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Hi, I'm jbuckrogers! My husband recently had a stroke, what do I do?

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jbuckrogers
jbuckrogers Community member Posts: 5 Listener
My hubby had stroke 0th jan - i don't know what i don't know? If that makes any sense? Never had any one contact with this before

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  • jbuckrogers
    jbuckrogers Community member Posts: 5 Listener
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    Sorry need to check before i post - he had stroke 10th Jan
  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,130 Disability Gamechanger
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    Hi @jbuckrogers - & welcome to the community. I'm sorry your husband has suffered a stroke; is he now recovering at home? It's a lot to take onboard, & it's only early days. Does he have any support with ongoing physiotherapy?
    As well as having members here who understand about strokes, having either had one themselves or supporting a partner, there's a lot of good info that can be found here: https://www.stroke.org.uk/  which I hope you may find helpful.

  • jbuckrogers
    jbuckrogers Community member Posts: 5 Listener
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    Thank you - he's still in hospital - has 3rd nerve palsy left eye which not open yet? Was about to be transferred to rehab then caught covid! Now staying isolation room for 10 days before he can go on list to be moved to rehab hospital!
  • durhamjaide2001
    durhamjaide2001 Community Co-Production Group, Scope Member Posts: 10,884 Disability Gamechanger
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    Thank you - he's still in hospital - has 3rd nerve palsy left eye which not open yet? Was about to be transferred to rehab then caught covid! Now staying isolation room for 10 days before he can go on list to be moved to rehab hospital!
    Oh I'm really sorry to hear this 
  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 7,983 Disability Gamechanger
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    This sounds really difficult for you and your hubby @jbuckrogers. I hope the hospital are looking after your hubby! 

    How are you managing with all of this at the moment? It can be really difficult to see our loved ones struggle. 

    We are all here for you and listening to you if you would like to share more with us. In the meantime, a resource you might find helpful is the Stroke Association UK

    Please don't hesitate to let us know if there's anything else we can do to support you. In the meantime, take care and we will look forward to hopefully hearing from you again soon  :)
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  • Cher_Alumni
    Cher_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 5,741 Disability Gamechanger
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    @jbuckrogers Hello from me and a warm welcome, I'm sorry it's under such difficult circumstances but I hope we can help.

    You must be feeling a little shell-shocked with it all, how are you coping? Do you have much support from friends or family? 

    Also, although the delay must be frustrating, that he is will be getting transferred to a rehab unit is positive news. Once there, I imagine he would have access to a specialist nurse and/or physiotherapy team who will be able to provide the best possible support. Do you have any particular worries or concerns? If so, make a note so you can discuss them at the next care meeting. 

    If we can help in any way, please just let us know. Also, I've moved your thread to our Physical and neurological impairments category and amended the title to help others find your thread and provide words of comfort. 

    Wishing you both the very best. Take it one day at a time  <3
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  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,130 Disability Gamechanger
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    I'm sorry your husband's move to rehab has been delayed & hope he recovers well from having Covid; the last thing he needed! Do take good care of yourself so you are in the best position to keep on supporting him, & do write down any questions that come to mind as Cher advised.
    Please let us know how you're both getting on, thank you.
  • Lou67
    Lou67 Community member Posts: 7,616 Disability Gamechanger
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    @jbuckrogers

    Hi I’m so sorry to hear about your husband, it must’ve been a terrible shock for you.
    I hope he gets to rehab as soon as he’s better from covid.

    And as @chiarieds sd remember to look after you aswell.

    Take care ❤️
  • jbuckrogers
    jbuckrogers Community member Posts: 5 Listener
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    Hubby being transferred for rehab followin stroke- i am struggling to drive as i have Peripheral Vascular Disease and am wtg imminent op to clear veins - is there any help i can get - hospital he going to is 2 bus rides away i cld only go by mobility scooter
  • SueHeath
    SueHeath Community member Posts: 12,420 Disability Gamechanger
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    Morning @jbuckrogers nice to meet you, i am sorry to read about things that's going on in your life at the moment.
    I can't help with any proper advice, so i'm hoping our in the know members can give you practical support.
    Have you got any friends or family that may be able to help you out with lifts. I know how you feel about not being able to visit easily, my own Father in Law is now in a Nursing Home, but it's miles away from were any of the family live and we have to rely on getting to see him via car. It does make us feel guilty that we can't visit as much as we would like and did when he lived in his own place, if you tell the rehab about the difficulty you are having they will be very understanding and you can phone to check on his progress and they may also help by getting you to talk to him or see him via video link. 
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 52,535 Disability Gamechanger
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    Hi @jbuckrogers sorry read about your husband, do you have any schemes in your area like in mine we have ring and ride service, that picks you up at the door and drops you off and visa versa. Might be worth checking. 
  • jbuckrogers
    jbuckrogers Community member Posts: 5 Listener
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    Thanks i'll check this out
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 52,535 Disability Gamechanger
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  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 7,983 Disability Gamechanger
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    Have you been able to check it out yet @jbuckrogers? If so, I am wondering if you would like to share a little more with us about how you have found it.

    Please don't hesitate to let us know if we can do anything else to support you  :)
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