If you're Autistic/Neurodiverse, how often do you have meltdowns?
Personally I've just had quite a big one this morning, I was on a rant to Dad, who has Alzheimer's, about various issues in my offline life of late, and he just keeps telling me to shut up because I have a loud voice due to profound hearing loss, and he knows I've been deaf since August 1984 at the age of 8 and a bit so nearly 42 years.
Anyway, don't go into detail if it's personal but do you guys ever have meltdowns?
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I think I would if I hadn't been traumatised in childhood. I won't go into details, but it was an abusive environment and having a meltdown simply wasn't an option. Me and my siblings were barely tolerated as we were. So I learnt to hold everything in and have a quiet meltdown on my own, if that makes sense. Depression, suicidal thoughts etc., but never a loud word. Although sometimes I feel like screaming out of anger or frustration, I simply can't do it. Even decades later and having been through therapy, the most I am able to do is crying. Preferably alone. 😐️
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It depends for me, I try not to do anything that stresses me out and know my limits. I also live alone and pretty much distance myself away from everyone. I find being alone is blissful, and could never imagine spending too much time with another human being for too long, I would have meltdowns daily otherwise.
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Indeed, there's been more than one time this past few weeks where I could burst into tears, I just don't let myself.
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There's a risk whenever I encounter people on the bus, on a busy pavement or in a supermarket. I'm fine on my own. Since my diagnosis, I have developed strategies to manage my sensory disorders but only to a degree.
SheffieldMan, may I ask why you don't use a hearing aid?
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I've worn hearing aids since I was 8 mate, it'll be 42 years in August.
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He hasn't used his phone for years because he too wears hearing aids, the man was 77 last October.
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Also, it was an in person discussion.
I've been Home this weekend, under normal circumstances I wouldn't have come back till tomorrow morning, but due to my meltdown this morning I've had to come back.
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I'm very sure I'm not autistic but I think there is a very decent chance I have ADHD. I think I've only had one meltdown in my life. What is more common for me are shutdowns, but even these are quite rare as I try to live a life that avoids things which trigger this.
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It depends how much stress I am exposed to.
My mother caused me a lot of frustration which resulted in a number of meltdowns as she too accused me of shouting. Only it was due to her hearing loss not mine and her refusal to use a hearing aid. My normal voice is very quiet and so I had to raise it for her to hear. And when I get stressed I cry which she also interpreted as shouting. Of course the unfairness of her dismissal of my attempts to communicate only made things worse and they would spiral until I really did shout at her.
Away from her and from my sister I am far less likely to have a meltdown. Only my neighbours have triggered them lately. Both sides hate me and say and do the most hurtful things that I can't trust myself to speak to them.
My normal reaction is to run away so it doesn't happen very often, only when I get cornered. It makes everything worse of course:(
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Ive agreed to clean my dads 3 times a week otherwise he will get kicked out this is so so so hard for me so i wear sunglasses all the time yes big oversized ones i feel hides my face so my dad decides to pass comment not in a nice way in a mocking way about how stupid i look with these on no one triggers my anger like he does deffo brings out my innerchild he has a habit of saying are you listening to me over and over and hes done this for a lifetime oneweek i lost it called him everything under the sun then im left with great shame lm the same as ross said i really isolate myself from the outside world as was the same when working anything that involves people and being around them on a everyday basic triggers me ive got in so much trouble over the years especially in work when i got to the point of not masking anymore being overwelmed is such an umderstatement i feel like i phsyically want to escape my body like disapear in that moment of time and the great shame after it aint no joke living like this
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I don't think I do, I have some shut downs but they're rare especially as an adult, I guess it depends what you mean by meltdown?? What does a meltdown look like to you?
Also my dad has dementia too, please be gentle with yours, him telling you to shut up may not be anything about you or even about the volume you're talking at, it could be to do with what he has going on himself, dementia/alzheimers is incredibly scary and I can't imagine how hard it would be to lose sense of your own mind and sense of self and then have someone ranting at you ❤️
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