Feeling Lonely and Sad

SunflowerValley · January 3

I am feeling alone and sad. It feels like nobody cares about me except my parents. My little sister barely talks or wants to talk to me, my older sister can't be bothered to talk to me because she has fell out with my mum, my older brother never comes to see me even though he keeps saying he will but if he does then he doesn't really talk to me. Then my other brother comes for a few minutes every couple days which is nice. Some of my friends only talk to me when it suits them or to talk to me about my problems. Although I have a friend who is good to me but I wish we spent more time together.

I get very bored because I only have one arm and struggle to find things to occupy me and nobody cares enough to do things with me. My parents try but they are busy a lot which I understand.

I just feel like I am not doing anything with my life. I feel lost, lonely, and sad a lot.

Sandy_123 · January 3

Hi @SunflowerValley do you have any hobbies that you can join groups and meet others with same interests.

Channi · January 3

Hello I am also the same as you because my brother and sister both live away from me and I have to keep myself busy either playing games or watching movies and I don’t go out much

Stickman · January 3

Have you tried contacting The Sweet Project or Red Cross? If they can't help ask if they can put you in touch with someone who can

Bluebell21 · January 3

Hi @SunflowerValley I am sorry you are feeling down at the moment.

Your Local Council should have a list of clubs and social events in your area.

January and February can be a difficult time when it is dark and cold and Christmas and New Year are over.

We are always here to chat to or play the games in the games den.

Please take care.

SunflowerValley · January 3

Hi @Sandy_123, I like to colour because it is relaxing to me. And I also love to read because I forget about everything I feel and everything going on.

Hi @Channi, I literally spend my whole life at the minute playing games whilst binge watching the same 5 things over and over again. I only get to go out mostly once a week when I don't go to college which I will finish in May.

Hi @Stickman, I haven't but I hate talking to my friends and family because I don't want them to feel sad and I don't want to be a burden.

quinceorange24 · January 3

Hi, @SunflowerValley I'm sorry you feel alone.

I don't have any friends for reasons I don't understand because I really care about people and I'd be a good friend.

I don't see my brother that much and I do we don't really talk, so I know how you feel.

SAW.

SunflowerValley · January 3

Hi @Bluebell21, I could try once I move in 4 months, I'm moving 30 minutes away from where I'm living now and will have to go to a different council anyway.

Thank you, I will have a look at the games den.

Take care.

Strawberry1 · January 3

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SunflowerValley · January 3

Hi @quinceorange24, same here. I love my family and my only real friend but my family barely interacts with me and my friend is busy a lot and has some problems that she is working through. None of my sibling barely talk to me, even the one I live with.

SunflowerValley · January 3

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/962521#Comment_962521

Thank you @Strawberry1 💜

Holly_Scope · January 3

Hi @SunflowerValley I'm really sorry to read this. I know it's not always the easiest conversation, but have you tried to open up to your family about how your feeling? I had a similar situation with one of my brothers who moved away, but found opening up (as scary as it can be) helps.

I can see a few members have suggested hobbies or joining groups. Is there any hobbies that you're interest in and could look in to a little more? 🙂

All the best,

Holly.

Strawberry1 · January 3

Your very welcome @SunflowerValley . Sorry we lost touch

JF7891 · January 3

While I don't have that specific disability, I do know, If you are into gaming, there are joysticks which unlike a gamepad can be controlled with one hand including reaction-based games. Also try reddit, it's better moderated and specific than facebook, and allows for post-and-response unlike live chat, but still with notifications etc. Check your friends for youtube channel recommendations, they are always a highlight in my same lonely day (I also have only got a one-minute friend from the Philippines and my dad, sometimes my bro, but they both live in Germany). Recently also I have been getting full on into nostalgia mode, so I just submerge myself with as much nostalgia as possible, and there is a ton! For example I rediscovered the cartoon show "Duck Tales" recently, it was such a feel-good show, that totally vapourised my loneliness (A bonus tip: Watch your favourite show while having a bath on your phone e.g. in Plex or other streaming service, and whistle the theme song along!).

