Please help. My employer may dismiss me and I don’t know what to do
Hello all,
I started having seizures in November 2020 and a series of investigations including ECG, CT, MRI, MRA and 24/72 hour tape revealed not much. But around the time I became scared as they thought I may have an aneurysm and it turned out it wasn’t. Anyway they eventually diagnosed my seizures as “non epileptic seizures” and classed as “non epileptic attack disorder”.
I started having seizures in November 2020 and a series of investigations including ECG, CT, MRI, MRA and 24/72 hour tape revealed not much. But around the time I became scared as they thought I may have an aneurysm and it turned out it wasn’t. Anyway they eventually diagnosed my seizures as “non epileptic seizures” and classed as “non epileptic attack disorder”.
Consequently my long term depression and anxiety had suddenly become much worse as a result. It’s been 15 months since I was in work and I just can’t seem to “pull myself together”. I developed agoraphobia and panic as a result of the seizures. I won’t leave the house now unless I am accompanied by my partner or someone I know.
My old job involved working nights and it was generally a quite toxic environment. I have been offered the chance for a phased return but my depression has gotten really severe lately with suicidal thoughts and now the neighbourhood mental health team are involved. There may be other roles but I’m concerned that I’ve lost my independence and finding it really tough to do things by myself.
I am still awaiting neuropsychiatry for the seizures. I currently claim ESA, UC and PIP as my SSP ran out. I am finding the thought of returning extremely daunting and I’m not even sure I’m going to be allowed to return now given the length of time I’ve been off.
My doctor thinks I may have Aspergers and has sent me to psychiatry.
I don’t know what to do. I think they’re going to dismiss me tbh but will this be the end of work life for me? Should I focus on getting truly better first before I consider work. Only I know how I feel I guess.
I don’t know what to do. I think they’re going to dismiss me tbh but will this be the end of work life for me? Should I focus on getting truly better first before I consider work. Only I know how I feel I guess.
Help please
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Hi and welcome to the community
The important thing is to get yourself better and worrying about work won't help
You need to discuss your situation with your employer and what your options are as also they can't be expected to keep your job open forever
They have offered adjustment with phased return but if you can't do this then they need to look at other options and this could be medical dismissal
It doesn't mean you can't work again if they dismissal you and may be the best for you so you cab concentrate on your recovery0 -
I feel like a total and utter failure. My depression, as a man, is making me think why can’t I pull myself together? I’m getting suicidal thoughts and getting help with this soon but I just can’t help but thinking I’m a failure!1
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They are helping by sending me to the neighbourhood mental health team but I’m not sure what’s going to make me better. My body feels a mess physically from the Non-Epileptic stuff, depression and anxiety. I feel like with a mental health condition I should be able to work. I don’t know why I’m putting so much pressure on myself.0
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They are contacting me next Tuesday / Wednesday to see what help they can offer me in terms of either a psychologist etcI keep saying to my friend it’s not just mental. The physical symptoms I experience are awful.0
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Hey @sierrafox
Thank you so much for making this thread and speaking so honestly about how you feel and what you are going through, and I'm happy to see that you have received supportive responses from other community members already.
I am about to send you an email from community@scope.org.uk to see if we can support you at all, please feel free to give it a read and get back to us
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Hello all,
Will I ever be able to use them as a reference? If they dismiss on capability?I need to know this but I don’t want to ring them and ask, I’m too ashamed.0 -
Hi @sierrafox I've had a look on Citizens Advice, which says:
If you're worried about getting a bad reference, you can ask your old employer for a basic reference - this just gives your job title, salary and dates of employment. Many employers do this, so it won't look odd to a new employer.
Read more about your right to a fair and accurate reference on GOV.UK.
I hope this helps to answer your question, and do ask if anything else comes up.0 -
I’m not sure if that is a yes or no from Citizens Advice0
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Sorry it's not clear @sierrafox
You can ask for a basic reference from an employer, which doesn't go into detail about any of the reasons you might have left, like a dismissal.
So the answer is yes, just ask them for a basic reference.
Does that make sense now? 0 -
Oh that’s good. So I could call them and ask for a basic reference even if I was dismissed for capability.0
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@sierrafox That's right yes, glad I could help 0
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Hi again
You can only be given a bad reference if it is factual and has evidence eg bad absence record can only state facts
Most companies now just give a basic reference as Alex has suggested
However some companies that request a reference will ask soecific questions but it is whatever the company that you were employed at policy on reference as to what they include
Hope this makes sense0 -
Hello @sierrafox. A warm welcome to you on the community. I am very sorry to hear the issues you are having with your mental health and work. Please don’t be so hard on yourself, it can be difficult to continue working with so many health issues. Perhaps it is better that you focus on recovering before going back to work. It sounds as though you were unhappy in your last job, and your employer was not very helpful. Although, I think you can still ask them for a Reference when you apply for another job in the future.
You might like to have a look at these resources:
https://www.scope.org.uk/advice-and-support/managing-stress-at-work/
Best wishes0 -
Hi @sierrafox how have things been going since last week?0
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Hi,
I still feel really awful and down at the moment. Still getting the thoughts but accessing the right services.Not convinced I’ll ever find a job ever again though.0 -
Hi @sierrafox
If your company are thinking about dismissing you because of your health they have to give you a copy of their procedures for doing so.
The next step is you will be given an assessment by an occupational health provider paid for by your company and they will look at your role and any adjustments that could possibly be made or any other roles in the company that you could possibly do. If they agree you will not be able to return to work in the foreseeable future (usually within the next 3-6 months) they will recommend medical retirement - https://www.scope.org.uk/advice-and-support/stopping-work-ill-health-retirement/
If your company agree (most do) you will receive a compensation package as set out in your employment contract and any reference you get in future will say you retired on medical advice not that you were sacked or dismissed.
I have just been through this with my employer and this was my experience, hope this helps0 -
@Jean Eveleigh that 8snt quire correct ill.health retirement is only an option if the person has a pension in place and pension provider all have different rules and criteria for taking early retirement
Also taking pension early will affect entitlement to future benefits and isn't always the best option for everyone0
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