school curriculum to teach boys how to respect women

Sandy_123

From a debate from the  jeremy vine show, this is the new proposal,  be intresting on your thoughts

vikingqueen

         All children should be taught to respect everyone. It starts and finishes with parents.

Sandy_123

Should be taught at home by parents

I agree with parenting 1st, the debate this morning was that some parents are not teaching it. I do it with my grandchildren. 

vikingqueen

 Many years ago my son decided to disrespect his then girlfriend... I ripped him to pieces in front of all his friends and made sure whoever else was listening I wasn't happy. To this day he doesn't know why he did it because he knew it was wrong but he never did it again. His then girlfriend is now his wife and mother to my 2 beautiful grandchildren so he must have grovelled to her and learnt his lesson. 

OverlyAnxious

Everyone should be taught to respect everyone else.  If the parents don't respect everyone else, they're not going to teach that to their kids.  So I'd say some school input would be a good idea as well.

Sandy_123

Should be taught at home by parents

@vikingqueen that's nice to read that they got married with children 

woodbine

Should be taught at home by parents

It's something that for both genders should be taught at home by parents setting a good example, thats how I learnt to respect any and every one

Sandy_123

Should be taught at home by parents

@OverlyAnxious yes everyone should be taught it 
Its difficult really, if parents have no intentions of teaching it then maybe, like you say schools should teach on it

woodbine

Should be taught at home by parents

Sadly schools have very little (if any) spare room in the teaching day

daresbury1978

Should be both genders

How the wider society operates should offer clear messages about respect for women. Sadly, there is still a confusion about messages - some good but far too many inadequate. 

WelshBlue

Should be both genders

Having kids who have worked as a Paramedic and a Teacher ... both genders, need lessons

Respect in general seems to be lacking in some.  My daughter the Paramedic gets more verbal and physical abuse from young women/ girls, my son the ex-Teacher got more abuse from young boys  

Some parents bring their kids up, some drag their kids up ... some will have kids with respect, some will be lil' bar stewards ... it doesn't always follow the one's 'bringing' their kids up will have the respectful ones?

Interesting topic.  Not sure what the best way forward is

Sandy_123

Should be taught at home by parents

I personally think there is a lot of disrespect in general. 

WelshBlue

Should be both genders

Sandy_123 said:

I personally think there is a lot of disrespect in general. 

Agreed.  Across all ages.  I always hold doors open - usually the younger generation always say thanks. 50% of older don't. The olders look at me like I'm going to mug them. 

Sandy_123

Should be taught at home by parents

I find it the other way round, was pushing my grandaughter in the pram and was a narrow bit, the younger guys didn't stop, but an older guy did and said cmon love. Lol
I always say thanks if someone holds the door etc

66Mustang

Should be both genders

Nice to see Mysandry is alive and well.

I don't support Mysogny or Mysandry.

But I also don't support the argument that all women are perfect and all men are evil.

I know a male who is a victim of abuse by his girlfriend. This is just as serious as a man abusing a woman. Yet many would just laugh at him.

WelshBlue

Should be both genders

66Mustang said:

I know a male who is a victim of abuse by his girlfriend. This is just as serious as a man abusing a woman. Yet many would just laugh at him.

The one patient who has stuck in my daughters mind from her training in Liverpool was being called out to a male domestic abuse victim ... he knew she would end up really hurting him or worse, but couldn't bring himself to leave her.  Broke my heart when she told me she held him and they both sobbed together. Tragic

I try to treat others as I like to be treated ... disrespect me once, no second chance.  Treat me well and I'd give you the shirt off my back

There's good and bad in society - young, middle, old/ male, female, other genders and from all walks of life.  At the age of 56 I still can't decide if respect stems from nature or nurture.  Whether some of us just have it, as common decency

As for schools teaching it ... may be hard when some of the parents have zero respect for the teachers, let alone the kids ?

daresbury1978

Should be both genders

I am sure that abuse can be directed towards both males and females by their partners though I think that the statistics suggest that it is women who are most likely to be abused by their male partners or other males. None of us is perfect of course. I think we must avoid seeing respect as deserved on narrow "moral" grounds i.e. that only the perfectly behaved deserve respect.

Beaver79

Should be taught at home by parents

Should be taught at home by parents.

Sandy_123

Should be taught at home by parents

In an ideal world it should be, I would of thought anyway

WelshBlue

Should be both genders

Sandy_123 said:

In an ideal world it should be

Ideally.  Sadly too many parents are not setting boundaries ?  Finding it funny to see their kids swearing etc in social settings 

I live in a small town of 2,500 people and see it getting worse.  Parents kicking off if someone approaches them about their child's behaviour.  Bullying.  Assaults.  The police being next to useless, actively trying to get people not to press charges because a child will have a record

It's illegal to smack a child, but a slap on the hand never hurt mine.  I couldn't wish for more well adjusted, kind kids.  Both take the time to give a meal and sit with homeless people just for a chat as an example

Sandy_123

Should be taught at home by parents

Yes my kids are the same @WelshBlue my daughter cycled 53 miles to Brighton for homeless charity few years ago.