What stands in the way of me getting a new boyfriend?

Splatmate24

What stands in my way of getting a new boyfriend. I used to be able to get boyfriends very easily when I was in college, but now that I have graduated from college, it's much more difficult. As a loyal and trustworthy person, I don't cheat. Has learnt to never trust men that are immature, idiotic, and cheaters. I been cheated on previous relationship. Ruin friendship. I can't keep women as friends when I was in college and some women just used me and try temp my previous boyfriend to cheat on me and they were successful and i didn't break up with any previous boyfriend who was toxic. I had 9 ex boyfriends in college and my last one was 10 ex boyfriends but he changed into a toxic person and we broke up through text since he was toxic. That has be my experience. i can one flaw that is jealous with some women. Aside from that, I have a respectable, open-minded smile and tons of men from online dating have praised me for being cute or beautiful. so is not my looks that is not issue. is because men are too intimidated to or think that I'm already taken. Also, I look younger than my actual age because of my baby face. Despite trying some social events and groups, nobody was interested in a relationship. The other two men that I did meet already had a girlfriend and met my cheater ex boyfriend that I did not have an interest in, but he still has an interest in me. I stopped going to. that why i only been using online dating since i can't get it in real life. I'm getting really getting annoyed  at men. i can get men to meet before but after that it stops and nothing really happens.

L_Volunteer

I can hear you are not finding this easy @Splatmate24 It is really important to focus on taking care of yourself and keeping up with your interests 

Lou67

@Splatmate24
Hi I hope you’re good, I think if you just stop trying to find a boyfriend you might just find someone when you are least expecting it.
It seems you are really focused on looking and sometimes that can come across as desperate to men or woman. 

I’m not saying you are desperate but it can seem that way.
I wish you well and really hope you find what you’re looking for.


Take care ❤️

Superbetty

Hi @Splatmate24, I know it is very hard for you, when you want to be with someone. Nothing stands in a way. No need to look for the reason, that is life. I have friends who met someone when they were 18, married and happy together still. I met love of my life when I was 41, after thinking that I will be single for the rest of my life. Obviously I don't wish you waiting until you will be 41:-)I am just saying, don't look for the reason, there is no reason. You mentioned 9 boyfriends, I though, gosh, that is a lot:-)Maybe have a chat with yourself and have a think, how would you like your boyfriend to be? I am not saying that ideal one, but the one you simply would be happy with. If you meet someone and you have doubts straightaway, just have a think, is he worth my time? As sometimes people are with others just to not be alone, but then they are getting hurt.My point is, I decided I know who I want to be with, and I didn't lower my standards, and I did met him:-)It is just not wort wasting time and effort on men who you know deep down will not be good for you. Quality, not quantity, always:-)
I know it is hard when you are young and just want to be loved, I do know. 
And believe me, most of us went though ups and downs in our love lives:-)
I wish you all the best and hopefully you will find your prince soon:-)

Splatmate24

@Lou67. i hasn't be crosss any desperate women or men when comes to dating and just be i be cross men that seem to be immature no matter what the age . if they younger men  then they going to be immature but i thought a older men should know but wasn't truth and he was seem to be immature after meeting . aswell of being ghost . the last men that i did meetup in Liverpool was 33 year old but still was a bit immature after the meetup with stopped texting and I'm assuming he is not interested and i started texting someone new . i been ok but hasn't be looking anyway since I'm holiday .

Kalps

i wish i could find a GF although not really been looking anywhere. Asides from my lifelong injury im also in active recovery from Alcohol.....4yrs 3 months clean last month. Mentally im still quite fragile/vulnerable so quite scared of commitment. Any advice of where to look?? I dont work and get U.C & PIP. Be nice to have someone to go out with without any huge demands etc etc. 

L_Volunteer

I would definitely say to take care of yourself first @Kalps. You will find your person when you are ready and able. In the meantime, you might benefit from any community trips. This means you can go out with friends and neighbours etc without necessarily having to date anyone (unless that comes up and you wish to!) 

L_Volunteer

Too much immaturity - it is wider than you think as you have demonstrated @Splatmate24 how is your holiday going at the moment? 

Splatmate24

@L_Volunteer is was ok bit apart one thing that i saw on Facebook that one thing that men that was 33 year old got int a relationship that i has mention on my another question on scope . the girl seem to be older them him also and seem immature .

darthflipus

The thing that stands in your way of getting a Boyfriend is My age LOL

L_Volunteer

Seems like you are coming across a lot of immaturity at the moment @splatmate24 Hopefully, you will have better luck soon.

@darthflipus - Now now! That isn't entirely appropriate  we don't encourage relationships (especially outside of the community) here on the community

Splatmate24

@L_Volunteer i noticed some learning disabilities one that i did met or saw some were immature . it doesn't matter about age that comes to dating and be taking a bit of break from online dating and be texting one guy that is going very slow .  the first men was 33 and second one was 31 . 31 men wasn't immature at all .

L_Volunteer

@Splatmate24 How is it currently going with this guy and how was the break? It sounds like you have come across a lot of immaturity, unfortunately  Hopefully, you will have some better luck soon or at least some more time for yourself 

@tony70 - Thank you for supporting @Splatmate24. It is people like you who make Scope's community the friendly and supportive place it is. Though, we do not encourage dating between community members 

Splatmate24

@L_Volunteer the current guy seem to be okay but wouldn't know until meetup but is seem to be my mum seem to has issue with current guy that I only one that been messaging is okay . taking break has be okay but some reason when now I'm just looking for friend on here and not date on here and kept user don't seem to get that and try to arrange a meetup anyone . that I don't know them very well or might be too older . I had seen more men seem to messaging me about dating and relationship even know is not  encourage   I said no to all them seem to be very older men . only saw one women question about dating here .