Overwelmed
I feel so powerless with everything that is happening in the world i feel i know to much i cant understand why there is so much evil in this world im finding it hard to hold in googling mps who i feel are kind to express all these feelings but ive managed not to email them ive limited my social media but i feel so uneasy i cannot rest ive always beem one for justice fairness and everyday you see or hear something so horrific its soul destroying small talk seems so minor for me life feels very different
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Good morning @Catherine21.
It's really easy to feel that way, especially at the moment. I think especially when you care deeply for other people and about fairness and justice, it can feel incredibly overwhelming to look at everything happening in the world.
One thing I think is important is to bring your focus to things you can control, rather than all the big things that you can't.
It doesn't mean not caring but protecting your own wellbeing. You know how they say in aeroplanes that you have to sort your own oxygen mask first? It's sort of the same as that.
Limiting social media sounds like a good choice, maybe taking a break from news and spending time doing things you find comforting, or seeking out positive news and things might help you rest and reset a little.
Do you get any help with your feelings? It can be good to talk to someone like a counsellor who won't reinforce your worries or feelings of overwhelm.
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Thankyou yes im on waiting list for therapy and speak to psyctrist i just been diag with cptsd which makes alot of sense to me but doesnt help me feeling something bads going to happen its really draining i keep spying out the window a cars been parked outside for days im ti scared to put the rubbish out and with bank checks im too scared to spend money its horrible living this way somedays worse than others
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I know how you feel. It's horrible out there.
I think the trick is to find something good to focus on. I was getting very upset about not being able to get out anymore because of my deteriorating mobility on top of my social anxiety so I have started focusing on my plants and bought lots more for my bedroom since I spend the majority of my time in bed as there isn't a downstairs toilet so I can't sit downstairs. Now I look out at the world through fronds. It has helped my mood tremendously. They say green has a positive effect on mood and I can certainly testify as to the truth of that. It gives me gentle activities to do and things to learn as well. I don't worry about spending money on plants as I can truthfully say it's therapy. (Not that we have to justify our spending. It's only spending to deliberately reduce savings in order to claim benefits where you couldn't otherwise that can be penalised.)
I catch myself and deliberately turn my attention when I start focusing on the negative. I try to do a mindfulness thing with the news and just let it wash over me. I can't do anything about it so I don't let it start spinning my mind up into problem solving mode.
I also learn languages to keep my mind busy. My French is coming along quite nicely these days.
These ideas might not appeal to you but hopefully you get the idea. A positive distraction or two is the answer.
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Wow thats so good yes my daughter loves her plants i did do the garden last year got great joy from that learning french very impressive i just get so paranoid and people think being on benefits a life of riley far from it i hate it i am very grateful but i hate living in fear whats the easiest plant to grow indoors
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Catherine21, it's very unlikely the DWP would be sending out cars to spy on people, also you can spend your money on whatever you want, even gamble it away. They just don't want you making money from some kind of job without declaring it, even if it's just buying and selling things online for a profit, or going over the savings threshold without declaring it.
Like bookrabbit said try and switch your focus to more positive things, whatever TV show is playing in your head most of the time is what will mainly influence how you feel.
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Thankyou ross and bookrabbit i really appricate your advice
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Unfortunately Catherine21 the media can best sell adverts if their TV shows are frightening and upsetting. That's what people respond to most and that's how these companies make money. By attracting our interest.
As others have written above and Bing Crosby and The Andrews Sisters so often sang:
You've got to ac-cent-tchu-ate the positive
E-lim-i-nate the negative
Latch on to the affirmative
Don't mess with Mr. In-Between
You've got to spread joy up to the maximum
Bring gloom down to the minimum...
In my experience the world is full of interesting distractions.
I don't watch them so can only share search results, but at the very least these positive news channels exist:
Many others will too.
Good luck, IMHO things beyond our control shouldn't concern us.
😺
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I can relate to how you feel @Catherine21 Sometimes I want to get off social media and the news in general and just bury myself in the tiny bubble of my life. Other times, I feel I have a responsibility to engage with the outside world and speak up when witnessing all the bad things that have been happening. It's not easy on one's mental health.
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Ah love i love this !! Thankyou i will look at this now thankyou
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