What keeps you going? / Why do you carry on?

66Mustang
66Mustang Online Community Member Posts: 14,991 Championing
in Coffee lounge

For me it’s hope for the future. If I was guaranteed to forever stay the same as I am now I will admit I would end my life but I have a glimmer of hope that things will get better and that I will have a good life in the future. That is why I carry on through the struggles today.


Interested to hear from others.

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  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 62,943 Championing
    Hi @66Mustang hope your ok, I have children altho grown up, also grandchildren. They all keep me going.
    Plus I always think someone is worse off then me. Even tho I have limitations and endless health problems.  I try make most of what I can
  • OverlyAnxious
    OverlyAnxious Online Community Member Posts: 4,155 Championing
    I don't have the physical or mental strength to end my own life.  It's been the main desire for me for the past 20 years or so.  But I just can't take the risk of ending up still alive and in an even worse situation.  (I do know a few people who failed attempts).  If there was a simple, sure-fire way of doing it, I wouldn't still be here now.
  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Online Community Member Posts: 14,991 Championing
    @Sandy_123 hi I am fine thanks just wondering what keeps people going, no sinister reason behind my post, thanks for sharing :) yep it's true to think that there is also someone worse off than me, that's a good one. Does remind me though of a quote from Basil in Faulty Towers "If there is someone worse off than me I'd love to meet him, I could do with a laugh".

    @OverlyAnxious yep I have been in that exact situation myself for several years when I was at the rock bottom, with no hope about the future. The only thing that stopped me was I was too weak and scared - which ultimately was a good thing! Like you if I had an easy way to do it back then I wouldn't be here now. Don't you have any hope for things to come though, even if they are years ahead? Things can go on and on the same way for years and then something can change almost immediately or within days.
  • WelshBlue
    WelshBlue Online Community Member Posts: 770 Championing
    But for a knock on the door interrupting the pills and a bottle of vodka laid in front of me a few years ago, I wouldn't be annoying people on here.  Didn't want to die as such, but didn't know how to live as I was

    I've had an absolutely rubbish week with pain and flashbacks, but now my head is at a place where I can take it.  Tears ...  a great relief source

    Family and the resources spent by the NHS on me keep me from stepping off.

    Realising how lucky I am in so many ways compared to so many who haven't had/ got the help and support

    ... also sense of humour.  When I stop laughing at myself, then I'm really in trouble

    Be kind to yourself folks, you've got this far when the odds are against you <hug>

    I'm going to live until I'm 150 ... if there is a god ... he's having too much fun with me to let me get away early doors

  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Online Community Member Posts: 14,991 Championing
    @WelshBlue love the sense of humour.

    I can relate if I'm honest, never take anything seriously, including myself.

    Sometimes that has got me into trouble though!

    But I can honestly say I have never cracked a joke that I wouldn't have cracked against me, and have never intentionally offended anyone.
  • Richard_Scope
    Richard_Scope Posts: 3,740 Cerebral Palsy Network
    Bloody-mindedness and spite  :D:D
  • rustledjimm
    rustledjimm Online Community Member Posts: 91 Empowering
    I've had a lot of positive changes recently (besides that energy bill thing), but mostly my partner and very recently my cat.

    Trying to work with my therapist to also have the motivation to make my life better just for myself too but I have always put others close to me ahead of myself. They keep me going.
  • WelshBlue
    WelshBlue Online Community Member Posts: 770 Championing
    Richard_Scope said:
    Bloody-mindedness and spite  :D:D
    This sums it up ... brilliant answer.  Love it

    @66Mustang ... you wouldn't believe how often my mouth has got me into trouble.  Definitely don't engage my brain at times ... but never any malice meant.  Some people take it in the way it's meant, others not so much.  Not so bad now it's not in a pub setting lol

    I think a friend of my daughter summed me up the first time we met - "S***** has told me you're slightly weird with no filter ... I just think you're ever so mad "  :o

    Like you I don't take myself seriously ... life is hard enough.  You come across as a good guy  ;)

    @rustledjimm ... good luck moving forward with the therapy, I'm like you and put everyone before myself.
    It's weird how we can care for others so easily but not ourselves ... I've just got to believe I'm worth it
  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,868 Championing
    It is really good to talk .
  • CATP
    CATP Online Community Member Posts: 86 Contributor
    its my cat, mr shadow who keeps me going every day-threw the thick and thin,im strokinh him on my knee right now actualy,hes trying to make his way onto my hot laptop.
    i look at my boy and i know straight away,as hard as life can get,i cant leave him on his own with no human-this has always been the thought patern i try and jump to when im really low.
    i also find DJing or listening to pete tongs shows on BBC sounds helpful and having my pictorial schedule done every day at 7am helps.
  • NewPip
    NewPip Online Community Member Posts: 6 Listener
    just keep going strong, things will change, I was down many times due to my long health problems, and I was very close to death... Since then I am like a newborn, I go out more often, and many times I just take a bus I don't even know where I am going just to get out of the house..be strong and look after yourself 

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