Sen co observing son in nursery

sparkles555
sparkles555 Online Community Member Posts: 2 Listener
edited October 2022 in Autism and neurodiversity
I’ve been told by the nursery teacher that she has concerns about my 4 year old son. We spoke about them briefly a few weeks ago and I asked outright was she hinting at autism. The answer was yes but it was too soon to say apparently and she also can’t diagnose. She mentioned his inability to share, transition from 1 activity to another, twang in his accent, covering his ears a lot, wants everything his own way etc. They haven’t elaborated on this. They want him observed by sen co and then she’s going to also sit in on our ‘meeting’ with the teacher to discuss. I never had any concerns at home. He has his quirks and is an only child. Very affectionate, sociable, friendly. I just don’t know what to think. I’m not dismissing them as being wrong but I don’t see it as very obvious if there is something. He’s not even been attending 2 full months yet. Any advice or experience would be greatly appreciated. 

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  • Cher_Alumni
    Cher_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 5,714 Championing
    @sparkles555 Hello and a warm welcome to our online community. I'm really glad you found us.

    I can imagine it's been quite a shock to hear this given it's still early days in terms of how long your lovely boy has been attending nursery.  I'd most definitely ask to speak with the SENCo if you have any particular worries playing on your mind, just to get that clarity and peace of mind.

    In terms of autism, it sounds like they are being pro-active in identifying any particular needs based on the observations they described to you. A diagnosis, if that's the outcome, would open up the possibility of accessing support which you might want to pursue later down the line. 

    As autism is such a broad diagnosis too, it might be they highlight just a couple of areas where support could be given for your son to lead an otherwise completely conventional life so try not to worry too much - although I know it's hard as a mum.

    This National Autistic Society webpage has good advice on pre-diagnosis support for parents and care-givers so do give it a little read the next time you're sat down with a cuppa (with a 4 year old I imagine those times are scarce  :D )

    Take care and please let us know how you both get on.
  • sparkles555
    sparkles555 Online Community Member Posts: 2 Listener
    Thank you very much for your reply. I will let you know 😊 @Cher_Scope
  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 7,922 Championing
    You are welcome @sparkles555. It is the very least you deserve.

    Please don't hesitate to let us know if we can do anything else to help. We are all here for you  :)

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