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Hi, my name is Colettewilcox!

Colettewilcox Community member Posts: 2 Listener
edited April 2023 in Start here and say hello!
I have a son with learning disabilities who is living at home.  I have retired and getting old.


  • JustPete
    JustPete Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 303 Pioneering
    Hi @Colettewilcox and welcome to this community.
    In my opinion this is one of the hardest realities facing parents; the aging process that effects both parent and children along with 'how will my children cope' when I'm no longer here'.  This is true for parents of disabled & non-disabled children.  

    I know my mother is no longer able to assist in all my needs - she tries, and equally I try to make sure I don't need her to do those things.

    There are practical elements in your post -  For these you may need to consider contacting Social Services : Adult Care Services if you are struggling to assist your son NOW; you may receive help NOW.

    I have no idea the level of disability that your son has, but it might be worth considering writing a Lasting Power of Attorney.  I'm listing two links
    LP12 Make and register your lasting power of attorney: a guide (web version) - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)
    How to be an attorney - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)

    There are emotional elements to your post also - I am sure there will be local groups to discuss & share experiences. If you would like me to find out more please reply and add @JustPete in your post so I get to see it.

    I hope this helps a little, but please do not hesitate to post again.

    Sending you best wishes
    I am a Scope Community Volunteer Adviser with knowledge of "life"!  Lived experience including employing personal assistants, being gay, sport & leisure inclusion & participation, mental health issues.  

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  • Adrian_Scope
    Adrian_Scope Posts: 11,110 Scope online community team
    A warm welcome to the community @Colettewilcox. How are you and your son getting on? 
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