Getting through today

Jane315STARX
Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 1,016 Championing
in Everyday life

Hoping today passes quickly as my son doesn't want to get out of bed like yesterday.This is not how I wanted my life to be like

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  • JennieWren
    JennieWren Online Community Member Posts: 74 Empowering

    It’s really hard when those were living with don’t want to join in, or if they do they let you know fully well they’re not enjoying it. My daughter went through this in her early-mid teens. She’s was diagnosed with autism at about 19, and adhd the other week. Saying she could stay in pjs all day helped and getting her involved and responsible for elements of the meal and activities has also helped as she’s got older. In fact her and her boyfriend still came around last night to make cookies and agree her jobs for today. Her boyfriend has now offered to help cook next year. If that fails perhaps there’s friends/neighbours/family you could pop in and see - if only for a few minutes or if not a community event you can join. Our friends in Oxford told us about a fab one run there.

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 1,016 Championing

    Don't have any family or friends

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 1,016 Championing

    He is still currently in bed so im just going write today off and focus on something else.Ive tried my very best.I have presents for him etc prepared Christmas dinner etc but there really isn't anything else I can do

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 8,721 Championing

    Its so hard jane when there teenagers god when my daughter got her first boyfriend she was running from home to meet him slamming doors sobbing when he didnt meet her or call her aurging with me you can only do so much I hope you have best day you can

  • Biblioklept
    Biblioklept Online Community Member Posts: 423 Pioneering

    Let him take the day however he needs @Jane315STARX but use that time to let yourself be kind to yourself. Do what you need or want for the day too, you might find he ends up joining you when you’re having fun yourself. Let him know what you’re up to and that he’s welcome to join any time and then just leave him to it ❤️ remember your needs are important too xx

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 1,016 Championing

    Thank you all.hope you all enjoy your days X

  • Chris75_
    Chris75_ Online Community Member Posts: 4,240 Connected
    edited December 25
  • Milsean
    Milsean Scope Member Posts: 5 Connected

    @Jane315STARX Have a “you” day Jane. Please be kind to yourself. We cannot dictate what other people want to do. Smile and do things you enjoy. When your son is ready he will join in. Love and hugs to you all. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day for you all ❤️.

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 1,016 Championing

    @Milsean thankyou im just watching tv

  • bookrabbit
    bookrabbit Online Community Member Posts: 256 Empowering
    edited December 25

    My son had years like that. But today has been lovely. Just us but he has been really considerate and chose to spend time sitting with me and even suggested we are downstairs instead of separately in our rooms as we usually do. And he got the dinner out of the oven and put it out and then brought me min. A few years ago I couldn't have imagined this happening. I haven't been well and he is really stepping up. He is 32 now.

    Things do get better. Not much in my life has been the way I would have chosen but today was nice.

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