for cards to arrive, I only have one to date. Plenty of time for deliveries.

    I can't see your neighbour has affected the Christmas cards either.

    Have you tried to sort out this issue with the neighbour as clearly you have done nothing wrong? I know it is not pleasant, but could save you a lot off stress. If you have a phone nunber, call her.

    Don't let it ruin your Christmas with your son, enjoy your time together!!

  • Yani09
    Yani09 Online Community Member Posts: 45 Contributor

    You should smile that you have spread some cheer and goodwill.

    Worry not that you haven’t received.. enjoy being you.

    Not sure what has happened that meant your friend stopped talking to you.. but, if your conscience is clear then move on and don’t let bitterness bring you down.

    Smile that you strive to be friendly.


    Best wishes!

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