My youtube channel recommendations are (and these are inclusive diverse non-nasty sweet feel-good channels):

For Gaming: Pixel Game Squad, Retro Rick, Arkansas Picker, TechDweeb, John Riggs, Mr. Sujano, MetalJesusRocks

For Arcade, Plush and Toys: Toy Federation, Froggy Flips, Slot Time, Arcade Matt, Plush Time Wins, Plush Time Extra, Cute Cuddly Cris, Angel & Cris,

For Picking and Reselling: Commonwealth Picker, ADHDave, Picking and Punching, Arkansas Picker, The Georgia Picker, Bearded Thrift Machine, Florida Pickers, Ralli Roots, Froggy Flips, Pro Picker, Resale Rabbit, Romy's Retro.

And if I feel especially craving cosiness and intimacy, I watch ASMR youtube channels while reading the news or go through emails, shop online or do something else relaxing.

My favourite ASMR channels are: Mad P ASMR, thep00lguy ML, Rea Moon ASMR, Mountain Rug Cleaning, World Restoration, Gentle Whispering ASMR, TysyTube Restoration, Cool Again Restoration, Grandpa Amu, Chiropractic Medicine, LunaLux ASMR,

And if I need cute animals, uplifting, more focused or funny videos: KOTSUMET, Lazy DIY, Star Rekt, Gaming Historian, TA Outdoors, Felix Immler, Fire Department Chronicles, Really Late Reviews, Si-finds Thames Mudlarking, Zucker&Jagdwurst, Curiosity Incorporated, Lindsay Kelly, Linus Tech Tips, My Mate Vince, Eats Unknown, Beard Meats Food

And if all fails take a nap! hihi, but really: The Guardian recently published some amazing strategies to beat the loneliness / winter blues (I have these tabs open on my PC at all times): https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2025/jan/01/101-ways-healthier-happier-five-minutes

teuchterlass · January 3

Hi SunflowerValley

How about getting out and about in your community volunteering. No point sitting at home doing nothing and feeling sorry for yourself, grab the positivity you have now and do something.

Know several folk missing a limb or two, this frequently makes them more determined to get out and participate in all things, it's up to you.

I met young girl with one arm when she came to volunteer at charity shop after having fairly hard time at school. She left to have baby 15 months later, now has 3 children and it's amazing how she's coping and working part time.

When we first met i suggest joining local community group, choir needed more voices, happily goes to choir practices and shows as this is her time away from children when family/partner look after children. She enjoys getting out socialising and singing. It's given her much more confidence, friends and a better singing voice

Please remember you are not judged by your limbs, your ability to join and help your family, friends and community

SunflowerValley · January 3

Hi @Holly_Scope, I don't want to disapoint them or make them sad. I feel like a burden to them. I have took away there freedom when I was younger. They have barely had 5 nights out on their own in 10 years. The only hobbies that I can really do on my own is colouring and reading.

@Strawberry1 It's okay, I haven't really been on here since we last spoke. I never know what to talk about since I don't really do anything except watch tv all day everyday.

Hi @JF7891, thank you. I will try your suggestions.

Hi @teuchterlass, thank you. I will look into volunteering near my new house when I move. That's good, I'm glad the young girl found her happiness again.

durhamjaide2001 · January 3

Im so sorry you feel like that

Stickman · January 3

I see my friends once a month, and I only have three, but when I do see them, we always have something to talk about. I also go to a bar once a month to just chill out and have a coffee and chat with the staff. I've also joined a Meetup group, but I've only been to the club once. It's up to me to make the effort to go to these places. No-one can do it for you - it has to come from you, go for it.

SunflowerValley · January 4

Hi @Stickman, sorry for the late reply. When I do go out with my friend I never want it to end because I enjoy it so much and it's the only time I really get to go out. However, I go out with my PA once a week for 5 hours and it's my favourite day because I get to go out. Although I think it ends when I turn 18 in 6 months but hopefully it will turn into carers so that they can look after me but I will also be able to go out whenever I want which means I can go out for a smaller length of time but more days so I can be less bored on another day. If that makes sense.

Stickman · January 4

Good, keep a positive mind and keep looking for things to do and clubs to join. I don't know if you're in Birmingham, but look for the "Connect2Directory" service in your area.

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